stace79 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Okay, maybe I'm just too much of a planner, but I doubt it. My friends have always said I'm pretty spontaneous. But is it so much to ask that guys ask you on and set up actual dates? For instance, a guy I'm talking to wanted to get together with me, so he suggested we go to dinner. He said Wednesday was good for him, so I said I would be free after work, around 6:30 pm. (This is today, by the way.) So it's now almost noon here. We have texted back & forth this week chatting, but I haven't heard from him yet today that we're on for tonight. I sort of want to text to confirm... but I don't want to be anal or pushy either. This seems to be a common thing nowadays -- that guys just randomly say "hey, wanna meet for a drink?" last minute without much regard for my schedule or time. I don't mind spontaneously meeting up with friends & such, but when you're first meeting & getting to know one another, wouldn't it be the polite thing to arrange a firm time/date/location so as to respect each other's schedule??
Leia Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Why do you guys text each other?! I can't stand sending texts back and forth when it comes to someone I'm getting to know. He should be able to set up an actual date if he were really interested.
Author stace79 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Why do you guys text each other?! I can't stand sending texts back and forth when it comes to someone I'm getting to know. He should be able to set up an actual date if he were really interested. We text because he's off while I'm working, and vice versa, plus he went back to college so he has classes. But the point was we set up tonight's dinner to actually sit and talk and get to know one another better. We met at our gym a long time ago and have just never connected on a time/place. We texted yesterday, but I haven't heard from him re: tonight so I'm not sure if we're still meeting or not. It's not just this guy though -- it seems to be most guys nowadays. "Real" dates just don't seem to happen anymore, where the guy asks you out, picks you up & brings you home. I miss it.
Satisfaction Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Just ask anyway! If he is put off by that then probably wasn't worth the time. sorry this post is late, you may have already gone out with him.
Author stace79 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Just ask anyway! If he is put off by that then probably wasn't worth the time. sorry this post is late, you may have already gone out with him. Nope you're good -- we aren't supposed to meet for another five hours. I called and left him a voicemail. If he doesn't return my call, he's toast.
Author stace79 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 I guess he is toast then? Actually, no... he texted AND called to apologize. He'd taken a nap and had his phone off. He then offered to pick me up instead of meeting me, and we had a great night out. I even got a nice good night kiss. I don't think he's The One or anything, but it was a great time and we are planning to see each other again!
OnlyJake Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Actually, no... he texted AND called to apologize. He'd taken a nap and had his phone off. He then offered to pick me up instead of meeting me, and we had a great night out. I even got a nice good night kiss. I don't think he's The One or anything, but it was a great time and we are planning to see each other again! whoop whoop!
counterman Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 That is so sweet! I'm so happy for you! I would normally set up a date a week ahead, judging by whatever time she is free and when I am free. If a girl did ask me to confirm whether I am still up for the date, then that will be fine with me. I am always up for it unless some thing happens and I have to cancel. My response would be something along the lines of "of course we're still on for tonight!;)" But, in saying that, if I set up the date and everything and told her I'll be there, should I text her or call her to confirm a date a day before or something?
Author stace79 Posted January 29, 2010 Author Posted January 29, 2010 That is so sweet! I'm so happy for you! I would normally set up a date a week ahead, judging by whatever time she is free and when I am free. If a girl did ask me to confirm whether I am still up for the date, then that will be fine with me. I am always up for it unless some thing happens and I have to cancel. My response would be something along the lines of "of course we're still on for tonight!;)" But, in saying that, if I set up the date and everything and told her I'll be there, should I text her or call her to confirm a date a day before or something? I guess it isn't required. I just like to do that, because I am really busy and have few nights where I don't have other things I could be doing. I'm always afraid of someone cancelling last minute. I guess I'm also just used to confirming things because of my job. For example, the date on Wed was at 6:30 pm, so I was just going to stay at work longer and go straight from the office to meet him. Had he cancelled at the last minute, I would be upset b/c I could have just gone home earlier and headed to the gym or something. Not a bad thing to stay at work and get more done, but it just would have shown a lack of respect for my time, ya know?
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