Men Psyche

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[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So here is one more attempt to understand ‘Men psychology’. Here goes my story:[/sIZE][/FONT]

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[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I am in Indian girl working in the US. On my last vacation to India my parents introduced me to this guy (who also works in the US and was in India for vacation). We met couple of times. However, In each of those meetings our conversation was mostly casual. He did not bother to ask me anything remotely personal and considering that, I also limited the number of personal questions I asked him ( I did ask some but then I realized there was no point taking 5 steps forward when the other party isn’t even taking 2 steps forward). We did though have a good time and it was very evident that we had similar perspectives of most things and shared lots of commonalities. Anyhow, we came back to the US and again met each other (He visited me once for a weekend and then I visited him for a weekend), things seemed to be OK (although we still did not talk a lot of personal stuff). We also emailed /talked over the phone although the frequency of it was pretty low(once a week or so).I thought of it as ‘getting to know each other’ / ‘trying to befriend each other’ phase. I know it’s hard to open up to a stranger, but if two people are trying to consider each other from a matrimonial perspective, there has to be some effort, no?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]After my return from his city, I emailed him and he responded back. A week later I messaged him and he responded to that as well. However, He hasn’t been initiating ANY contact. I thought maybe I should give him a chance to do that and I did not call/email/message for 3 weeks, but nothing happened. He did not initiate ANY form of communication. After 3 weeks, I messaged him and he replied to it immediately. We exchanged couple of messages and he conveyed that he tried calling me but my phone always went to voice mail (which I know was a lie, my phone has been functioning perfectly & everyone except him has been able to message/call me).Anyhow, he suggested we talk that evening and I said OK. He did not call that evening.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So, his NOT INITIATING contact makes me feel that he isn’t interested but is being courteous to reply to my mails/messages and that’s fine with me. He doesn’t seem to be shy so I don’t think it’s that.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Now, my problem is I don’t know what I should do:[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]1)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I don’t want to be the ONLY one INITIATING contact.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]2)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I genuinely like him to a certain extent and would want to get to know him better.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]3)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]A part of me worries that he might be hiding something big (maybe he is Gay), I haven’t ever been with a man before and don’t know how to find out. But I have never seen him checking me out / He has never tried to touch me –not even casually / He does not ooze any ‘manliness’ though he is not feminine either.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]4)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]I am sure it wasn’t him being busy that he couldn’t call .He has always said that he has a very easy/comfortable 10-5 job.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]For now, I am thinking I will stay quiet and see if he initiates contact and if he doesn’t then maybe I should just forget about it. I am tired of being the only one trying to talk/open up/make an effort. I don’t expect him to woo me or anything (since this is a traditional arranged thingy) but at least a 50% effort is not too much to expect![/sIZE][/FONT]

Guy, why do you behave this way ?

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Are you from India? Do you really expect an Indian man behaive as an American? If he is from India, I would expect him to have totally different core beliefs about sexual relationships with Indian girls.