outside perspective

[chloe1408]

basically, i just need to know if im a fool for hoping still.

my ex left 6 weeks ago for someone else (someone younger may i add)

we went NC for a while and for the last two weeks he's been messaging me insults saying i'm a slut etc etc and that i cheated (when i didnt)

we were together a year and a bit btw.

 

i also got a random email last week saying "i love you" but nothing ever came of it.

 

i'm guessing this is a typical, the grass is greener type situation.

i have been moving on and i'm at the point where i've met someone else.

i've decided not to go for it because i still have feelings for my ex.

but i just want to know, what is the reality of my ex coming back?

[counterman]

I am going to be frank with you. Messaging you and calling you a slut and cheater makes me consider why you would even want him back. It is just disrespectful and I hope you have been staying NC strong. In saying that, we all make mistakes after we break-up with someone but that doesn't justify his actions.

 

Continue to live your life normally, hang out with you friends and family, exercise, do the things you want to do, and keep meeting new people. You made a very mature decision by not going through with dating that person because you still have feelings for your ex.

 

Stick to NC. No one knows if your ex is going to come back. You also have to bear in mind that if he does come back, does he really deserve you again? I don't know what happened between the two of you but some things must have caused you two to split, and by having him back, will all those issues really be solved? REALLY? These are things you have to ask yourself. Be cynical. He could come back to you and admit that he still loves you and say all these things about changing, and you know what happens when you take him back? Same thing as last time.

 

Just try to put the thoughts of him coming back out of your mind and focus on yourself for now. By doing so, you'll leave yourself better for the future, whether he comes back or not.