Lady_M Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I have recently made contact with someone I knew from long ago. There was always a very strong attraction between us but I was aware he was married so kept my distance. We are now talking and seeing each other a lot and his behavious is flirty... I am not sure if he has been divorced in the meantime but am afraid an overt question would be too forward. If he still is married and just being friendly then I will look like the one who is stepping across the line.
stillafool Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with asking him: "Are you still married?" If he says yes, ask "How is your wife?", "Do you have kids?". You need to ask so you will know whether to pursue this or stop him in his tracks. If he is flirting with you and you have feelings for him, it is up to YOU to protect your heart and reputation and NOT get involved with a married man.
bentnotbroken Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 How long have you been married? How is your wife? So how is married life treating you? Are you happy?( that one will tell you where it is heading almost immediately). And are you still married? Pick one.
Jeff1962 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Ask him straight out if he is still married. There is nothing wrong with this. If you are afraid to ask him this then you'd better stay away.
fooled once Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Just ask him. You have no problem being flirty and seeing him, why can't you just ask him? I mean, if you plan on sleeping with him, wouldn't you ask him to wear a condom?
Fallen Angel Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Umm.. I'm going to have to go with "Hey, are you still married?" *shrug* Finally, a question I can't possibly give the wrong answer to!!! WHOOOOOO HOOOOOOO!!!
jwi71 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Umm.. I'm going to have to go with "Hey, are you still married?" *shrug* Finally, a question I can't possibly give the wrong answer to!!! WHOOOOOO HOOOOOOO!!! No, you're wrong.
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I have recently made contact with someone I knew from long ago. There was always a very strong attraction between us but I was aware he was married so kept my distance. We are now talking and seeing each other a lot and his behavious is flirty... I am not sure if he has been divorced in the meantime but am afraid an overt question would be too forward. If he still is married and just being friendly then I will look like the one who is stepping across the line. How long ago? Just ask how his wife and family are.
MizzBlue72 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I would just flat out ask him if he is married. If he is, run the other way!!
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 IF married - RUN. IF Separated - RUN IF married but having issues, problems in the marriage - RUN. IF No, but on the way to a divorce -Find a mutual friend who can verify this. IF Divorced - Find a mutual friend who can verify this. I don't think it's rude or out of place, or crossing the lines at all by asking. If HE finds it odd, then there's something wrong with him. It's just an honest question mature adults should ask when interested in someone else, to find out if they are infact available.
NoIDidn't Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I agree with the "just ask him flat out" crowd. If he gets offended, that's on him. This is information to protect you from doing something you aren't interested in doing, or at least doing it with the facts.
atlnay Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I have recently made contact with someone I knew from long ago. There was always a very strong attraction between us but I was aware he was married so kept my distance. We are now talking and seeing each other a lot and his behavious is flirty... I am not sure if he has been divorced in the meantime but am afraid an overt question would be too forward. If he still is married and just being friendly then I will look like the one who is stepping across the line. Nothing forward about being direct. Especially since you've known him long ago. I was chatting with the guy who makes the sandwiches at my job, having flirted a bit with him for the first time last week, and as he's bragging how good he can cook, I tossed back, "and you're not married", and he said no and we kept chatting. So, if I can be that "forward" with a perfect stranger, surely you can with an old friend from long ago
Fallen Angel Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 No, you're wrong. LMAO.. you know, that is just asking to be stabbed in the eyeball with my plastic fork damnit!!!
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