Woman totally blew me off at the gym - I'm done. Going to join Superficial America

[Johnny M]

What was wrong is that you approached her all wrong. I can't believe you asked which month it was. What you should have done was say so what were you reading in popular mechanics I love that magazine. And after that see how she reacted it would have been a much better conversation goer than what you said which was just plain retarded.

He may not have approached her in the most suave manner, but it wasn't a sleazy pickup line, so if she thought he was the least bit attractive, she would have responded in some way.

 

Judging from her reaction, she didn't find OpenGL even remotely attractive.

[C-i-C-u]

He may not have approached her in the most suave manner, but it wasn't a sleazy pickup line, so if she thought he was the least bit attractive, she would have responded in some way.

 

Judging from her reaction, she didn't find OpenGL even remotely attractive.

No no anad no. It doesn't matter what your approach is the question he asked reaks of someone with little convo skills and experience. He should have camed up with something better.

[USMCHokie]

Also, if I waited for women to smile at me before I approached them, I wouldn't be able to approach a woman for the rest of my life. Horrible advice. Women don't look at short and unattractive men, unless they are looking at them in disgust.

 

I think most of you need to pull your head out of the sand and realize the world we are living in.

 

 

Yes, exactly. This is the world we live in. Natural selection at its finest. The only caveat is that we as humans have the ability to learn and adapt to the environment at a MUCH higher rate than other living things. Those who fail to adapt or choose not to (which is obviously your problem) are destined to be removed from the system.

 

Tough love, but I'd say good riddance. All of us here have tried and tried to make you see the problem with your way of thinking and offer you advice on how to tackle your fundamental issues. That guidance has been met with excuses and a generally piss-poor attitude.

 

If you really are that unattractive (or whatever you problem is), then that's great, that's one less ugly baby that would have come into this world...

[Zeegagge]

Maybe a lot of you guys haven't been following my threads but here has how the past two years of my life have gone, in sequential order:

 

1. Day game.

2. Online game.

3. Back to day game.

4. Night club game.

 

See, you need to add 'friend game' to that list, see my post, directly above yours. It really works because it gives a girl a chance to see some of your good qualities before they have a chance to decide if they want to get to know you better or not. With that I should add, when you're out in your social world you ALWAYS have to project positive self image. This is true whether you're in front of dating potential or not. Word gets around about people. You always have to dress your best, have your personality turned up to 7 or 8 (I didnt say 10 because then you become annoying) have a good sense of humor and just be cool. Be confident. See the girl at the gym knew absolutely nothing about you other than what you look like. You have to win them over with more than that before putting them in a pressure situation. If done right there will be no pressure at all!

[paddington bear]

Excellent (if misdirected) advice.

 

have I understood that link correctly...that basically some people should not multiply

[Angel1111]

Her reaction was totally uncalled for, but it did tell you something about her character right away - she has no manners and is unkind.

[Bejita463]

have I understood that link correctly...that basically some people should not multiply

 

That is one possible conclusion, I suppose. What I was suggesting however, is that his hypothesis that the problem is everyone else rather than himself is the more unlikely of the two possibilities by far.

[OpenGL]

Yes, exactly. This is the world we live in. Natural selection at its finest. The only caveat is that we as humans have the ability to learn and adapt to the environment at a MUCH higher rate than other living things. Those who fail to adapt or choose not to (which is obviously your problem) are destined to be removed from the system.

 

Tough love, but I'd say good riddance. All of us here have tried and tried to make you see the problem with your way of thinking and offer you advice on how to tackle your fundamental issues. That guidance has been met with excuses and a generally piss-poor attitude.

 

If you really are that unattractive (or whatever you problem is), then that's great, that's one less ugly baby that would have come into this world...

 

Complete and utter bull. I don't buy the biology/genetics factor at all that women like to throw around on here. Women in this country are absolutely horrible at chosen their mates and are completely media driven, not biologically driven. My genes are excellent. I'm smart, adaptive, and have a naturally athletic body. I have proven myself (from a biological standpoint) many times over. And no, being one standard deviation below the mean height would not make or break you in the wild or in the world we live in today.

 

If women were so biologically driven to pick good mates, we wouldn't have so many single mothers (by them picking bad providers, bad boys who ditch them when they get pregnant), high divorce rate, so many losers and criminals, and general drains on society.

 

And yes my piss poor attitude is why women who know nothing about me treat me like garbage, while scum who abuse women and are in and out of jail every few months bang women left and right Get real.

[jw90063]

Maybe he has some sort of horrific body odor that turns away women.

[Johnny M]

No no anad no. It doesn't matter what your approach is the question he asked reaks of someone with little convo skills and experience. He should have camed up with something better.

If a girl is interested in you, it doesn't matter what you say as long as it's not offensive. You even can start talking about the weather.

[OpenGL]

See, you need to add 'friend game' to that list, see my post, directly above yours. It really works because it gives a girl a chance to see some of your good qualities before they have a chance to decide if they want to get to know you better or not. With that I should add, when you're out in your social world you ALWAYS have to project positive self image. This is true whether you're in front of dating potential or not. Word gets around about people. You always have to dress your best, have your personality turned up to 7 or 8 (I didnt say 10 because then you become annoying) have a good sense of humor and just be cool. Be confident. See the girl at the gym knew absolutely nothing about you other than what you look like. You have to win them over with more than that before putting them in a pressure situation. If done right there will be no pressure at all!

 

Tried this, although my social network was never extremely large. This never worked for me. As I stated before I had/have a lot of acquaintances and mutual friends that are women, but as soon as I even present the possibility of something, I get "pre-rejected" or out right rejected.

[USMCHokie]

Complete and utter bull. I don't buy the biology/genetics factor at all that women like to throw around on here. Women in this country are absolutely horrible at chosen their mates and are completely media driven, not biologically driven. My genes are excellent. I'm smart, adaptive, and have a naturally athletic body. I have proven myself (from a biological standpoint) many times over. And no, being one standard deviation below the mean height would not make or break you in the wild or in the world we live in today.

 

If women were so biologically driven to pick good mates, we wouldn't have so many single mothers (by them picking bad providers, bad boys who ditch them when they get pregnant), high divorce rate, so many losers and criminals, and general drains on society.

 

And yes my piss poor attitude is why women who know nothing about me treat me like garbage, while scum who abuse women and are in and out of jail every few months bang women left and right Get real.

 

 

Not talking about biology here. I'm talking about sociology. Adapting so you can succeed in our sociological environment. The strange thing about us humans is that we can almost overcome those basic biological principles.

 

Yes, you have identified how our modern society works, ad naseum... But after having done so, you'd rather sit on the sidelines because you've given up on what you feel is a hopeless situation. If that's the way you want to go about your life, have at it. It doesn't hurt me, anyone on LS, or anyone in society.

 

That is the "natural selection" I'm talking about. By removing yourself from the system, you have removed one more weak link in our social structure. Kudos.

[BG1985]

OpenGL, while I am not great at getting girls, I still manage to do so with SOME success. I'm not that great looking by society's standards I suppose. I'm about 5'10" (which is AVERAGE), I'm overweight (primarily a beer gut), and I'm a really hairy guy. I'm not pulling 9s or 10s by any means. However, I'm realistic about my expectations and go for girls who aren't necessarily hot but I still find them attractive. If you can pull average girls, your confidence will improve, allowing you to move up the hotness ladder. You need to quit posting on this message board, improve any deficiencies you feel you have, and go out and meet people. Get used to talking to both guys and girls alike. Improve your body language and your ability to decipher body language. I suggest you read The Definitive Book of Body Language, by Allan and Barbara Pease.

[torranceshipman]

For God's sake man...GYM ETIQUETTE. GYM ETIQUETTE!!!! You do NOT hit on a girl when she is working out - it is a huge faux pas. She was there to exercise not to get hit on by random straners (and your approach was very transparent).

 

You made a mistake: ths gym is not a bar. It is not for hooking up. I'd knock back Brad Pitt if he got in the way of my workout. Maybe some people don't know these unwritten rules but a lot of us DO.

[xpaperxcutx]

For God's sake man...GYM ETIQUETTE. GYM ETIQUETTE!!!! You do NOT hit on a girl when she is working out - it is a huge faux pas. She was there to exercise not to get hit on by random straners (and your approach was very transparent).

 

You made a mistake: ths gym is not a bar. It is not for hooking up. I'd knock back Brad Pitt if he got in the way of my workout. Maybe some people don't know these unwritten rules but a lot of us DO.

 

BRAVO!!!!

[alphamale]

Ok, I got back to the gym about 2 hours ago and I want to share my "pleasant" experience.

dude there are appropriate places to pick up chicks, the gym is not one of them. try bars or parties or singles events

[DiscoChick]

So yeah, I'm completely done. I give up, I can't beat em, so I'm joining them. This girl completely dismissed me without even getting to know ANYTHING about me or saying a word to me. Look, in today's society, we live in a plastic, superficial, media driven country and women have completely soaked it up. All women. From good looking to below average. From airhead to nerd. It doesn't matter, they all have bought into it hook line and sinker. You're not even worthy of talking to unless you're good looking

 

Here is what I plan to do to improve my looks:

 

1. Start taking steroids, get even more ripped and lean that I already am. I want to gain 20lbs and start walking around at 6% body fat on a daily basis.

 

2. Plastic Surgery to my face and get skin treatment. Make my face shape more symertical and model like with very smooth skin, sharper chin and jawline.

 

3. Go to mexico and get the heightening surgery. At least 3 inches, I think 5'10 will make me "passable". Remember I only am asking for very average women, I think most will accept 5'10.

 

4. Either wear expensive suits or a tank top everywhere. That's it. At all times I'm either going to be showing off my wealth or muscles.

 

I agree with some of the other posts. Those are huge extremes. You can't look that bad. You seem really smart. Maybe she just had the magazine to look like she was interested in mechanics, and you called her on it when you asked her that question. Do you need a hug? *hugs* Don't do such crazy things to your body for the sake of getting a woman. You're good enough, better than her.

 

You should have yelled - "Wait, are you done?? This celulite isn't going anywhere if that's your workout, bitch :rolleyes:".

 

:lmao:

 

 

Hopefully the OP gets more exposure to sensitive girls like you before he ends up on an episode of Forensic Files

 

:lmao:

[xpaperxcutx]

You can say the same thing about every other place. People go to coffee shops to drink coffee, not get hit on. People go to book stores to buy books, not get hit on. People go for a walk to get some fresh air, not get hit on. etc. etc.

 

I think the real reason why women don't like getting hit on in gyms is because they feel insecure about the way they look (sweaty, flustered, no makeup...)

 

Okay I agree with this. Yet this just proves how inappropriate asking a girl out at the gym is.

[neowulf]

OpenGL.. I've read a heap of your posts now man and the *only* think that comes across is how bitter and angry you are at life.

 

You blame women. I'm not saying you mean too, but it comes through in everything you post here.

 

You're angry life isn't rewarding you for all the work you've put in. You're angry that you feel you deserve the best, yet can't seem to obtain it. You're angry you *can't* control the outcome.

 

That's where it all comes from. The pain of the realisation that in the end, you can't control *everything*. You can't control who find you attractive. It isn't in your power. You can torture yourself till the end of time, it won't change anything.

 

As others have said, making surface changes will make little difference to the outcome. It's who you are on the inside that honestly matters and what people will pick up on.

 

I'm an average looking guy myself, but I think the longest I've ever been single was 9 months (by choice). It's *attitude* GL.. that's it.

 

I undersatnd the frustration. It's easy to smash yourself day after day at the gym.. it's *HARD* to honestly take a good long look at who you are and "deal" with the real issues.

 

I wish you luck man. You seem like a decent human being. Don't let the first negative experience drive you down. You took a risk, it didn't pan out. Keep on taking them.

 

You'll get there.

[threebyfate]

The primary reason I stopped working out at the gym and work out at home, is people in general. Whether it was some guy chatting me up or a woman, looking for a new best friend, or people in general staring, it used to annoy the crap out of me. While I'm sure there are people looking to connect with others, the gym is not the place. Most people go there to work out, especially after a full work day, rushing home afterwards to get dinner on the table within a reasonable amount of time, since you're already starving.

 

With this in mind, no wonder she glared at you and walked away. I've done it often enough, no matter what the person looked like.

 

So now, you've been rejected. Are you truly so fragile that one little rejection, where you picked one of the worst possible scenarios to try to chat some strange girl up, is going to make you go under the knife and facilitate other overly-dramatic changes to your life? Come on, get real.

[SOLACEMENT]

3. Go to mexico and get the heightening surgery. At least 3 inches, I think 5'10 will make me "passable". Remember I only am asking for very average women, I think most will accept 5'10.

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:laugh::laugh:

[tincanman99]

I dont agree with all the comments about picking someone up at the gym. The thing you need to realize is its not a bar. People are there to exercise not be picked up though some are there to do both .

 

In the last year I have dropped 40lbs and got my act together. I have always gone to the gym except for the last few years when my life went in the toilet. That being said I am a decent looking guy and have gotten very lean in the last year. My view has been and still is, I am there to exercise and have a good time not to pick people up. I have made new friends as well.

 

I think the people need to get to know you. If you become a familiar face you are a lot less threatening. People need to see you at the same time/place on a fairly consistent basis. Than a lot of the threat goes away. Remember you are there to exercise.

 

I also have a good looking female trainer that provides an instant social network. She really is a great trainer but you cant provide any better social value than working out with a hot woman trainer. Women will pay attention to you just because you are with her. And they ALL know I was her client. She was the one who whipped into shape - literally. Brutal intense workouts with a change in diet and attitude.

 

Since I lost the weight I have women come up to me point blank and tell me I look GREAT. In my entire life I have never had this happen.

 

There is also a nice side effect of this, women are now talking to me literally all the time. And they wont leave me alone either. They all talk to me and I never hit on them either. I am there to work out but am friendly.

 

I see many of them making heavy duty eye contact, checking me out and more. If freaks me out at times as I am not used to this level of attention.

 

I had one the other day tell me after doing the squats that I have hot, firm as*. If a man said this to a woman you might be ostracized but for women everything goes. I have a married and pregnant gym bunny that decided I am her new best friend, another one decided I am her friend + more. They have done this all by themselves with no encouragement from me.

 

Just change how you do it. Focus on why you are there and I think the rest will take care of itself. Dont get down on yourself. You did nothing wrong.

 

BTW, stay away from that steroid crap. It does nasty things to your body - liver and kidney damage, messes with your heart, your brain, your bones and for the finale while on the stuff your testicles will shrink and when you go off of it you will no longer have a sex drive. Dont do it, its bad news.

[Barky]

My genes are excellent.

 

Apparently the dating market is telling you otherwise.

[torranceshipman]

What the heck, nothing else is workin so go for 1-4 and then tell us how you get on

[ella23]

Okay I agree with this. Yet this just proves how inappropriate asking a girl out at the gym is.

I agree. It's not the place where I like being chatted up.