EsseQuam Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 She broke it off in October saying that she couldn't take it anymore, job stress, different locations (2 hrs by flight). We had been in a LDR for about a year and had lived in the same apartment building the prior year in Europe. Did it all, begged, pleaded, embrassed myself drunk pulled myself together and I went two full months in NC, then she wrote a Thanksgiving card, text, emails and xmas card. She had a friend that was passing away so I called to console her in December first contact from me in 2 months, but I have a heart and wanted to share my condolonces. She said that our conversation in December was "refreshing", her text before had been more or less to let me know she knew I was visiting a mutual female friend in a different city. Cards said that she would like to see me soon and that we have no reason not to be friends, NYE text about where am I and who I'm with and what I'm doing...I started to take this as her trying to get back in my life because she seemed overly concerned with it all. Consulted her good friend who even said she didn't know my ex had been doing these things and agreed it looked as though she was trying to get back. Fast forward, two weeks ago, we're texting and I ask what she's doing for the long weekend, tell her I'm heading to the City and she says "I haven't been in awhile, maybe I'll go too" convenient. Long story we end up staying together in a hotel in the city for 2 nights, no sex(dreaded time of the month), but a lot of touching, cuddling, and making out. I end up taking a train back to her place and go out to eat with her mother and her then catch a late movie with my ex. Next morning I leave to fly out to my current city, she kisses me, and says text me so I know you got in safely. WHAT IS THIS GIRL THINKING? She claims to not have missed me too much, but everything from the cards to her actions this week speak volumes differently. Am I an idiot and looking too much into this? I find the fact that she traveled to come see me a bit suspicious, only a week before her older sister had text me saying "I really hope you and my sister can make things work out"...? Is this odd behaviour, is she trying to get me back, or is this a simple ego boost? I told her I had been on a few dates in my own city with the same girl and even bumped into a great looking girl from high school over the weekend who I spoke with at good length in front of my ex. Not trying to rub it in her face, but I'm being truthful and showing her I'm quite capable of moving on.
ukguy1985 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 i would say dont get hopes up and see how it goes. its difficult to say you should go for her or dont go for her and let her know as it can either work or not work. as silly as it sounds i think we need the ability to read minds then well know for sure what to do and say . it does from her actions suggest she wants to try again.
DustySaltus Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 What was the longest period of time you went without talking to her since the breakup? I would look her right in the eye and tell her that if she is not willing to fix the issues that lead to the breakup and try again, you should not see each other anymore. Tell her that you have enough friends. For your own sanity, it's the best way to approach the situation.
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