OpenGL Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Seriously, what is with the amount of guys at the bar? I mean, every friday and saturday night the bars are litterally cramed with guys, and only guys. On a good night theres about a 70/30 ratio, on a bad night (most nights) its like 90/10. No these aren't gay bars, so don't ask. Don't you guys find it absolutely hilarious how you can be hanging out with your boys and litterally watch the OTHER groups of guys continuing to pop in every few minutes? It's like the bar is already 80/20, then you notice a group of 6 guys come in, then not 2 minutes later you see an entire horde of like 15 guys come in, then another few minutes past and you notice another group of guys trinkle in. I can't tell you how many nights I've experienced that.
Explorer Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Seriously, what is with the amount of guys at the bar? I mean, every friday and saturday night the bars are litterally cramed with guys, and only guys. On a good night theres about a 70/30 ratio, on a bad night (most nights) its like 90/10. No these aren't gay bars, so don't ask. Don't you guys find it absolutely hilarious how you can be hanging out with your boys and litterally watch the OTHER groups of guys continuing to pop in every few minutes? It's like the bar is already 80/20, then you notice a group of 6 guys come in, then not 2 minutes later you see an entire horde of like 15 guys come in, then another few minutes past and you notice another group of guys trinkle in. I can't tell you how many nights I've experienced that. Why do you go to the same bar(s) if you always know what the outcome will be? What kind of place(s) are these? In what city?
USMCHokie Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'm in DC, and it's generally a pretty good mix whereever I go. But my favorite place for bars is definitely Tampa, FL...luckily I'm headed there this weekend!
Green Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Where I live some bars are like this, but if you live in a city like I do then you will be able to find the bar all the women go to and then you will see groups of 6 women walk in and it will be an even mix.
EricaH329 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Seriously, what is with the amount of guys at the bar? I mean, every friday and saturday night the bars are litterally cramed with guys, and only guys. On a good night theres about a 70/30 ratio, on a bad night (most nights) its like 90/10. No these aren't gay bars, so don't ask. Don't you guys find it absolutely hilarious how you can be hanging out with your boys and litterally watch the OTHER groups of guys continuing to pop in every few minutes? It's like the bar is already 80/20, then you notice a group of 6 guys come in, then not 2 minutes later you see an entire horde of like 15 guys come in, then another few minutes past and you notice another group of guys trinkle in. I can't tell you how many nights I've experienced that. Damn, where are these bars?! And why have I not been to any of them?!
Woggle Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 This is why I don't hang out at singles bars too much. I shoot pool mostly at the place in my avatar. It caters to a manly crowd and doesn't try to be anything but. I am married but even if I weren't I would not use bars as a date getting place.
cognac Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Oh man you're 100% right OpenGL. Not to mention that 30% (on a good day) women at bars, atleast half are overweight or came with their boyfriend. Then that other 15% have all kinds of muscular, tall, spikey haired suntanned dudes climbing over each other to get 5 minutes of their time. Not hard to feel hopeless in such a situation:eek: Not to mention have your self-esteem in the gutter and feel hopeless about meeting women. Bar scene sucks for picking up girls. I've been to bars all over NYC and can tell you that this has been my experience with only a handful of exceptions. The only one I can think of is this bar in Manhattan that had a downstairs part that I don't think most people knew existed, I saw plenty of girls down there but of course it closes earlier than the main bar upstairs (packed with sausage).
meerkat stew Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 OP you need to go to more chichi froufrou type bars and lounges, not sports bars or plastic fern places. You will find a better ratio, but I still don't advocate bars for your situation, they are just going to reinforce negativity in you.
tami-chan Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Gosh...I need to go out more! lol... You know this is interesting. I have never gone to a bar (restaurant or to the movies) alone. The times I have gone out, I was with my SO (ex now) and I have not noticed the heavily skewed ratio.
Barky Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I agree with the OP. Where I am, near the beach, there are a ton of beautiful women walking around, jogging, walking their dogs, etc during the DAY. Then at night at the bars it's 80% dudes. So where I am if you're going to pick up girls you have to do it in the daytime.
chica_one2002 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I agree with one of the above posters. A sports bar isn't the best place to pick up women. In fact your best bet might perhaps be a nice lounge.
pantherj Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Many hot women are gold diggers. If you're looking for a bar with plenty of hot women, then you need to go to a bar in a wealthy area. A bar full of lower/middle income guys isn't going to attract many hot women. If you're talking about average looking women, then just about any bar will have a decent # of them (30%). I see groups of women on 'girls night out' trips in bars all the time. Keep in mind, women go out more when the weather is warm. January isn't exactly the best time of the year to look for women at a bar. At a bar, or anywhere, attractive single women respond mostly to muscle and money. Women who go to a bar looking for sex almost always approach the tall guy with a lot of muscle. I've seen this happen dozens of times. Even if she's not looking for sex, a woman is still most likely to approach and flirt with the big alpha male. If that's not you, then don't bother with a bar. The best way to meet single women is to make a lot of friends. The more social groups you enter, the better your chances of finding a gf. If you only have 3-4 guy friends, and those guys are single, then you're chances of finding a gf are slim imo. But let's say you have 15 guy friends, and 7 of them are dating/married. Now think of how many women those 7 women know. Let's say that each one of them knows 3 different single women. That's possible. That's 21 single women. Make it known to those 7 women that you're available, and they'll tell their single friends. If all 21 women reject the idea of dating you, then that's just sad. But it's way better than sitting in a bar with a bunch of drunk guys. If you're determined to find and attract women at a bar, then pick the best bar in your town. Nice area, well lit, non-sports themed, young crowd, nice live music. Go with friends. Have fun. If you see a woman you find attractive, then look at her eyes from time to time. She'll eventaully notice. If she looks in your eyes several times, then go over and buy her a drink. If she looks once, and only once for the night, then leave her alone. In my experience, 1 look means nothing, 3-4 means "ok come on over." If you're nervous or scared, then don't bother. You should be happy to speak with her. Crack some jokes and have fun. Show your personality. The bar scene heavily favors women. No woman in her right mind would complain about bars being full of women. We all know that to be totally false. So why go to a bar looking to meet women? There are better ways to meet women.
Explorer Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 OP, find a poopular gay guy to be friends with. They always have a bunch of hot single women hanging off their arms
Awesome Username Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you're into this sort of thing, goth or rockabilly-type bars and clubs are always teeing with women. Women LOVE to dress up, and men often times do not. If there is some sort of dress-up event, you can count on women to be there and it's not a bad place to start looking.
Mr White Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I no longer drink, but I pretty much only liked goth-industrial bars, irish pubs and strip clubs Same here, but also don't forget the shady, and probably illegal places in crumbling buildings a bad part of town with names such as "Pee Wee's Lounge":love:. Woogle is right, a bar is a place to hang out with your buddies, or, to take your gf for a quick drink before dinner or a performance.
espec10001 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I find bars boring. Certainly not a place to meet a lady. Have you ever thought that the quality women probably think the same thing about bars and guys? But guys are dumb and keep spending all that money at bars hoping to score. Shame on them!
Barky Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I find bars boring. Certainly not a place to meet a lady. Have you ever thought that the quality women probably think the same thing about bars and guys? But guys are dumb and keep spending all that money at bars hoping to score. Shame on them! So the question then is... where do all the chicks go at night? Or are they all home watching "The Bachelor?"
threebyfate Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you're looking for relationship material, the bar isn't the place. While there are girls who are relationship material, you'll find that they're in the minority. House parties, social connections and the work place, would be three avenues I would recommend to you.
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 So the question then is... where do all the chicks go at night? Or are they all home watching "The Bachelor?" Worst show ever. Depends on the day. There is a very nice park in the next city that I enjoy visiting. It is very calming and great for writing poetry. I also spend a lot of time playing video games, watching Heroes/CSI/Mystery Diagnosis/Bonanza/some kind of anime, reading or going to see a film. I agree with the OP about bars. I have been to several. They are overrun with guys. The last time I went to one, there six females present, myself included. It was not fun.
OceanTropic Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 What bars do you go to?? Fill me in!! I've never seen this. Usually its more packed with girls. I WISH bars were 90% men, thats like a dream!
USMCHokie Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you're looking for relationship material, the bar isn't the place. While there are girls who are relationship material, you'll find that they're in the minority. House parties, social connections and the work place, would be three avenues I would recommend to you. Agreed. The best way to meet new friends and potential dates is through networking of friends...friends of friends...and then friends of their friends...it's really that simple...
BG1985 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I was hanging out at a friend's place once, and one of his friends and his friend's fiancee came over to hang out. After talking with the fiancee for a while, she asks all of us if we had girlfriends. After we told her that we were single, she called some friends and told them she had some guys she wanted them to meet. Granted nothing great came of it, but these girls were pretty attractive. Try befriending some girls because some of them love to play matchmaker.
Johnny M Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Bars are terrible places for meeting girls/guys because people go there with their cliques and socialize with each. I mean, they might as well be doing the same thing in somebody's basement.
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