CaLLiEbLuE Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 What would make you go for a girl that is the polar opposite of your ex when it comes to appearance and religion, when you said, you'd never date someone outside your religion. And its not a matter of the new girl having a better personality because your friends even complained to you that they preferred your ex. Its complicated to write out; however, I find myself in the position of having questions concerning my ex's current gf. He's made it clear he's attracted to me, yet she looks nothing like me. Similar personality traits are present; moreover, he still talks to me and is flirtatious. Yet I can't for the life of me understand why he's with her when he knows how I feel about him, and his friends have even said he still has strong feelings for me. Why be with her? I'm expecting the usual "personality outranks looks;" however, my exes friends have even commented that my ex even knows I have a better personality. HELP!!!
sagetalk Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'm going to give you some great advice. Stop thinking about your ex boyfriend and go find your future boyfriend .
boogieboy Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Hes with her because she aint you. Plus, he knows hes keeping you on a string for just in case he drops her, youre right there. And youre letting him!! is he the best YOU can do?
Author CaLLiEbLuE Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I'm going to give you some great advice. Stop thinking about your ex boyfriend and go find your future boyfriend . Well now see, I've already done that. I've had other relationships, we've gone long periods of NC, and we've never stopped being in touch. My question stems from the fact that he's voiced his thoughts on me having a better personality/being more physically attractive and possessing the qualities he would want if he wanted something serious/committed; however, why stay with a girl whos nastier in personality and less attractive?
Enema Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Men like variety. If I'm dating a skinny asian with A cups - I'll end up watching porn of blondes with double d's. He just "had" someone like you, so now he wants something different. It's a combination of: - wanting variety - men having multiple types - him saying what he thought you wanted to hear at the time
sagetalk Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Well now see, I've already done that. he's voiced his thoughts on me having a better personality/being more physically attractive and possessing the qualities he would want if he wanted something serious/committed; however, why stay with a girl whos nastier in personality and less attractive? No, you have not done it. Stop thinking about your ex and find your future boyfriend. Who cares who he is dating and why. He is your ex, past, history, gone, not coming back, dropped you for another girl. You're worth is not based on what he thinks. Forget him and find someone far better, which from what you're typing here seems like it would be very easy to do.
Zeegagge Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'd find it hard to ever find anyone anything like my ex. That might be a good thing. I've had tall, skinny, thick, Asian, etc. For me it just came down to having what's around. Each one I found attractive in their own way. There's a lot of things that can add up to attraction and connection is the main one. The greatest love of my life was unattractive by society's standards and had an annoying personality to all of my friends, but somehow we connected amazingly and none of that mattered. Alternatively I've been with one of the most beautiful, stunning girls that one could imagine and we just never connected.
meerkat stew Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Men like variety. Yeah, most men don't have "types" the way women do. Most men's type is slender, toned body, good waist/hip ratio, soft skin, firm breasts and long shapely legs, nice lips, big eyes and lean, symmetrical facial features. Notice all that can be had in many skin tones, eye colors, heights and hair colors.
counterman Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yeah, he's just attracted to her. I don't even think it should matter. Every girl I date will be different from my ex, so yeah. We aren't just attracted to the one type of girls.
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