forever&always Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 It is a sticky situation, I know. And don't say, "You need to move out NOW." because I can't due to money, etc. So that isn't an option. We also swore when we moved in together that if anything happened, we would finish out the lease and not leave the other one hanging. (We BOTH have had friends that did that, and it sucks... like no other.) So anyway, back to the question... how do I do no contact if we live together? I've done my best ignoring and not talking. I don't pick up the phone when I'm at work or out, or even answer texts. But I REALLY hate having to come home, and lock myself in a room. It's not fair to me, or my dogs... whom are used to having reign of the house but are now confined to a small space with me.
dyzfunctioned Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I live in the same building as my ex...I know it's not the same but you can't really do NC. I guess I just don't talk to her unless necessary and just don't make a big deal out of it when I do. I'm just developing an "I don't give a ****" attitude, and it's taken me a bit of time but talking and seeing her isn't a big deal anymore... I still think about her all the time, but that's regardless of whether I've seen or talked to her.
sunrae Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Oh my... Big hug.... It's hard enough to have to work with someone, I couldnt imagine having to live under the same roof with them after a break up... I guess you could just only talk about apartment stuff when needed. Since you are paying your part of the rent, maybe if you're the first one home, take the spot on the couch and let them go to their room. Geez thats sucks,, again hugs...
Author forever&always Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 Thanks you guys for your replies... Sadly, I will never make it home before the now-ex... I work late every night and don't get home until 7 or so, and the ex gets home at 5:30. I've just been going to my room and doing whatever I need to do in there. Thankfully I have access to a bathroom, lol! I don't want to get bitchy and start moving everything of MINE in the common areas into my room or anything, but it really sucks that because I'm the one sacrificing and getting out of the way, I don't have access to the tv, were I to want to watch a movie or anything. The tv? Yeah, it's mine. The blu-ray? Yeah, mine, too. Last night, hoping the ex would take a hint, I came out of my room after spending several BORING hours in there and sat down and started to watch a movie. The ex didn't leave. Just sat there and watched it with me (sitting somewhere else, obviously.) I'm at my wits end... not sure how many more months until our lease is up, but I think I might have ripped out all my hair by then! Well... I guess... does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do while rotting away in my room? Seriously, this is terrible. Terrible.
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