DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 she deserves better come on now. I agree with this woman right here. Also, just don't even bother if it bugs you that much.
crazy4you Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'd say you should look inside someone before judging them, and I'm sure you've done just that. You mentioned that she was very nice and an interesting person. If you really feel that shallow about the weight issue, maybe she deserves someone nicer than you. So I'd say no to you going out with her unless you actually want to go out with her regardless of the weight issue.
cognac Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Uh oh here comes the fat girl gestapo to insult the OP. Funny when we do the same to the girls who don't like short guys we get told to shutup and deal with their "preference". The only difference between them and the OP is that the fat girl can lose the 50 lbs if she wanted to, and the OP despite not finding her that attractive for her weight, is contemplating giving her a shot. Most women don't even give their "preference" for tall guys a second thought if a guy is not towering over them .
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 , maybe she deserves someone nicer than you. yea you're probably right
Payden Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Why not, Alpha?....she sounds good, but if this is really a big obstacle for you..then don't get her hopes up for nothing. We all have our ideals.
counterman Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Well, it seems like you can't really get passed this one negative, so cut her some slack and don't go. Unless, you can see yourself accepting it after a few more dates, as her positives continue to shine through.
Phateless Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yeah so a few weeks ago i met this indian girl and then ran into her again this past sat nite. She is 29 and a lawyer. She's got a beautiful face and long black hair and wonderful personality. Problem is she could lose 50 lbs or so. We talked for a couple hours sat nite and exchanged numbers. The conversation was great and i had fun talking with her. I can tell she is very interested but i don't know if i can get over the weight issue. Everything else about her is great. I just can't see myself sleeping with someone that heavy (and being indian she's not going to give up the poontang easily even if she is heavy). We're supposed to get together this sat nite (we were drinking when we set this up) but i don't know if i should go thru with it. I'll let the LSers decide if i should go out with her or not. You should hang out with her and meet her friends. If you're not attracted to her, this has no chance. Maybe one of her friends will be cute.
carhill Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 It just occurred to me....Alpha, you're 44, right? She's 29. Think this through If you can handle her not being attracted to you, like Phateless said, maybe she has some cute friends more your style. If she is attracted, then, of course, regardless, you're a fail with her friends. I'd go on one date. If you can handle psycho-woman, you can handle this.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Theres your answer Alpha, get her addicted to your Marlboros and she doesn't mind my smoking You should hang out with her and meet her friends. If you're not attracted to her, this has no chance. Maybe one of her friends will be cute. shes new here and has no friends to speak of
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 If you can handle psycho-woman, you can handle this. *shivers* .
Explorer Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I'll let the LSers decide if i should go out with her or not. Check out some photos of her from a yr or two ago. If her weight hasn't changed since then, then the odds of her getting thinner anytime soon go way down.
carhill Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 OK... 29 same ethnicity beautiful face long dark hair lawyer new to the area doesn't mind a smoker and then 50lbs overweight Question is: Does she kiss on the first date and will your tonsils survive? There could be a torrent of passion unleashed on you. Are you ready to die with a smile on your face?
TheLoneSock Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 This thread is a prime example of how much of a deal breaker weight issues are for most guys. Just like how much of a deal breaker height issues are for most women. I've said it all along. Guys want trim ladies, and ladies want tall guys. The weight and height ratio has a more direct correlation than anything else you can compare when it comes to trade offs. It's natural selection. Or to put it more properly, sexual selection.
Art_Critic Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 OK... 29 same ethnicity beautiful face long dark hair lawyer new to the area doesn't mind a smoker and then 50lbs overweight Question is: Does she kiss on the first date and will your tonsils survive? There could be a torrent of passion unleashed on you. Are you ready to die with a smile on your face? I really like this post...
Zeegagge Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Dude, please just do it, do it for me and let us know how it goes. This sounds like my dream woman. If you don't do it give me her number and I'll do it. I like a little extra:D
tami-chan Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 alphamale...don't do it , you are not "Indian" enough ...are you not from Guyana or Trinidad? I wouldn't worry about her not getting married...her parents will arrange for her to meet a doctor...it would be a perfect union! Besides, she's new in town, she is just using you to network. I am sure you have realized that by now.
Hot Carl Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 alphamale...don't do it , you are not "Indian" enough ...are you not from Guyana or Trinidad? He's Mexican.
Citizen Erased Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 He's Mexican. He needs an Aussie chick then. We love the Mexicans.
tami-chan Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Alphamale was born and raised in the mean streets of Sri Lanka so he is Sri lankan? Why would an Indian girl want to go out with him then? Alphamale, is it true that Shahs do not marry Patels?
Green Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you find the girl hot then yes date her. I personaly would not date a fat girl, but if i found her hot then I would refer to her as thick, and say I like curvy women. I don't like women who look pregnant but are actualy just fat.
whichwayisup Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 my gut say don't do it after reading the replies Yes, but you know her and we don't. You had a fun time talking to her. Why are you afraid to take a chance? Because you might actually "like-like" her and the fact that she's chunky goes against your usual type?
Phateless Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 shes new here and has no friends to speak of She'll make friends. Having a girl around, even a semi-cute one, does wonders to attract other girls.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yes, but you know her and we don't. You had a fun time talking to her. Why are you afraid to take a chance? Because you might actually "like-like" her and the fact that she's chunky goes against your usual type? My money is on this right here. ^ . He tried to talk something about a pity scenario..he felt sorry for her or something. I don't buy it. I think that's 110% crapola there. He's too honest to pity date (yes alpha I said something nice about you) But OP seriously, you mentioned having to wait for her to give it up and contemplating having sex with her all in the same sentence. If you are really 44 do yourself a solid favor and give up the frat boy mentality already. She probably kisses better than scandofish lips. I do think you are just afraid to like her. Or afraid that you already do and not quite sure what to do about your new found feelings for someone who isn't a "skinny white chick".
chica_one2002 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I say take her out on a date or two and see if you are truly drawn to her. If you find that you're not physically and sexually attracted to her then forget about it. She could be skinny fat tall short or triangular shaped the question is: is the attraction there? You may be able to answer this after multiple exposures to her ie dates.
randall Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Why is an 'Alpha' male asking anonymous internet users for approval on whether he should date a girl or not?
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