Pizzaman81 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you really like her, you can help her lose the weight. I was in your situation once, we made dates for the gym and she lost the weight. Uh you have to be really careful on how you pull this off. You are walking on eggshells.
carhill Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Well, my first thought is, if she has nice lips and hasn't blown up your phone, she's a good prospect
Lizzie60 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 no this is more a cultural thing....she won't date outside her culture/race indeed i could drop 20 lbs but i still get a lot of dates because i'm tall, dark and handsome Even within her culture .. she could be settling.. since she can't get the 'hot' dudes... nice try Alpha..
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 the other thing is that she is new to the area (6 months) and doesn't know anyone so i sort of felt sorry for her. maybe i set up a "mercy date" without knowing it. i did have a nice buzz (i.e. beer goggles) going when i said we should get together sat nite
Hot Carl Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 That would be like dating a nice guy, Alpha.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 i think i'm just going to blow her off
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I think I've read somewhere that overweight women.. will settle with just about anyone... because they can't get the hot guys Uhm yeah, I'm pretty sure you heard that from Alpha himself .
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 i think i'm just going to blow her off I agree with this because at some point you two are going to have to start talking. That is when it will turn into a train wreck for you. I understand you don't want to tell her to lose weight just so you can date her, chances are if she doesn't lose the weight on her own accord that it will never stay off anyway. Go back to dating women who like you for your looks.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 i very rarely run into single indian chicks. we do have a solid cultural connection but is that strong enough to trump 50 lbs? i doubt it... if she was just like 30 lbs lighter i'd be on her like white on rice:lmao:
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 like brown on rice yea whatever, you know what i mean
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 i very rarely run into single indian chicks. we do have a solid cultural connection but is that strong enough to trump 50 lbs? i doubt it... if she was just like 30 lbs lighter i'd be on her like white on rice:lmao: Yes I think you two are a big mismatch. To you her looks are not up to par because of her weight, that is just how you feel and I don't think you would be able to change your feelings so there no point to be a dead horse. To her, well she sounds like the intellectual type and you aren't going to cut it there for her. Women are very mental and we need to be stimulated there, I'm not calling you stupid I'm saying the facts are the facts, she is overweight and you are average in that department at best. You two would just be a mis match all around.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 like brown on rice Jake Barnes you are funny
Mr White Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 more cushion for the pushin' 50 lbs is a lot... It's like 10 babies made entirely of fat hanging on her body.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 To her, well she sounds like the intellectual type and you aren't going to cut it there for her. Women are very mental and we need to be stimulated there, I'm not calling you stupid I'm saying the facts are the facts, she is overweight and you are average in that department at best. i listen to NPR and watch PBS
meerkat stew Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 more cushion for the pushin' 50 lbs is a lot... It's like 10 babies made entirely of fat hanging on her body. Well, those are some kinda small babies preemies even. How bout four 12 pound babies? that's a pretty big baby, 12 lbs, kind of a monster baby actually. Or even two 25 pound babies? Now -that's- an impressive sized baby. People take notice when a 25 pound baby walks in the room. Or you know what's next already, one FIFTY pound baby growing out of her shoulder like a mutant. Or we could go the other way with 100 1/2 pound babies, that would make a killer halloween costume.
Enema Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I don't think you should date her. If it's even a question in your mind, it's sure to blossom into a bigger problem sometime down the track. As Lizzie said - we've all seen your picture and know you're low/10, so if you're unable to find fat girls attractive you might have a rough time finding a long-term partner.
allina Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 No, don't do it. You don't want her telling her family she finally met a nice, successful Indian man. They'll get excited, then you'll just be letting everyone down.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 No, don't do it. You don't want her telling her family she finally met a nice, successful Indian man. They'll get excited, then you'll just be letting everyone down. yea thats good advice
whichwayisup Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Then make it a 'friend' setting. She's new to the City.. Make it clear you're not into her, go from there.. Just would be a shame that you are walking away, you two could end up being good friends. Also, she may not be into you either.. So if this is the case, then it'll be better for a friendship to form. That is, if you do the friend thing (yet) with women?
Orchid8 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If you have to ask, then the answer should already be a no. Don't go on a pity date, that would be mean.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 i listen to NPR and watch PBS Really? That's odd, I didn't know they had so many commercials. Secondly, what was that supposed to prove? You're a fan of lawrence welk and canadians? Anyhow, I don't really know anything about you but I've seen your posts and your thoughts on things and that is what drew me to the conclusion you're sub par when it comes to providing any sort of mental stimulation. However, you do get plenty of dates for your looks you have said; you at least have that to get you in the door. Uhm, I agree with whoever said why not be friends. You might actually benefit from having her in your life. It would be good for you to get some kind of growth that doesn't involve the inside of your trousers. Why not go out and have a good "friend time" with her..
brock25 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If she was 10-20 lbs overweight, I would give it a shot. However since she is 50 lbs overweight, I would say no. 50 lbs is a lot of weight especially if she is short. I wouldn't go out with a woman who has a much different body type than I am usually attracted to.
Art_Critic Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Marie Osmond lost 50 lbs .. she is smoking Alpha.. go with your gut on this one.. no pun intended.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 That is, if you do the friend thing (yet) with women? no, not really If she was 10-20 lbs overweight, I would give it a shot. However since she is 50 lbs overweight, I would say no. 50 lbs is a lot of weight especially if she is short. she is short and round
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Alpha.. go with your gut on this one.. no pun intended. my gut say don't do it after reading the replies
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