alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yeah so a few weeks ago i met this indian girl and then ran into her again this past sat nite. She is 29 and a lawyer. She's got a beautiful face and long black hair and wonderful personality. Problem is she could lose 50 lbs or so. We talked for a couple hours sat nite and exchanged numbers. The conversation was great and i had fun talking with her. I can tell she is very interested but i don't know if i can get over the weight issue. Everything else about her is great. I just can't see myself sleeping with someone that heavy (and being indian she's not going to give up the poontang easily even if she is heavy). We're supposed to get together this sat nite (we were drinking when we set this up) but i don't know if i should go thru with it. I'll let the LSers decide if i should go out with her or not.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yeah so a few weeks ago i met this indian girl and then ran into her again this past sat nite. She is 29 and a lawyer. She's got a beautiful face and long black hair and wonderful personality. Problem is she could lose 50 lbs or so. We talked for a couple hours sat nite and exchanged numbers. The conversation was great and i had fun talking with her. I can tell she is very interested but i don't know if i can get over the weight issue. Everything else about her is great. I just can't see myself sleeping with someone that heavy (and being indian she's not going to give up the poontang easily even if she is heavy). We're supposed to get together this sat nite (we were drinking when we set this up) but i don't know if i should go thru with it. I'll let the LSers decide if i should go out with her or not. I'd say she sounds nice and sensible so no, don't go out with her. She can do better, sorry ski lo but "I'll let Lsers decide if I should" meh..really she deserves better come on now.
OpenGL Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 So good looking guys are taking the average girls and now the fat ones too? What the hell are you leaving for us average guys? Do we now have to resort to gay men?
TheLoneSock Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Being someone really involved in fitness, I may consider it if I think she's someone I could work with and she was willing to shed 50 lbs. I've dated a girl who was beautiful but a little overweight and helping her lose the pounds was a great bonding experience for us. But on the whole, I can't say I'd date a girl 50 lbs. overweight, that's quite a bit. The only reason I did it before and helped her work it off was because I was really into her. So it depends on what matters more to you sexually. A beautiful face or a beautiful body.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 So good looking guys are taking the average girls and now the fat ones too? What the hell are you leaving for us average guys? Do we now have to resort to gay men? What are you pouting for? You don't even want the fat ones! Besides, if she ever read what he just posted (I'm not talking about the weight) about letting people on a msg board decide if she should date him..she would be laughing at him thinking "uh..yeah right."
The Crown Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 If looks are important to you 50 pounds to lose is kind of a lot. It can be done in 3 months of hard working out and dieting but who are you to tell her how to live. Are you in very good shape? It seems you are more concerned about what other people think like friends, co workers, people on this forum etc than how you actually feel. How you feel is all that matters. I am trying to go to law school it takes a lot of dedication it sounds like she has her life together and has a lot going for her. Maybe she put on the weight in school and plans to take it off. My first semester of college I put on nearly 40 pounds. I am 6'1 and can carry it but felt awful and went from 165 to 205 and spent all summer taking it off. Being a lawyer is stressful and maybe she eats when stressed. Who knows? I would go for it it seems like just the extra weight is the only thing stopping you. How would you feel if a girl denied you solely based on a few extra lbs when you knew you had a lot to offer? Hey if you really enjoy her company and start dating maybe you can both get gym memberships at the same gym it would be fun to have a partner to go with. Maybe bike together? This 50 pounds is not the end of the world. It can even be remedied with hard work. I lost 40 in just a few months after putting it on in school. Its not your place to tell her but hey you never know. I have seen some girls in college look a little overweight then next thing you know summer or spring break "rolls" around. No pun intended and they take off the extra weight for the bathing suit and look amazing. Hope I was semi helpful feel free to answer mine titled "Extreme Girl Trouble".
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Besides, if she ever read what he just posted (I'm not talking about the weight) about letting people on a msg board decide if she should date him..she would be laughing at him thinking "uh..yeah right." she won't be seeing this...or the other threads about the other chicks i'm dating
PJKino Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Shes 50 lb's overweight now while shes single and looking for somebody imagine when she gets into a relationship and becomes "comfortable" Yikes
TheBigQuestion Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Considering I drunkenly fornicated with someone slightly less overweight than the person you're describing just this past weekend (), I can't say anything else but to go for it. I'm officially in no position to try to convince you otherwise, as such would be hypocrisy.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 she won't be seeing this...or the other threads about the other chicks i'm dating You're kidding? I know that she won't be seeing it, it's the point that you would even say that ..that has me thinking she is too good for you. I don't even mind you at all as a poster but some of the generalisations you make about people make you look ignorant as hail to anyone who knows better.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Why not just head out for a night of drinks and fun without worrying about whether you are going to sleep with her or not? You never know, you might just end up having some good conversation and an enjoyable night.
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Considering I drunkenly fornicated with someone slightly less overweight than the person you're describing just this past weekend (), I can't say anything else but to go for it. I'm officially in no position to try to convince you otherwise, as such would be hypocrisy. Ok but come on now you had sex with her and you are still advising this guy to do it. I think you enjoyed it . There was no "look bro, heed the warning..do not man the hole."
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 You're kidding? I know that she won't be seeing it, it's the point that you would even say that ..that has me thinking she is too good for you. I don't even mind you at all as a poster but some of the generalisations you make about people make you look ignorant as hail to anyone who knows better. well i honestly don't know what 2 do...she has a lot of positives but one big negative
Maxxx Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Hey look why not? I have done my fair share of dating fat ladies and hey they were a hell of allot more over weight then 50 lbs........... I hate to say it and I will get shot for this but "fat women need love'n too" LOL
hoping2heal Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 well i honestly don't know what 2 do...she has a lot of positives but one big negative Okay and you obviously cannot look past it, so don't bother making a move. Sure, she could lose that 50 pounds but maybe she never will.You don't need to be one of those stories in 6 months "Oh I tried to be attracted to her but I just can't force myself." Let her go find someone who can appreciate what she has to offer and you can go find some more scandanavian lips to buy 3-year lipstick tubes for.
whichwayisup Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Go!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have fun and enjoy the evening with her. Bro, get over the weight thing. If she is beautiful and you enjoy her company, look past it. Just because she's abit chunky doesn't mean you won't fall for her. I mean, her scent could be nice, you had a good time with her already, so just see how it goes. No expectations.
Lizzie60 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I think I've read somewhere that overweight women.. will settle with just about anyone... because they can't get the hot guys... this is not too flattering for you Alpha... I've seen your picture before.. and you're not exactly the 'hunk' type.. I think you also have a few pounds to lose.. Just flip a coin,,,
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Let her go find someone who can appreciate what she has to offer and you can go find some more scandanavian lips to buy 3-year lipstick tubes for. i usually date skinny white chicks
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I think I've read somewhere that overweight women.. will settle with just about anyone... because they can't get the hot guys... this is not too flattering for you Alpha... no this is more a cultural thing....she won't date outside her culture/race I've seen your picture before.. and you're not exactly the 'hunk' type.. I think you also have a few pounds to lose.. indeed i could drop 20 lbs but i still get a lot of dates because i'm tall, dark and handsome
skydiveaddict Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 well i honestly don't know what 2 do...she has a lot of positives but one big negative If you really like her, you can help her lose the weight. I was in your situation once, we made dates for the gym and she lost the weight.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yes. Because I want to hear about it on Sunday when I'm procrastinating.
MizzBlue72 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Well, let's see .... for me?? I say that looks and weight are NOT as important as the connection. I've dated super hot physically fit guys that were so shallow and hollow I honestly could NOT keep a conversation going with them. I have also dated slightly fluffier smart men who intellectually stimulated me. We really bonded and connected. The sex?? Actually the sex was better with the fluffier guys!!! If you are only in it for the looks - get out now. Looks fade, and MANY of the HOT women and men I have ran into - REALLY not worth the effort. And once you get past the pretty wrapping, they are extremely shallow. Go - have a great time!!!! If that is the ONLY turn off, so what?? This boils down to you - ask yourself what exactly are you looking for. If you are going into this expecting to 'encourage' her to change - forget it. How many guys on these boards are pissed because they meet women who want them to change? Same goes for the women. Either like her for what she is, who she is, or let her find someone who will. She deserves that much.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yeah so a few weeks ago i met this indian girl and then ran into her again this past sat nite. She is 29 and a lawyer. She's got a beautiful face and long black hair and wonderful personality. Problem is she could lose 50 lbs or so. We talked for a couple hours sat nite and exchanged numbers. The conversation was great and i had fun talking with her. I can tell she is very interested but i don't know if i can get over the weight issue. Everything else about her is great. I just can't see myself sleeping with someone that heavy (and being indian she's not going to give up the poontang easily even if she is heavy). We're supposed to get together this sat nite (we were drinking when we set this up) but i don't know if i should go thru with it. I'll let the LSers decide if i should go out with her or not. The fact that you are designating her to be "fat girl" is already a red flag. Don't start. Even if you get along for a year or so, you will start to wonder about girls who are fit and athletic... and you will be depressed.
Author alphamale Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 If you really like her, you can help her lose the weight. I was in your situation once, we made dates for the gym and she lost the weight. dude, i don't like the idea of changing people. she would have to do it for herself. i'm not gonna say to her "oh yea um, you need to lose 50 lbs so we can continue dating"
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