McGrupp Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 face it! only if they get dumped! then why would u want them...
USMCHokie Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Seriously...are you still harping on this...?
mistakesweremade Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Hey man, maybe you could take solace in the fact that nothing lasts forever.
Mik12 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 face it! only if they get dumped! then why would u want them... Ok so i guess my ex gf was a male the cuz she camr back in the past.....what exactly is the point of this post?
CaliGuy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 face it! only if they get dumped! then why would u want them... No, they almost never come back. It's a very rare exeception if they do. And no, I don't want them back. Especially after she's been doing the one-eyed-snake dance with some other dude. NO THANKS! Women start emotionally/mentally detaching from the relationship well before (weeks or months) they pull the trigger so by the time they eventually do leave, they have been "checked out" for a long time. Once that decision is made to leave, they're done. No remorse, no regret.... Men on the other hand are much more irrational and make "quick" decisions that lead to regret. That is why you see many "IDIOT" men dumping their G/Fs and then later saying they want them back. Tough -- deal with it. Shouldn't have made a rash decision in the first place and hopefully you won't do it again. 1
Emotional24 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I broke up with my ex and one year later, I am back into taking things slow with him and am more certain than ever that he is the one for me. This is not always the case though and it does take two when it comes to the effort to make a relationship work...regardless of the situation. Are you referring to a girl being dumped and still wanting the guy as a "they cant have what they want kinda thing"? But even with that I know PLENTY of guys who want what they can't have as well...so its not just girls. ...but I have to agree with the others...what is your point? Did you dump a girl and are now regretting it, hoping she'll want you back?
WiseOne1 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I've had 2 ex GF's come back, so I cant say that I had the same experiences as you, but your right that the only time they REALLY want you back is when you dump you.
Chingaling Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 No, they almost never come back. It's a very rare exeception if they do. And no, I don't want them back. Especially after she's been doing the one-eyed-snake dance with some other dude. NO THANKS! Women start emotionally/mentally detaching from the relationship well before (weeks or months) they pull the trigger so by the time they eventually do leave, they have been "checked out" for a long time. Once that decision is made to leave, they're done. No remorse, no regret.... Men on the other hand are much more irrational and make "quick" decisions that lead to regret. That is why you see many "IDIOT" men dumping their G/Fs and then later saying they want them back. Tough -- deal with it. Shouldn't have made a rash decision in the first place and hopefully you won't do it again. I tend to agree with your thought process on women detaching before they leave... I think that they start withdrawing bit by bit, and make changes little by little so that when they are ready they can fly. I suppose it is nature's way of making sure that women are ready to be "alone" (if that is the case) and they can take care of themselves and their children... It's also a way of "testing" the relationship - to see if he notices/cares.
Orchid8 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Not true. I came back but only after he initiated contact.
CaliGuy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Not true. I came back but only after he initiated contact. What were the circumstances of the breakup and why did you come back?! I'm a firm believe that if SHE does the dumping after thinking about it for weeks/months and is already eying a new guy, she isn't coming back. Especially if her feelings went from IN LOVE just loving you as a person. Women have to be IN LOVE to stay. Once they are, they will do some prett silly things to stay (such as women who stay with jerks/cheaters/abusers, etc)
xtreme Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Same, I'm curious to know your situation Orchid. =]
sedgwick Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I dumped someone and went back. I am a female. Are we generalizing again?
CaliGuy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I dumped someone and went back. I am a female. Are we generalizing again? Yes. On a WHOLE, women tend NOT to come back if they've made up their mind he's not the ONE. On a WHOLE, men tend to regret making the quick decision to leave and often end up regretting it. I am sure there are certain circumstances where a woman has regretted dumping a guy, but it's not as often as the ones who do NOT regret it.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I dumped someone and went back. I am a female. Are we generalizing again? I second that. I went back to my ex too, except I ended up cheating with him on his gf.... bad, bad idea.
Author McGrupp Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 they dont come back. like my ex. i walked away lat year. texts emails knocks on the door and she wanted me back. this year she gets more and more distant. and then we have a fight. its over. now nothing from her. wonder how you women can jump like that. all about the challenge
Orchid8 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 What were the circumstances of the breakup and why did you come back?! I'm a firm believe that if SHE does the dumping after thinking about it for weeks/months and is already eying a new guy, she isn't coming back. Especially if her feelings went from IN LOVE just loving you as a person. Women have to be IN LOVE to stay. Once they are, they will do some prett silly things to stay (such as women who stay with jerks/cheaters/abusers, etc) He was controling and very jealous (even though I gave him no reason to be). He would purposely cause fights to break up with me but I got tired of it and broke it off with him the last time. We did NC for about 6 months when I happened to run into him one day. We talked briefly and next thing I know, he was pursuing me agressively. I resisted for 2 months but finally caved in because I was still in love with him. Our final break up was in October 09. Have been NC since then..
Orchid8 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 So yes, it was because I was in love with him that I went back. If he hadn't initiated contact, I would have kept continuing NC. I was weak before but our most recent break up is a done deal for me.
carhill Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 females never come back if they dump you And I get down on my knees and thank the Lord that it's so
CaliGuy Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 He was controling and very jealous (even though I gave him no reason to be). He would purposely cause fights to break up with me but I got tired of it and broke it off with him the last time. We did NC for about 6 months when I happened to run into him one day. We talked briefly and next thing I know, he was pursuing me agressively. I resisted for 2 months but finally caved in because I was still in love with him. Our final break up was in October 09. Have been NC since then.. So yes, it was because I was in love with him that I went back. If he hadn't initiated contact, I would have kept continuing NC. I was weak before but our most recent break up is a done deal for me. Ok so what you learned is that "once an insecure jerk, always an insecure jerk". The controlling behavior was a big red flag (you knew that already). His behavior hadn't changed, only time had passed. This is another reason why I think once you've made up your mind you're done you should stay done -- especially for the reasons you left. None of my exes who left and then came sniffing back around left because I was a bad guy. I was just not as confident back then as I should have been. Granted, that's been fixed but the damage is done. And like Carhill says "Thank the Good Lord they don't come back." My last two exes were nothing special -- I just imagined them to be more than they really were.
Mik12 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yes. On a WHOLE, women tend NOT to come back if they've made up their mind he's not the ONE. On a WHOLE, men tend to regret making the quick decision to leave and often end up regretting it. I am sure there are certain circumstances where a woman has regretted dumping a guy, but it's not as often as the ones who do NOT regret it. Speaking from your own experiences hardly makes you an expert, my friend left his gf of 4 years and never looked back...yet my ex left me and came back . In my experience and with what ive seen around me id even go as to say that women tend to come back more often but that is from MY experience and it doesnt make it a fact
Mik12 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 they dont come back. like my ex. i walked away lat year. texts emails knocks on the door and she wanted me back. this year she gets more and more distant. and then we have a fight. its over. now nothing from her. wonder how you women can jump like that. all about the challenge So that makes it a universal law right? Your experience is synonymous with everybody's? I can see that you are frustrated but please stop talking out of your ass, dont mean to be harsh but I hate when people start passing off opinions and as facts.
bananaboat11 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Not true. I came back but only after he initiated contact. You the dumper or dumpee?
prayingshecomesback Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 hot dumper. lol damn girl. Nice pic. Ummmmmm, I would have to say female dumpers do come back. I have one of my friends who broke up and she came back now they are getting married. I just went to another one of my friends wedding and they were split up for a while too but eventually reconciled. These couples were just made for each other and lots of drama. IT HAPPENS...BUT, dont give yourself false hope. If your girl is stubborn and thinks things through before she acts... pretty much its done IMO unless an act of god changes her heart. My girl never came back but she is the type of girl that once she decides on something, that's it. No turning back. Stubborn as hell.
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