My girlfriend went party happy, has new friends and wants space.. ..!!

[luvthisbar]

I will try to make a long story short. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years. Our relationship has always been perfect and we were madly in love. This girl has always been so sprung off of me and soo protective that even texting another girl would make her mad. But I kind of enjoyed it.

 

My girlfriend just turned 21 and moved out of her house. I am 24 so the whole 21 phase I got over fairly quick. Now that she moved out with her new roommate she has all new friends and is going party crazy because her parents are really strict. It got to a point where she was going out and getting blacked out drunk 3-4 nights a week on a regular basis. I tried to sit down and talk to her and she promised she would calm it down but didnt care. Eventually I stopped caring as well. It went on for a couple months until she started having best "guy friends" and her best guy friends would spend the night and drink at her apartment until 4-5am. I told her that was just simply not going to fly with me. I said its okay if you have guy friends, but there is no reason for them to spend the night drunk. I later got so pissed after she promised it wouldnt happen again I just shut my phone off and said we are through! I didnt talk to her for 2 days. She wrote me a looong email about how much she loved me. I went to her house that she shares with 4 girl room mates 2 days later and she said.. What are you doing here? You broke up with me.. Get out of my face!

 

I later calmed her down and talked to her.. She said she isnt ready for a relationship anymore. Because the two days I didnt talk to her was the first time she has not talked to me for so long in 3 years and she just wanted to be friends. We kissed we made out..?? then I told her I couldnt be her friend and apologized. i said that would just be too awkward for me. She is set on being just friends.

 

Its been a month and I have heard NOTHING from her. Nothing at all! I deleted my fb so I would stay out of her life and she would miss me.. Didnt really work. She posts new pictures on fb of her going party CRAZZY!!! and status updates saying HAD THE BEST TIME OF MY LIFE EVERR LAST NIGHT!!!! I have the best friends in the world! I know I shouldnt be checking but its just so stupid!!! Her status is still in a relationship and she still has our pictures up..

 

Just seems as though it hasnt hit her yet... How long do you guys think until it hits her? Do you think she is ever going to contact me or should I just grow some balls and move on and stop waiting around for her? Thanks for the advise guys!

Edited January 26, 2010 by luvthisbar

[LoveOrb]

I just registered because I'm feeling your pain in a similar way. I'm going to post my story as its own topic, but my feelings are, you let her know where you stand, she let you know where she stands. I honestly believe you should work on yourself now and move on. I'm not exactly the PERFECT person to advise you, and I'll post why in my story, but I'm coming to the point where I will be having a talk with my ex and its not going to be pretty I can already tell.

 

In short words, UNFRIEND her, DON'T look at her FB posts. Start working on yourself right now, find some friends to back you up, trust me I KNOW your pain and I am right there with you. If she thinks thats the life she wants, then don't try changing her mind, you'll only make things worse. If you think her health is in danger then I suggest getting her parents involved so she can realize how serious her habit is becoming. Otherwise delete her from all avenues you have and move on.

[luvthisbar]

Dude.. Can someone help me out with this one?? Its driving me nuts.. I havent talked to my ex in over a month and she is literally going NUTS! she has pictures up on fb of her all over random guys she just met that night.. hugging them, sitting on their laps, kissing their cheeks, everything at these random clubs in Florida.. And I dont think she is doing it to piss me off because she isnt posting them. Other people are and I just disappeared out of her life. Can someone please help me with this.. Feels like my NC and disappearing did nothing but make her go crazier and hurt me more!

[carhill]

'Crazy' doesn't just happen to 21 year olds.

 

She wants what she wants. Right now, that's somewhere else with other people.

 

If you have no contact, there's no way she can hurt you. Any hurt comes from within. She becomes irrelevant. If this was your first serious LTR and it was 'perfect' (I'm thinking none of mine were ever 'perfect') it could take months to a year to get balanced and healthy again. Gather up your friends and get started