lovesick74 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I have a question for all of those who've gone through divorce and moved on to new relationships. How many have had cases where the ex comes crawling back? I'm talking even after all the apologies, the realization of mistakes, the begging pleading to cold deaf ears. Reading these forums, I've come across cases where, the Walk-Away-Spouse tells their partner there's no chance they'd come back due to the lack of feelings only to be found they've had a change of heart. Either due to their partner finally moving on or even if their partner finds another relationship. Just curious....
sumdude Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 It's rare but it does happen. In fact my ex wife's sister went back to her first husband after a few years and two children with husband number two.
ann09 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I simply can't imagine going back to a marriage that's already failed once.
jackbaron Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Mine wants to now, after treating me like sh$t for 7 months, seeing me move on, get happy, get a bit fitter, and become more like "the person she wanted me to be". What happened to unconditional love? I love her but had to fall out of love with her for my own sanity. Hope we can form a good friendship for the kids, but I dont think I can take her back, and am certainly heading that way. She aint gunna like it.
tnttim Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yep the second I turned my life around, 180ed, and became a real man. I am back with W though, so that's where I differ. I realized she wanted to change as well, and she still is. I call this my new marriage with my new wife because that's really what it is. The old me, old her and old marriage is gone, and I'm glad it is.
SRV Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yep, mine after a year and a half. I was not even going there, nor did I even entertainn the small petty talk with her after the s**t she put me through. If it does not pertain to DD, sorry, tell it to the birds, and I'm much better off for it. Good luck in your case.
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Yep the second I turned my life around, 180ed, and became a real man. I am back with W though, so that's where I differ. I realized she wanted to change as well, and she still is. I call this my new marriage with my new wife because that's really what it is. The old me, old her and old marriage is gone, and I'm glad it is. Awesome to read! New wife, new life, new marriage; all with the same woman - I love it!
Eeyore79 Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 In general, they don't come back. However I can't say it never happens, because two of my exes crawled back to me at various points, having realised that they couldn't do better and I was, in fact, wonderful. I would consider dating one of my exes again... I dumped him because I met someone else who turned out to be a player, and I realised I made a big mistake but I didn't dare to ask my ex for another chance, plus by then he was dating someone else... But I question whether we were really suited anyway, given that he had already dumped me twice, which was part of what attracted me to this new and seemingly-stable guy who turned out to be a player
FeelingLonely98 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I simply can't imagine going back to a marriage that's already failed once. The "MArriage" didn't fail in your case Ann.
FeelingLonely98 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 I have a question for all of those who've gone through divorce and moved on to new relationships. How many have had cases where the ex comes crawling back? I'm talking even after all the apologies, the realization of mistakes, the begging pleading to cold deaf ears. Reading these forums, I've come across cases where, the Walk-Away-Spouse tells their partner there's no chance they'd come back due to the lack of feelings only to be found they've had a change of heart. Either due to their partner finally moving on or even if their partner finds another relationship. Just curious.... I will not be the least bit surprised if my ex "Crawls" back one day. I hope not. I have moved on and I'm doing well these days. And though I don't know how she is doing emotionally I know she is not doing well financially because she is living with her Mom in the tiny apt. Last Summer she left because she wanted to live with her BF and here it is a long time later she is still the same. I know this because her 20 yr old son (my step-son) still lives with me and will move in with her when she gets her place. All this being said - I am not quite sure how the cheaters seem to find out how the BS is doing. Can someone tell me how the cheater finds out how well the BS is doing when they do not communicate, do not see each other, do not have any correspondence, no common friends anymore, ... How? (Unless there are kids involved I'm not sure how they find out - It's been baffling me for some time now...?????):confused:
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