councilseeker Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 After 5/6 months she came back to me, said she wanted to die next to me and marry me 2.5 months ago. I said we both needed to be sure because it would involve career changes and a marriage. I was seeing a serious gf for a few months. She was seeing a non-serious boyfriend. I continued to live in the same house as the girl I was dating. We met a few times, I got upset at her bf and she was very emotional. I drove her crazy by texting etc. Finally she said she was torn and confused, within a week told me she had made up her mind. She doesn't want to talk to me. I ran into her and she cried and sobbed "I don't want to talk to you" and walked away from me. My guess is I still have a chance if I leave her a lone for a while. I really want this to work out. Badly. I know for sure now. It's all ****ed up.
DenverBachelor Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 She doesn't want to talk to me. I ran into her and she cried and sobbed "I don't want to talk to you" and walked away from me. Her words said one thing but her actions said something completely different. She was definitely torn internally when she was sobbing while speaking those words. She is very unsure of her decision or else she wouldn't be sobbing like that. Just give her space and let her figure out how different life is without you.
Author councilseeker Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 Maybe I was a little bit too strong in calling it sobbing and crying. She was very sad, upset and a bit scared to see me, and in a very emotional voice on the verge of tears said it. I am not sure if she has doubts. I think she has made up her mind, but is just very sad about it not working out. But then again, do feelings that strong disappear so quickly? Or are they just overshadowed by her power of reason and decision. She's a very smart girl who makes these decisions carefully I think. In an email about 1.5 weeks ago she did say something like "stop emailing me. It makes me very angry. You think this has no impact on our future? You have no idea how much are hurting things by continuing to email me."
Limbo21 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Sounds to me she wants what she can't have. When she's got it she no longer wants it (you) basic human psychology. Be VERY careful my friend. My ex did this to me 3 times
DustySaltus Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Are you willing to give up a DEFINITE for a MAYBE? If so, you should breakup with your current gf regardless because it's not fair to her. Your ex came back at 50% not 500% like she should. She would need to break it off completely with the guy and be willing to work on the issues that broke you up in the first place. Anything short of that is words, words, words. Be careful, in some scenarios you could be all by yourself at the end of the day. You need to really sit down and think about what you want.
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