sadinla Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 (edited) Well, first let me say that I am new to this site and am so glad I found it. It's good to know that I am not the only one feeling this way.... My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. Well, at the time I didn't know that we actually broke up. Basically we had be living together for 7mo. and I kicked him out. Things were getting difficult and confusing and the comunication was just not there. I had no intentions of making it permanent, but it needed to be done at the time. When he left we were on good terms, no fighting, nothing. He said he thought this was the best thing and that we would work on things and figure things out.... That was 3 months ago. And up until about 2 weeks ago we havn't talked at all. He changed his number and didn't give it to me. He got upset with me right after I kicked him out, because he thought i was telling his dad things. But that wasn't the case, and I've never had a chance to explain that to him. He called me about 2 weeks ago, out of no where, told me some things that were going on in his life, gave me his number, then nothing, that was that. Which of course ruined what little bit of progress I had made in the last 3 months. Then I made the mistake one night of texting him. I didn't get a response, so what do I do text him the next day to tell him he's a jerk. Well he starts writing me back all normal. Tells me he's not happy, says that he misses me... and then tells me he wants to have sex with me no strings attached. Well I don't even know what to think about that. In my girl head I start thinking that he does care and thats his way of trying to get back into my life. But then I get angry, and it gets a lil ugly between the 2 of us. I don't hear from him again. Then out of the blue calls me the other night. I don't pick up and he sends a mean text. Then he's telling me to erase his number. And then he's saying he loves me and misses me and will always love me..... Just a few text.. then I go texting crazy and it's back to nothing again. I was totally devastated when things ended. We have been thru so much together, and I never thought that he would hurt me like that. I think that the hardest part is that I stuck with him thru a horrible time in his life and he just turned his back on me and walked away. And I think about it, everything all day every day. I need closure and I never got any sort of closure from him. I need something to help me understand. I don't know why he's contacting me after all this time... Just to play games with me? I don't even know what to think about it. He'll go from being so mean, to telling me that he loves and misses me. But he doesn't want anything to do with me, and I am just so confused right now. Sorry this is so long... guess I had a lot to get out. Edited January 26, 2010 by sadinla
nobmagnet Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 hi honey, Welcome to loveshack. Sorry you are here but im glad you found us! Most of us on here never get "closure" that is why it can take us so long to get to the accepance phase. I would advise you to erase him from phone/facebook or any other contact. To help you move forwad it would be best to have no contact at all. He is confused and so are you. He blows hot and cold because that is how he feels. I imagine you are up and down too. To enable you both to move on you need to cut ties and get to the stage of acceptance. I.E it didnt work thats a shame but im ok about that. keep posting love Nobby xx
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