daisydo Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 anyone else just get sick and tired of feeling depressed about a breakup? it's been 7 days for me, and i'm already sick of it. it's just so boring being this upset all the time. i just wish i could flip a switch and feel normal again. i feel like all my friends are getting tired of hearing about it, and i'm tired of telling them about it. sometimes it's like i can almost forget about what happened.. and then i hear something about my ex and i get knocked back to square one. i'm holding strong with NC - but we travel in the same circles, so it's hard not hearing things. i just hope i don't run into him or the girl he cheated on me with (his ex.. or current girlfriend? seems like they got back together) anytime soon.
USMCHokie Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Absolutely...I'm about 6 months out now...most of which was NC...still sometimes feel depressed and sad that we're not in each others lives anymore. But I assure you that it will get better. The best way to get yourself out of this rut is to go out with friends and just enjoy their company. Don't talk about your ex, dating or relationships. Just go out and have a good time. Spending it alone can get boring, because you're used to spending that time with your ex...so you're naturally going to be upset and think about him...that's why you have to spend time with friends and family...
bananaboat11 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Absolutely...I'm about 6 months out now...most of which was NC...still sometimes feel depressed and sad that we're not in each others lives anymore. But I assure you that it will get better. The best way to get yourself out of this rut is to go out with friends and just enjoy their company. Don't talk about your ex, dating or relationships. Just go out and have a good time. Spending it alone can get boring, because you're used to spending that time with your ex...so you're naturally going to be upset and think about him...that's why you have to spend time with friends and family... If it weren't for you, Erica, Serena, Penelope,LovelyDaze & Caliguy... I'd be a wreck right now...
USMCHokie Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 If it weren't for you, Erica, Serena, Penelope,LovelyDaze & Caliguy... I'd be a wreck right now... Hey, it's what we're here for...I've got your back 'cause I know you've got mine...that's just the way it works...
bananaboat11 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Hey, it's what we're here for...I've got your back 'cause I know you've got mine...that's just the way it works... you know it ...sorry I went MIA... had a phone call from an old friend
crazy4you Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I hate that feeling too. I've been through it SOOO many times. Going through it now. I just hate being depressed. I don't get it, I used to be so happy until I met this girl and although I can't deny that I've had some of the best times/experiences/memories of my life with her, it just doesn't seem worth all the pain and suffering and depression. Good way to look at it though.. it's like Butters says in one episode of South Park: Goth kid: I guess you can join up with us if you want. We're gonna go down to the graveyard and write poems about death and how pointless life is. Butters: Well, no thanks. I love life. Stan: Huh...? But... you just got dumped...? Butters: yeah... and I'm sad! but at the same time I'm really happy that something can make me feel that sad... it's like... it makes me feel alive, y'know? It makes me feel human. The only way I could feel this sad now, is if I felt somethin' really good before, so I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I'm feelin' is, like a beautiful sadness... I guess that sounds stupid... Point is, it hurts, but that's because you felt something really good and that you'll get to feel it again in the near future.
HandleYourHeartbreak Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Hi daisydo. 7 days really isn't that long to get over a breakup. The best part of your post is that you sound like you want to heal and get on with life! That is such a positive for you. A lot of the time, especially early in a breakup, people want (and need) to grieve. For some, tears can flow uncontrollably for weeks, even months before things get back to normal. So true about 'just when you think you're over your ex, something comes along to remind you'. I believe these random events occur so that we can take stock of how far we have come in our healing. At first it might be a song on the radio, a certain smell, a name, a piece of clothing etc. But in time, these events will diminish ... as long as you learn to drop the associated memories and let them go. You say want to flick that switch and get on with life, and I just wanted to comment on how positive that is. Hold that thought and keep looking for that switch and I am sure you will find it soon enough. Be patient in the meantime and let yourself work through the myriad of emotions associated with the current change happening in your life. The day will come when (and if) you randomly bump into your ex that you will feel perfectly ok. You won't even flinch because you will have completely moved on, and that's a great feeling!
HeavenOrHell Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 7 days is nothing Yes I'm fed up with 6 months on.
Author daisydo Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 i know 7 days isn't very long at all.. i'm just saying that i'm already tired of it. i'm not looking forward to the weeks/months ahead that await me. i think it is a good sign though that i am not wallowing in this pain. i am tired of it already and am going to look for ways to rid myself of this depression. being with friends definitely helps. being at work helps too since i get to keep my brain occupied. once i feel okay enough to start writing music again, that will help also. who else has some good ideas? also - when do you think you'll be ready to start dating again?
USMCHokie Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 when do you think you'll be ready to start dating again? You'll be ready the moment you no longer have to ask yourself this question.
AriaIncognito Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You'll know when you're ready to date again. 1 week out, you're not going to be ready. Sometimes it takes months...sometimes longer, sometimes less. You'll know it when you're ready again. When you start looking at men and thinking "hmm" lol. It'll happen, just kinda have to let it occur naturally in the healing process. How long did you date your ex?
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