Lunababy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 So here it is. I got asked out on a date in Aug by a man I had met on occasion through work functions. He and his wife had separated in the past year (she left him for another man). We dated for two months when I told him that he needs to go and figure out what he wants. That I want to be the girl he is with once he is healed but that I won't be the one to heal him. So he went away but kept asking me to go for drinks, dinner, coffee. Then his wife decides to text me to tell me they had slept together a couple times while he was with me. He begs for my forgiveness (Even though we aren't together) I agree to be his friend (as we are part of a bigger circle of friends) AFter he comes on to me at a dinner party it comes out that he has been on a few dates with someone else. So I kick him out of my house and yell at him that I think he's scum and that I never want to see him. (Although I feel different). I haven't heard from him until this weekend. (1.5 months have passed) he wants to get together for lunch or a drink or dinner to hear about my vacation I took. I really think we could have a good relationship but he's not ready. I don't know how to be a friend or trust him while he sorts his confusion out. (He is working on it as he's seeing a therapist). Do I reply to his email? Ignore him (knowing I will have to bump into him at social functions) Or is he playing me?
Boundary Problem Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Aren't men supposed to lead? How is this man showing leadership and vision? I just don't see the attraction. If a man can't tell you what your future would be like, then what purpose does he serve? Men are like clover you know. Just because he's breathing doesn't mean "he's the one". I would steer clear until he gets his sh-t together, unless you are required to socialize for business reasons.
DenverBachelor Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Aren't men supposed to lead? How is this man showing leadership and vision? Not according to many feminists.
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