cognac Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 There is this girl who I see about every two weeks at my job, she shops. She is really shy and simply dressed yet also cute, very timid too. I have tried to talk to her but can only get one word answers but I do make her giggle. Last time I saw her I was in a very timid mood myself and not in a charming mood so I said a quick "hows it going" and she said "pretty good" and looked down really shy while smiling .Then after she completed the transaction I gave her her change and she donated all of it to a charity bucket next to my register while smiling at me. Then I stared at her as she walked out not sure if she noticed though. Was she trying to impress me? Do you think I should ask her out? Are these signs she's into me? She is like an inch taller than me too by the way, do you think it's worth pursuing her?
Peter Attis Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 No. If she really liked you, you would know.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 It's hard to tell. From her actions and such, it doesn't mean she likes you or dislikes you. I'd say, try to strike up a better conversation next time. Ask her what school she goes to (assuming she's at that age), etc... But don't chat for too long when you're working. It's best to meet up outside of work.
Author cognac Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 No. If she really liked you, you would know. How would I know? I don't think women are going to go behind my register and pull my pants down, I'm not that "HOT". Besides, some girls are shy, no? I just get the feeling she MAY like me, but I don't know because my gut feeling in regards to women has been wrong almost every time. But don't chat for too long when you're working. It's best to meet up outside of work. [/Quote] I would agree, but surprisingly, it seems women are more open to talk to me at my job than outside of it for some reason. Yesterday some woman asked me if I knew her from somewhere if I bartended etc because apparently some bar tender looks like me. I never really say much to customers they usually start talking to me male and female, don't know if its actual interest or just being courteous.
The Crown Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I don't think it would hurt to ask for her number in a polite way. If she denies it or flakes out on the phone you have not lost anything, if she goes for you great.
ella23 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 It's hard to tell. From her actions and such, it doesn't mean she likes you or dislikes you. I'd say, try to strike up a better conversation next time. Ask her what school she goes to (assuming she's at that age), etc... But don't chat for too long when you're working. It's best to meet up outside of work. yep, do this.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I think it is awesome that you get to meet people at your work on the regular. It sounds like you are comfortable and confident at work and women pick up on this. Power to you. Some people can be very shy so just prepare one or two open ended questions so you can get a conversation going. Go for it!
Lizzie60 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Yep.. I think you should... my bet is that you will be pleasantly surprised of her answer... life is too short... go ahead.. what more can she say ..'no'... no big deal.. come on..
meerkat stew Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 (edited) Sure, ask for her number, think of it as a warm approach, much better than a cold approach. Introduce yourself and get her name first, then "I don't get to see you enough in here, why don't we fix that? What's your phone number?" If she gives it, say something like "Cool, will be in touch," and excuse yourself that you need to take care of something in the back. Don't stand and talk to her. Call her the next day and ask her on a date. Then go out and ask ten more women for their number before the end of the weekend. If you do this, you will never again have a problem getting dates, even if none of those say yes, one of the next ten will. Edited January 26, 2010 by meerkat stew
Author cognac Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 Yep.. I think you should... my bet is that you will be pleasantly surprised of her answer... life is too short... go ahead.. what more can she say ..'no'... no big deal.. come on.. True. The only downside I can see is that I'll have to see her after she says no, would prefer to never see her again in that case. But hey it's a lot harder for me to meet girls at bars and nightclubs and even in plain clothes than in my work uniform, do women think men who are working at a store are less likely to try and pick them up or hit on them?
Awesome Username Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Give it a shot! She seems like she might be a little warm on ya. If it doesn't work, at least you know!
meerkat stew Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 True. The only downside I can see is that I'll have to see her after she says no, would prefer to never see her again in that case. Don't fall into this way of thinking. Quality, mature women are flattered by interest, even if they aren't interested in a date, and those women think well of a man who has the masculine power to ask women out in stride. Just because you ask a woman out and she says no doesn't mean there has to be an elephant in the room whenever you run into her after that. It's the bad ones who will act weird or think you creepy for expressing unreturned interest, and that's their issue, not yours.
Johnny M Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Yes, it sounds like she likes you. You've got nothing to lose by trying.
Author cognac Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Sounds good , now I just have to get lucky and see her again. I was itching to talk to her more last time but I was kind of gun shy because i had a female coworker right next to me and it made me feel kind of awkward to "run game" next to another woman. LOL. Next time I will swallow my fear and just get it over with.
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