cogent_love Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I am a college student and have a part time job. I have a boyfriend and 2 best friends. Other than that I don't really hang out with anyone but family. Sometimes I feel like a loser. : / But on the other hand, I don't really like talking on the phone much...and I like to be by myself a lot. It helps me recharge. And being in control of my schedule seems to be an issue for me. I like to know plans and times ahead of time!! So I don't really have a lot of friends. I've had a couple girls on Facebook, that I know from high school (real life haha) tell me that they think I am cool, that we should talk more. Or whatever. But I don't know if in real life I give off weird vibes? Should I be worried? Or just enjoy my lifestyle?
Disillusioned Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Sounds to me like you haven't yet found a group you feel comfortable with. Try meeting other people who share your interests, there have to be others out there.
DiscoChick Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You are very sociable. You know, I sometimes wish I could live in a box. Physical interaction with people makes me sick. I have a mild case of social anxiety. Not to mention that I do talk to myself. I understand you about the facebook stuff. When I was in high school, I had maybe four friends in my own class and one in the class behind me (not counting family). Now, they all have facebook and want to add me as a friend. Right...
amagordos Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You sound a lot like me. I only have four friends that i really talk to and i don't go out much. I only go the movies with this one friend and this once in awhile, sometimes its months before we see each other. We mostly talk on myspace. In myspace i also have lots of friends from high school but i don't really talk to them or hang out with them. I am alone most of the time and i spend so much time in my room contemplating and reading. I guess I talk to myself too. Yeah i guess i have some social anxiety as well.
Author cogent_love Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 Haha maybe I do!! I feel comfortable, even chatty, most times in public. But when I'm alone I see no need. But I had bad experiences in high school...maybe that kind of turned me off to new people.
albertaguy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I feel the same way most of the time. I have a couple good friends, I have a two great brothers who I also consider good friends, and other than that it seems like I just don't care. I'm perfectly content with just chilling inside by myself and doing whatever, playing games, reading, etc. I do go out, I have car meets I go to, and I go mountain biking in groups, however to me it almost feels like a co-worker type relationship. I think those poeple are all great and cool but other than those activities I don't really care to hang out with them in any other way. I feel like a loser sometimes too! Sometime I tell myself this is wrong and I should be more sociable. I also have older friends that ask me to hang out and what not but I just don't prefer to. I'm confused too! hehe.
Author cogent_love Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Haha so we need to figure out- is it really a problem for us? Or just society. The thing that really got me thinking is seeing all the new research articles about how having a broad social network improves your life (healthwise)
DiscoChick Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Haha so we need to figure out- is it really a problem for us? Or just society. The thing that really got me thinking is seeing all the new research articles about how having a broad social network improves your life (healthwise) Really? I imagine it would make my life more stressful, somehow. I really dislike the friends I have that text me only when they want something. What kind of friendship is that? The problem is with other people and their values. I don't want to be surrounded by people all similar to myself, but darn it! "I'm a doctor, not a psychiatrist!" Not really a doctor...
Brady_to_Moss Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 You have a BF...you're not anti-social. I have no GF and maybe 1 or 2 friends...trust me..you're a lot better off than me. I just want a girl
DiscoChick Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 You have a BF...you're not anti-social. I have no GF and maybe 1 or 2 friends...trust me..you're a lot better off than me. I just want a girl Not true. The last guy I dated was more antisocial than I am. He has admitted that he hates people, himself included... However, he is capable of playing the role of outgoing male in public, if he has to. Other than that, he stays home all day. By the way, I love your username.
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