GrayClouds Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 So choosing your own happiness over someone else’s makes you selfish? Doesn't everyone always say you have to love yourself above all else? How is that selfish? It can be a question of long term rewards vs immediate or temporary rewards. Just it would have been more fun to spend college money on cocaine than to go to collage for 4 years, the second one will usually offer real benefits to ones life . Personal sacrifice for long term benefits is a definition of healthy self love.
Ilovecake Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You chose to be happy with that person when you started a relationship with them. Especially for marriages. Why do people cheat? Because they are getting bored with their spouses/partners. Doesnt that make them selfish? My opinions are based on relationships that fail when one party decides to just get up and walk away. Of course they dont apply to breakups that happened due to cheating partners or being abused etc. I hope you don't think I'm being argumentative. I just find the topic interesting. I mean beside cheating and other horrible transgressions. Do you believe then that happiness is a choice? Do you ever think that you can just grow unhappy with someone as you get to know them? This unhappiness can cause you stress which can lead to physical illnesses. Should people overlook that and stick it out because they said they would 5, 10, 15, 20 years a go? I definitely think that people these days bail way too quickly and easily. Some work needs to be put into a relationship for it to work but I just wonder where do people draw the line.
within2 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I do think people can choose to be happy. Just like some people choose to be unhappy. And the people who tend to say they have grown unhappy with someone over time... Maybe its because they didnt really know what they were truly looking for to begin with? Maybe they didnt really know who they really are?Was their happiness strongly motivated by superfical stuff? One of my friends has a "list" of what her dream man is. Its mostly all superficial. I even told her...."so once all that fluff gets old or he loses his job" yall are done? And she never answered.
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