Silver_star Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 it has been nearly 5 weeks since the break up. Its a final thing im not getting back together with him ( he broke up with me 4 times, the 4th being the LAST time) and a week ago he talked to me on facebook telling me how sorry he is adn that im amazing and all that and maybe we can be friends..and i said yea maybe in the future but he broke my heart and i need time to be able to be his friend if i can, and i didnt talk to him for the rest of the week...this weekend i went out and had a great time and even made out with a guy i have known for a while (first guy ive kissed in 2 years besides my ex) and it felt empowering and was a good step in feelin like i could move on...but TODAY he sends me a text saying just "its hurts". What is he doing? Besides hurting my progress...what do u think hes trying to do? be friends? does he still feel guilty? or is he trying ot get me back?
Author Silver_star Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 what does "it hurts" mean...whats are his motives in telling me he is in pain? From a dumpers perspective...anyone?
cg27 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think he realized what he has lost, or could be losing. For some reason us men always want what we can't have. 4 times is a lot of chances. What I would do is take a little time for yourself. Try not talking to him, and since Valentine’s Day is coming up soon. See if he does something from the heart for you. 1. Make you a card based on you 2. Personally makes, and delivers a flower arrangement. 3. Something he knows means a lot to you This will tell you a lot about him.
Author Silver_star Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 thanks for the feedback. I didnt respond (didnt know how and wanted to be strong by staying nc) anyways so now he texted " its just so hard to go on without u. I didnt get a response from you today and maybe i dont deserve one..but i had to tell someone how i feel" Uhmm...what do ii do? anything? It panicks my heart thinking of him hurting even tho he hurt me so bad, but i want to be strong.
cg27 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 He might be hurting but he is the one that did this, and did not take into account that he would be hurting too. Let him know that this is a time where both of us a hurting, and let him hurt more. Let him think about the mistake he make. If he thinks about this long enough he will begin to learn from his mistakes. Think of it as a slap on the wrist vs going to jail. He will forget the slap on the wrist, but he will not forget about going to jail. Don't let him back into this to easy make him really work for it, If he really loves you he will fight for it, and not let you go easily.
Author Silver_star Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 This may be a new thread not sure. After that text i said that this was his decision and he had to deal with it, it is what he wanted after all. He is beggggin and pleeeading, but its nothing i havent heard from him before. He is saying everything i want him to say...Except how valid could it be? HE is only doing this because hes lonely and wants attention right?
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