stace79 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I'm curious to the women who've found themselves involved with a MM or a man in a R.... what kind of signs do you see that eventually help you realize he's married or in a R? Are there certain things he might say to "cover his tracks" so to speak? I'm trying to determine if a friend of mine (who's been a FWB before) is lying to me b/c he's really in a R or married, or if I'm just paranoid... Thanks.
Fallen Angel Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I'm curious to the women who've found themselves involved with a MM or a man in a R.... what kind of signs do you see that eventually help you realize he's married or in a R? Are there certain things he might say to "cover his tracks" so to speak? I'm trying to determine if a friend of mine (who's been a FWB before) is lying to me b/c he's really in a R or married, or if I'm just paranoid... Thanks. Have you been to his house? Can you call him anytime, day or night? Have you come straight out and asked him? With My MM, I had just never asked. I assumed he was single, because he acted single. I was able to call him anytime, day or night, and often did. I lived in a different state at the time, and when we got together physically it was in a town he was working in, because that was where he had to work that week. *shrug* When I started to suspect and came out and asked him, he told me the truth. (I suspected because even when he was at his house, he used his cell phone most times. And told me to call his cell as catching him at home was so hit and miss..though he did occasionally call me from home... Then one day his cell phone fell into some water, and he called me from his wife's cell phone.. the different number made me wonder.. so I asked.)
Author stace79 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Have you been to his house? Can you call him anytime, day or night? Have you come straight out and asked him? With My MM, I had just never asked. I assumed he was single, because he acted single. I was able to call him anytime, day or night, and often did. I lived in a different state at the time, and when we got together physically it was in a town he was working in, because that was where he had to work that week. *shrug* When I started to suspect and came out and asked him, he told me the truth. (I suspected because even when he was at his house, he used his cell phone most times. And told me to call his cell as catching him at home was so hit and miss..though he did occasionally call me from home... Then one day his cell phone fell into some water, and he called me from his wife's cell phone.. the different number made me wonder.. so I asked.) Yes, I'd been to his apartment and even stayed the night. I can call or text any time, although some times he's not great about calling back right away. Here is the situation -- I met up with him and friends at a bar to watch football in Dec. He brought a girl with him who he said was his "friend". She and I sorta became friends and I asked her what the deal was -- she said they were dating, but that they had to keep things "low key" b/c of an ex of his. I asked him and he said no they are not dating and he doesn't sleep with her. He said he thinks she tells people that to "scare off people close to him that like me". It makes sense, but why doesn't he tell her to stop saying that about him? This all happened about a month ago, and just yesterday she posted something about her "bf" on facebook. I feel bad for her, b/c she is nice. I stopped messing around with him after she told me they were dating, but it still bothers me. It could be that he's telling the truth and this girl is just reading too much into their friendship, or he could be totally BSing me. Either way, she thinks they're together, and he still sends me sexually suggestive texts and wants to hook up with me. He won't push it if I remind him we're just friends, but still...
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 RED FLAG(s).. Stop sleeping with him. Something feels off. I highly doubt this 'friend' would lie about this, and he would deny it. I think he has afew women going on and probably is involved with his ex still too.
Author stace79 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 RED FLAG(s).. Stop sleeping with him. Something feels off. I highly doubt this 'friend' would lie about this, and he would deny it. I think he has afew women going on and probably is involved with his ex still too. That's what I think, too. I did stop sleeping with him. Actually haven't seen him for about a month at all.... he still calls/texts and asks me to hang out, and he still sends the sexually suggestive mesgs. I hate to think badly of him b/c I consider him a friend... maybe I shouldn't anymore. Makes me sad.
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