Author willowfields Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 what does my age have to do with anything. i guess no one here has ever felt jealousy, or has ever had privacy issues. i just stated some simple emotions that i'm feeling.
MizzBlue72 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I have felt what you have felt. My MM has a website with his pics... yeah, first time I saw it, it hurt. To think I would not have that with him. But - things have changed and he is soon to be Divorced MM .... Your feelings are normal and the more the OW finds out about the MM - the harder it becomes. You need to decide if you are ready to handle this. If not - I strongly suggest walking. Honey, I know you are NOT looking for advice, but if these hurt and you are taking them to heart and being cold because of them - don't expect a change. My heart goes out to you.
Author willowfields Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 ty. i appreciate it. i've been very cold to him, and taking it to heart.
Fallen Angel Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 Oh no. Examine that. Him not letting you on his laptop seems like a huge red flag to me. He shouldn't make fun of something you enjoy either. It is mindless fun. Nothing wrong with doing that sometimes. OMG!! Write this down!! I agree with GG!! I play farmville, and My MM laughs about it, and then when I get tired of harvesting and say forget it, he finishes it for me. He even got the garden game on myspace when i asked him to, cause i needed more recruits to unlock items. He even played it sometimes just to make me happy!! When I quit playing it, he deleted his. LMAO. The only games he won't join for me/with me are the "hotties/own your friends" things. He gets irritated when guys that know I am dating him make flirtatious comments to me, and he prefers to just not see it. As to allowing the use of his laptop, My MM allows me access to his anytime I want it.. and his phones, his suitcases with all his personal stuff inside, his wallet, his truck.... etc etc etc. Makes me wonder what the OP's MM is hiding?
MizzBlue72 Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 OMG!! Write this down!! I agree with GG!! I play farmville, and My MM laughs about it, and then when I get tired of harvesting and say forget it, he finishes it for me. He even got the garden game on myspace when i asked him to, cause i needed more recruits to unlock items. He even played it sometimes just to make me happy!! When I quit playing it, he deleted his. LMAO. The only games he won't join for me/with me are the "hotties/own your friends" things. He gets irritated when guys that know I am dating him make flirtatious comments to me, and he prefers to just not see it. As to allowing the use of his laptop, My MM allows me access to his anytime I want it.. and his phones, his suitcases with all his personal stuff inside, his wallet, his truck.... etc etc etc. Makes me wonder what the OP's MM is hiding? No, I have to disagree. I would NOT want access to MM laptop. That to me is invasion of privacy. I know if I asked, he would allow me, but I have my own, he has his own .... so what is the deal?? Use your own.
atlnay Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 what does my age have to do with anything. i guess no one here has ever felt jealousy, or has ever had privacy issues. i just stated some simple emotions that i'm feeling. Not that I've never felt jealousy, in my case wondering about your age would determine how I reply to your situation. If you were in your early 20's asking the question vs. being in your 30's, 40's, 50's sheds light on where the actions behind the jealousy are coming from. In other words, when I was in my 20's and I was jealous of something, I acted out and on emotions that now I wouldn't even think twice about. Wasn't meant to trivialize your feelings at all.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 28, 2010 Posted January 28, 2010 he is mean to me because of my farmville OMG. Please don't take this that I'm laughing at YOU. I'm so totally not. I'm laughing at the situation. The guy I'm dating told me to stop playing Farmville - it's stupid. And he makes endless jokes along the lines of: "I got a sheep for my uncle when he's lonely!" I told him how to hide those posts in his feed if it bothers him so much. You know what he said? "How would I know to give you **** about it if I do that?" Mother****er. LOL Why does Farmville bother some people SO much?
Author willowfields Posted January 28, 2010 Author Posted January 28, 2010 I dk why my mm hates it so much, but he does. Last night I asked him to take a quick look and he would not. He says it is retarded. To the poster who asked about my age, I'm in my 40s. I'm trying to get past the jealousy. Sometimes it is so hard.
Fallen Angel Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 No, I have to disagree. I would NOT want access to MM laptop. That to me is invasion of privacy. I know if I asked, he would allow me, but I have my own, he has his own .... so what is the deal?? Use your own. Invasion of privacy? When he offers it to me? I have my own laptop, and most often that is what I am on, but if we are somewhere when I do not have my own with me, he offers me his. It is not as though I am sneaking and looking through his personal belongings, he is offering them to me. I also let him use my laptop, does that mean he is invading my privacy? I don't think so. I have nothing to hide so I feel no need for 'privacy' from him anyway, and he feels the same about me. *shrug* Just like when my son needed some money for something at his school, My MM wanted to pay it.. when my son came to my room to get the money in the morning, My MM told me to get the money from his wallet. I did. Is that an invasion of privacy? I don't see how if he is offering it, it is an invasion of his privacy... invading someone's privacy would include looking through their things without their knowledge and/or prior consent.. it would also have to include something that one party wants to keep private from the other, since we are honest and open with each other, there is no need for 'privacy'.
fooled once Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 Different people have different thoughts on invasion of privacy. IF I offered my laptop to anyone, I would probably stand there and watch them use it *shrug* I like my privacy - from everyone, son and husband included. Son knows he is allowed to use my computer - but only for certain things. I don't want someone snooping around on it - even if I offered it. Same thing with my wallet. I would easily let my son go into it, but not my stepdaughter and I am very close to her. It is a personal thing. I don't like people using my stuff, unless it is an emergency. I am just funny that way. DH has his own laptop and I have mine. I don't even like using his LOL even though ours are exactly alike. Different strokes for different folks
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