ty1987 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 My ex and I have been broken up for about a week now, and had not contacted each other for the last six days. Today, I received a call from her saying that she's pregnant. Needless to say, I was shocked. She was freaking out about it as well, so she came over and had her take another pregnancy test just to make sure...it was positive. I'm 23 years old, and in no condition physically, mentally or emotionally to be a father. I'm scared to death. We both agreed that abortion would be the best solution, but who knows how far along she might be? Does anyone have any knowledge/experience with the situation I'm in? I desperately need some help...I have no idea what to do. I'm terrified.
Trimmer Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Why did you break up? And I'm sorry, but it's going to get asked eventually: are you sure you're the father?
carolinawanderer Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Okay...just calm down, and take a step back. Look at this rationally. You have three options. 1. Abort it. 2. She carries the baby to term, and gives it up to be adopted. 3. You keep the kid and enter into a quagmire over custody. It's good that you and her are at least agreeing on what the best option is. If she's too far along to have an abortion, remember you have option #2. There are plenty of couples who would want your kid if you guys are not ready to be parents. Even if you did want to keep the kid, there would be obvious issues there with the breakup. I understand that you're afraid, but remember - like I said - you both agree you don't want/aren't ready for a child. That's the biggest hurdle cleared, right there. There are so many couples that this happens to where one person wants to keep the kid and the other doesn't. It might sound twisted, but feel fortunate you guys have agreed on what to do.
nobmagnet Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 hi, you need to go to the doctors with her.\ \you both need to know how far along she is as it make a difference as the way the treatment goes. The other aspect of this this is to take care of her. She is scared.........you are scared and you have to be a man and be there for her as a freind even tho you have split. Think about it..........people with children split all the time but always have the children in common.........you do too now wheather the child is born or not. support her and be honest too but listen to her as the stuff going on within her is incredibly strong (hormones ect) you both have responsiblility for this. You would be less than a gentleman to disrespecther feeling in this. They allwayoffer councilling for a temination please take it?? im 39 have never had an abortion but i have had 2 close buddies that have and belive me............it aint easy in the long run either. take what help is on offer. i wish you and her well and i hope you are ok. hugs nobby xx
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