P.Peach Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 and even though I have been faithful to him, he has this overjealous, possessive attitude with me that it's starting to worry me. Sometimes at random, but usually before I get intimate with him, he does these "body inspections", which is actually physically touching me down under and checking if I feel "loose". It's quite offensive and it's bugging me like crazy. I've brought this up a million times to him but he keeps believing that by checking me, it'll show the real "truth" if i've been faithful. He's insecure...VERY insecure. Is this a good enough reason to leave him? I'm starting to believe so.
USMCHokie Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Ummm....I don't know how to react to this... Seriously, some things in life you just can't make up...
norajane Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Is this a good enough reason to leave him? I'm starting to believe so. In a word, YES.
Hot Carl Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 He's not smart enough to know you can wash off all the evidence? THAT's reason enough to leave him.
Leia Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 So he would be jeaous as well if you were with a dildo? Ditch the douchebag!
hoping2heal Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 and even though I have been faithful to him, he has this overjealous, possessive attitude with me that it's starting to worry me. Sometimes at random, but usually before I get intimate with him, he does these "body inspections", which is actually physically touching me down under and checking if I feel "loose". It's quite offensive and it's bugging me like crazy. I've brought this up a million times to him but he keeps believing that by checking me, it'll show the real "truth" if i've been faithful. He's insecure...VERY insecure. Is this a good enough reason to leave him? I'm starting to believe so. Whoa..whoa WHOA. THIS is sexual abuse. THIS is very, very , very wrong. I don't care if someone is your WIFE- you have NO right to do something like that. You are damn right it's a good enough reason to leave him that is terrible!!! I am so sorry to hear that and afraid for how the abuse could escalate, my goodness!
Skump Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 and even though I have been faithful to him, he has this overjealous, possessive attitude with me that it's starting to worry me. Sometimes at random, but usually before I get intimate with him, he does these "body inspections", which is actually physically touching me down under and checking if I feel "loose". Okay, look... you've been captured by Bowser what, about 20 times now? Eventually, Mario was bound to wonder if there's some complicity. He's insecure...VERY insecure. I shudder to suggest it but... could there be a height issue here?
squirly1522 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 and even though I have been faithful to him, he has this overjealous, possessive attitude with me that it's starting to worry me. Sometimes at random, but usually before I get intimate with him, he does these "body inspections", which is actually physically touching me down under and checking if I feel "loose". It's quite offensive and it's bugging me like crazy. I've brought this up a million times to him but he keeps believing that by checking me, it'll show the real "truth" if i've been faithful. He's insecure...VERY insecure. Is this a good enough reason to leave him? I'm starting to believe so. That is degrading and honestly that can be a DOOR to worst things to come. Thats not normal behavior at all. If he's willing to do something like, simply cause he dont trust you, Then you never know how far he will go with his alligations.
threebyfate Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Tomorrow, ask him to get every possible STD test known to mankind, before you're willing to sleep with him again. He'll be floored and probably ask you why. Your response should be "I need proof that you haven't cheated on me".
reservoirdog1 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 and even though I have been faithful to him, he has this overjealous, possessive attitude with me that it's starting to worry me. Sometimes at random, but usually before I get intimate with him, he does these "body inspections", which is actually physically touching me down under and checking if I feel "loose". It's quite offensive and it's bugging me like crazy. I've brought this up a million times to him but he keeps believing that by checking me, it'll show the real "truth" if i've been faithful. He's insecure...VERY insecure. Is this a good enough reason to leave him? I'm starting to believe so. That is really creepy. Yes, it's enough reason to leave him. It's degrading as hell.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 In one word: Yes. In more words: You need to get out of this fast, before it escalates into more. Soon he'll be binning all your nice clothes, locking you in the house, can you face that? Please for your sake leave him. The guy has issues.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Tomorrow, ask him to get every possible STD test known to mankind, before you're willing to sleep with him again. He'll be floored and probably ask you why. Your response should be "I need proof that you haven't cheated on me". Word. Some of them include having a nice long Qtip dipped down into the penis through the hole in the tip. Others involve a prostate jab that forces enough ejaculate to test. I can only hope they make it hurt and it will surely hurt his wallet as well. Seriously, I would insist on a FULL panel - the entire works and tell him that you need to be sure that he hasn't cheated on you. One of two things will happen: he will blow his top, or he will get it done and show you the (hopefully clean) results. Either way, there is only one solution to both: DUMP HIM This is the sort of behavior that graduates to physical beatings. Get out while you can, even if it takes a restraining order to do so.
imagine Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 How do you know that he is not cheating on you? Get him to drop his unmentionables and check for stains!
Author P.Peach Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 He started off checking my emails, looking through my phone without permission, then ACTUALLY using friends to contact my friends and see if I was with them OR not [to check if I'm lying]...so on and so on. I should've seen this coming. I'm really relieved you guys ALL have the same answer, so my heart has been pretty damn right this whole time. I swear I AM DUMPING HIM and I'll be better off being single and living my youth. Thanks again for the replies p.s He was starting to bore me anyway
New_Life08 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 He's obsessed, and I can't even believe he would admit to you this is what he is doing!! I would kick him straight in the a$$ and slap his face for degrading me like that. I don't know how you go through with sex after his little inspections...I would not...I would be GONE!
hoping2heal Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 He started off checking my emails, looking through my phone without permission, then ACTUALLY using friends to contact my friends and see if I was with them OR not [to check if I'm lying]...so on and so on. I should've seen this coming. I'm really relieved you guys ALL have the same answer, so my heart has been pretty damn right this whole time. I swear I AM DUMPING HIM and I'll be better off being single and living my youth. Thanks again for the replies p.s He was starting to bore me anyway YES, good grief dump him. You don't need to be the next farrah fawcett in the burning bed!
Green Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Okay, look... you've been captured by Bowser what, about 20 times now? Eventually, Mario was bound to wonder if there's some complicity. LOL very funy, And to the OP yes you should probably leave him
bethykins Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Usually when a guy is accusing you of cheating, he's done the deed himself and is paranoid that you'll do the same. I would definitely leave.
O'Malley Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I would advise dumping him from a safe distance (by phone). Your situation is disturbingly similar to a college friend of mine from years ago. He inspected her body on several occasions and when she came home one evening from an outing with some friends, he accused her of cheating and raped her. Don't think about getting back at this weirdo, just leave him.
AAlike Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Okay, look... you've been captured by Bowser what, about 20 times now? Eventually, Mario was bound to wonder if there's some complicity. I shudder to suggest it but... could there be a height issue here? This response isn't getting enough love...touche sir... to OP - this is so so so so bad that I would be concerned for your physical safety being around this dude. I assume that you've always "passed inspection"? What do you think will happen if he, for whatever reason, "fails" you?
threebyfate Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 p.s He was starting to bore me anyway He should have creeped you out the first time he did this. Get rid of him, STAT!
Angel1111 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Lose this guy, quickly. And you may want to slap him on your way out just because he deserves it.
Angel1111 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 He's not smart enough to know you can wash off all the evidence? THAT's reason enough to leave him. :lmao:
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