DamselInDistress Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 My ex and I were dating for 1 year-- had a really great relationship, almost never fought-- so it was a big shock and really devastating when he broke up with me--i ended up leaving the city where we both lived. I wanted to be friends at first (with hopes of getting him back of course), but he barely reciprocated, so I ended up writing him a 10 pg letter (oops! should've come to LS before doing that). After that he wrote me a bland, unemotional email, and called and i didn't answer. I basically decided that if the letter didn't get a positive response, then, it had to be NC. Letter was 1.5 months after breakup, NC for 2.5 months since then. In the time since then he has called twice, and from time to time (like, once a month) he emails me an article or video or something, and i never respond. Last night he sent a video of kittens playing (i love that stuff), saying he just HAPPENED to come across it and thought i would like it. He ended it with, "hope all is well in NY..you are missed here." BS, right??
VBH Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Yes, a bit of BS. My best guess would be that your ex is fishing. He wants to see what kind of response you might give him should he take things a step further. It would be better if he was just upfront with you, but apparently he is unable to do this at the moment. I would caution though, he may just be looking for an ego boost as people always want what they can't have. Go slowly if you are still interested to see what he really wants. You may need to just ask him and see if that opens up a dialogue. It may not (I have tried this only to get more of the same), but it is worth a shot. If you don't wish to pursue anything, then just tell him as much. VBH
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