weltrav Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Haven't been on this site for a bit, but tonight I logged onto facebook and right there on my newsfeed was a posted pic of my ex making out with her new boyfriend on new years eve. Honestly for the past month or so I've pretty much stopped loving/missing the person who is now my ex (I admit I still terribly miss the girl I once knew and dated) but damn seeing that pic put me into a bit of a panic/anguish fit. I haven't been dating this girl since last April and here I am in January dealing with this crap while she is off making out with a new guy.
carolinawanderer Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Haven't been on this site for a bit, but tonight I logged onto facebook and right there on my newsfeed was a posted pic of my ex making out with her new boyfriend on new years eve. Honestly for the past month or so I've pretty much stopped loving/missing the person who is now my ex (I admit I still terribly miss the girl I once knew and dated) but damn seeing that pic put me into a bit of a panic/anguish fit. I haven't been dating this girl since last April and here I am in January dealing with this crap while she is off making out with a new guy. I'm really sorry, man. A very similar thing happened to me last month - I saw a pic on Facebook of my ex's new b/f kissing her on the cheek, and she was grinning broadly at the camera (it was her new profile picture). It really upset me, but I knew she was with someone else for a while, so it stopped bothering me fairly quickly. My advice is to block her, so you don't have to put yourself through seeing what she may or may not be up to. If she doesn't care about you anymore, you shouldn't bother to care about her, either. Don't just de-friend her; block her. Hang in there. We get brokenhearted because we have the capacity to love...you've shown you could make it happen once, and it will happen again. Don't feel bad that it's taking a while to heal. It's been over six months since my breakup, and I still kick myself over the mistakes I made, I still miss her terribly, I still feel like there's a huge hole in my life. You will heal at your own pace.
Perhaps Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Why, oh why, do you do this? Stay away from them - including their facebook pages. It'll only bring self inflicted pain.
counterman Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Mate, a word of advice, just block off ALL contact that you have with her, which most definitely means facebook. You don't need to see that crap and your ex and her current boyfriend don't need to be in your life right now. I feel sorry for you but keep up the good work. I am sure my ex now is having the time of her life with her current boyfriend and it turns out this guy was one of my friends and there was just this unpleasant twist. She's definitely happier, most likely because she really likes this guy and he was half-hearted with me. But, if I ever saw a picture of them together, I would flip as well. I will go in a rage spiral so yeah, it's definitely not worth even logging on to facebook. Who cares if she is making out with this new guy or having sex with him or whatever, it has nothing to do with you and it's best if you just block all contact and continue to focus on yourself. Some anger is good and some sadness. It's all about you now.
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