guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I read a lot of posts that suggest that when a woman is truly interested, she'll make it very obvious. Other posts seem to suggest that women do play hard to get for a number of different reasons (e.g. fear to appear too "easy", lack of confidence, etc.). What are your thoughts on this?
Devil Dog Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think it's cute, until it becomes so difficult to discern, that youre convinced she isn't interested.
Johnny M Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I read a lot of posts that suggest that when a woman is truly interested, she'll make it very obvious. Other posts seem to suggest that women do play hard to get for a number of different reasons (e.g. fear to appear too "easy", lack of confidence, etc.). What are your thoughts on this? Every woman is different. Some play hard to get, others don't. The ones who play games usually end up getting played themselves and then complain bitterly about men being 'players'.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 What are your thoughts on this? yes some women play hard to get but the smart ones know when to stop...most men will give up if a woman is too unattainable
confusedmuch Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 There was a similar thread not too long ago and as one poster said: some women play hard to get but the women that are worth having don't play hard to get. They are hard to get. Makes sense to me
SOLACEMENT Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 There was a similar thread not too long ago and as one poster said: some women play hard to get but the women that are worth having don't play hard to get. They are hard to get. Makes sense to me wow...love it!
Green Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think making moves and putting yourself out there takes courage that the gender roles require the man to make most of the time. Some times women will make all the moves. In my experience the best results come when I made all the moves and didn't expect anything to be given to me in the begining phase of a relationship.
Author guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 There was a similar thread not too long ago and as one poster said: some women play hard to get but the women that are worth having don't play hard to get. They are hard to get. Makes sense to me Makes sense to me as well. I would agree with this. So when should a guy move on? I met at least one woman who was really hesitant for some unknown reason. Took me forever but in the end it turned out to be a great relationship (we're still friends).
LDR Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 As a woman, it depends on how much I am into the guy. If I am not that into him, you can say that I might come off as harder to get to the guy. If I am into him I don't play games. There should be a balance. . . I try not to come off as desperate, nor look uninterested. But once we are dating and everything is going well (we have kissed, they know I am into them), I don't want a commitment fast. . . in my previous relationships they had to wait, and the longer they waited, the more they insisted.
Author guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 In my experience the best results come when I made all the moves and didn't expect anything to be given to me in the begining phase of a relationship. I think the same. It's tough to find the right balance between trying hard enough and over doing it...
confusedmuch Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Makes sense to me as well. I would agree with this. So when should a guy move on? I met at least one woman who was really hesitant for some unknown reason. Took me forever but in the end it turned out to be a great relationship (we're still friends). Like you said, you met a woman who was really hesitant but you wound up having a great relationship, although it wound up as just a friendship. Personally, it drives me crazy when a guy keeps trying to "chase" me even when I've told him I'm not interested. I hate ignoring people or being mean. On the other hand, if I'm a teeny bit interested, I won't completely blow him off but I won't make any effort at all. If he's really that interested, it's up to him to make the moves, so to say. But I will answer his calls and texts usually. However, if I go days at a time without answering a call or text from him, that's usually the biggest signal that it's time for him to move on. If I haven't already told him that directly, of course.
Author guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Like you said, you met a woman who was really hesitant but you wound up having a great relationship, although it wound up as just a friendship. I actually meant that we dated for a long while and the breakup was relatively "positive". I've no regrets about that one. On the other hand, if I'm a teeny bit interested, I won't completely blow him off but I won't make any effort at all. If he's really that interested, it's up to him to make the moves, so to say. But I will answer his calls and texts usually. Ok but would you initiate a conversation?
counterman Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Some play hard to get and some don't. Personally, I think every guy needs a little bit of encouragement to get him going (if the girl is interest that is). If she is just plain playing hard to get without offering anything, then guys should just stop the pursuit; the girl isn't worth it.
DiscoChick Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I don't play hard to get. Men are just oblivious, and my social anxiety doesn't help at all.
confusedmuch Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I actually meant that we dated for a long while and the breakup was relatively "positive". I've no regrets about that one. Ok but would you initiate a conversation? I understood what you said about the positive breakup. I was only mentioning it because even though she was hesitant, after you pursued her, it was worth the "pursuit" to you. Meaning you never really know. But would I initiate a conversation? If I had no interest at all, no way. If I had a little interest, sure, I might initiate a conversation...probably only when I was bored. If I had a lot of interest, yes, I would definitely initiate a conversation.
pandagirl Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think it's probably most attractive when a women unintentionally plays hard to get, meaning a woman who has her own life, does her own thing, where the focus isn't always on a guy, and plans her life according to her needs, not a man.
bac Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think most women play hard to get sometimes. But, not all the time.
Green Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I think the same. It's tough to find the right balance between trying hard enough and over doing it... The right balance is not caring at all. See a girl you think is hot, don't talk yourself out of doing exactly what you want and feel no pressure because if she doesn't like you back then who cares. For me a girl breaking up with you after a year or more of dating really hurts but in those first few weeks or that first encounter I really don't give a crap if a beautiful girl totaly rejects me because I don't really know her and she can't know me. Once you learn how to enjoy yourself and be confident in your sexuality with women the right balance is what ever you enjoy. Just being yourself around women truely is the best. But to be yourself and not let fear stop you from saying and doing what you want with women it takes confidence. Confidence is the key and for me it came with age and sucess.
BackUpOrGetStung Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 When I get the sense a girl is playing hard to get, I start playing the conquest game. This means that I will lie/deceive to whatever extent necessary to make her think I'm serious, then once she gives it up...bye bye; this is unless I find I actually like the girl, but I generally despise girls that play this game which I why I make it a mission to hit it and quit it. The most recent one, geez what a dumbass, "I don't want to be with you, but you really led me on, just so you know". She still thinks I want to be her friends or something dumb like that. I didn't get my lacrosse sweatpants before I left her house for the last time, I hope she gives them back to me.
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