mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I dont know why I cant take it, but I cant take it!..I have never had anything against motorcylces, ever, untill my boyfriend went off and bought one. From the first mention of it it angered me (i have no clue why) and I really let him know. Well, whatever day after my birthday he buys himself a motorcycle. Which by the way he has no idea how to ride one..all he has is a few friends who do own them, and tell him all the time how much they love to go on rides for no reason. I just think its so dangerous and the idea of him riding one around worries me. He works often and has very little free time, he already complains about how little time he has allll the time. So what did he want something he would have no time for. This would just mean that he would have to make time. And the day he ditches me to ride his bike around will be the day i really throw a fit! I know, I KNOW that i should just let him do what he enjoys (not like im stopping him anyway, he still always has things his way) but this idea I just cant bring myself to accept. I HATE IT:mad:
Devil Dog Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 What exactly do you not like about it? Is it that he can't afford it? Or that he won't use it? Or that it's really dangerous?
Johnny M Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I dont know why I cant take it, but I cant take it!..I have never had anything against motorcylces, ever, untill my boyfriend went off and bought one. From the first mention of it it angered me (i have no clue why) and I really let him know. Well, whatever day after my birthday he buys himself a motorcycle. Which by the way he has no idea how to ride one..all he has is a few friends who do own them, and tell him all the time how much they love to go on rides for no reason. I just think its so dangerous and the idea of him riding one around worries me. He works often and has very little free time, he already complains about how little time he has allll the time. So what did he want something he would have no time for. This would just mean that he would have to make time. And the day he ditches me to ride his bike around will be the day i really throw a fit! I know, I KNOW that i should just let him do what he enjoys (not like im stopping him anyway, he still always has things his way) but this idea I just cant bring myself to accept. I HATE IT:mad: Let's face it - you think that the bike will attract attention from other girls (which is probably true). That's the real reason for your concern.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 He can afford a bike. In fact he can afford a lot of things and he always mentions how he doesnt know where his money goes. But why does he wanna push his luck and drive something so unsafe around for fun? I mean I know when its your time to go, your going. But add something dangerous to the equation.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Well, whats the real reason a guy wants a bike? It can attract some girls attention, but im a girl, and I never was awed,or even impressed, by a guy with a motorcycle before
Johnny M Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Well, whats the real reason a guy wants a bike? Not everything in life is about attracting girls' attention. Believe it or not, sometimes men do certain things simply because they are 'fun'.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 even so girls is not biggest concern with this..i guess i really want to know, how to be supportive, even when im not in agreement. I dont want to be mad at him forever
Devil Dog Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 He can afford a bike. In fact he can afford a lot of things and he always mentions how he doesnt know where his money goes. But why does he wanna push his luck and drive something so unsafe around for fun? I mean I know when its your time to go, your going. But add something dangerous to the equation. What you see as danger is part of the appeal of motorcycles, two wheels, open air, that kind of thing. He might just want some extra excitement in what he perceives as a dull life. even so girls is not biggest concern with this..i guess i really want to know, how to be supportive, even when im not in agreement. I dont want to be mad at him forever Let him take you on a ride or two every now and again. I would imagine on of the things running through his mind when he bought it, was having you on the back.
Woggle Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I don't have a bike but I bought my jet ski because it is fun. My wife loves it but if she didn't I would still keep it. It has nothing to do with getting women.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 aww..that kind of is something I wouldnt have thought of. But I have tried to go on a ride before and im terrified of it, it was the scariest thing ever.
Mr White Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Well, whats the real reason a guy wants a bike? It can attract some girls attention, but im a girl, and I never was awed,or even impressed, by a guy with a motorcycle before The only real reason a guy does something is because he likes it :rolleyes:.
guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 A similar situation happened to me a few years ago. In a nutshell, I think this kind of behaviour is excessively controlling and selfish. When she expressed her disagreement, my GF suddenly became less attractive to me and we were done within two months. The guy wants his motorcycle, let him have it. He's not committing a crime and you're not his mother (and not even his wife). If it makes your BF happy, you're supposed to support him.
Devil Dog Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 aww..that kind of is something I wouldnt have thought of. But I have tried to go on a ride before and im terrified of it, it was the scariest thing ever. Make sure he gets a license for it, or have him take driving lessons and you won't have a reason to be so scared of it.
Mr White Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Next, he should buy a gun . Although I'd get the gun first, the motorcycle second. Guns are cheaper.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Let him take you on a ride or two every now and again. I would imagine on of the things running through his mind when he bought it, was having you on the back. i feel like telling him im sorry for giving him a tough time.
carhill Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 he still always has things his way What does this mean?
paleblue Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 maybe he is just wants to experience something new, exciting. i dont ride my bike to attract women, i ride mine because it is fun. plain & simple. and for no other reason. plus, i must say its good on gas. nothing like riding the open road on a hot day with your t-shirt on. it's just fun. you feel free. if you want to be supportive even tho you dont like it - just dont say anything to him about it. ya know?? than you wont have to pretend anything. now you got me thinking - cant Wait for Spring so i can start riding again! sigh
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 he actually already has a gun, but because he works with border protection.
Author mprettyshoes120 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 What does this mean? It means i have never stopped him from anything. He does what he feels like when he has the time to.
Payden Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 You only live once and people need to do stuff they have always wanted to do.. He wants ride a bike, because he just always wanted too and now he can.... Let him be happy with it. No worries... he could easily get hurt in a car just as well and just make sure he properly learns to ride well and buy him the latest protective clothing. Maybe this is just a phase, but support him if he wants to do this.
guy.lepage Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 It means i have never stopped him from anything. He does what he feels like when he has the time to. There's a fine line between not stopping him and acting mad to discourage him.
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