AudiHax Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Hey all. I didn't know this site existed until yesterday, and I'm so glad that I found it to know that there are many other people in the same type of situation as I am. I have been in a LDR with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We live in two different countries so we don't get to see each other as much as we would like to. We have visited each other a couple of times before and stayed 3 months at a time. Each time was so great. The thing is, my parents are pretty old fashioned and can't understand this type of relationship. They've never been really happy about it and never talk about him or anything with me. I know that they're worried about me because I'm not interacting in a normal relationship, having that "normal" life that most people my age have. I'm 23. And they're worried that I'm going to end up hurt because she can't see us being able to be together any time soon.. We love each other very much and no way do we want to end things. We plan on going to Europe together this summer for two weeks. Everything is set but now I need to tell my parents that I want to go on vacation with him. Im nervous about mentioning him after so long, because they don't realize I still talk to him. And I know they're going to be all worried about me again because I'm still in the relationship with him. I honestly don't know how to straight out tell them about the vacation. I don't want them worrying about me and it makes me uncomfortable talking about it all with them. Has anyone any advice or easy ways to break it to them? I need all the help I can get to keep my relationship comfortable and strong for everyone..
Boundary Problem Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Break it to them slowly. Groom them. Drop hints you are still talking... etc. Give a LITTLE, but not much, more information in each phone call to your parents. By the time you drop the bomb about going on vacation, they won't even raise their eyebrows. They will have an opinion (can't help that) but at least there won't be a big blow-out.
sharkhunter Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 (edited) I honestly don't know how to straight out tell them about the vacation. I don't want them worrying about me and it makes me uncomfortable talking about it all with them. Has anyone any advice or easy ways to break it to them? I need all the help I can get to keep my relationship comfortable and strong for everyone.. Hey, you are 23, a grown up, you love this guy and he loves you. Just tell you're parents (in a respectful way) what your plans are. Don't EVER live your life to please some one else not even your parents. Sometimes two people fall in love who live far apart. It happens. It happened to me. That's why they invented airplanes. You only get ONE SHOT in this life girl! Go for what you want and NEVER look back Edited January 25, 2010 by sharkhunter
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