drew Posted December 30, 2003 Posted December 30, 2003 my gf just dumped me over a very stupid reason. she said she felt tied down and she wanted more free time. we have been together fourteen months and its hard that she ended everything we had because she wanted free time. she wasnt willing to try and work it out with me. we have gotten back together three times over the fourteen months, and as i know i should move on, i am deeply in love with this girl and i keep telling myself to wait and she will come around. do you guys think i should try andf move on, or should i wait a little while before i do?
werty Posted December 30, 2003 Posted December 30, 2003 i think u should give urself some time to be free.. think about things... is she worth it or not? if u think shes worth ur time, den go for it.. but if not, let her have that space she wanted... its her loss anyway, not yours....
UCFKevin Posted December 30, 2003 Posted December 30, 2003 Don't even bother thinking she might come back. That way, if she does, it's a wonderful surprise, and if she doesn't, it's no shock. Just move on, buddy. When they want their space, sometimes, if not most of the time, they get their space and keep it. It sucks but that's the way it goes. In relationships, it's never really a good idea to assume the best. Whether she's worth waiting for or not is irrelevant, has nothing to do with what you think or feel, it's all on her. You can wait and wait and wait but nothing will happen. I mean, something COULD happen, hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Be a realist.
mjk Posted December 31, 2003 Posted December 31, 2003 I agree with UCFKevin, Why punish yourself?, go out and make a life by having fun. The more you reflect back on this the more it will hurt.
Kat Posted December 31, 2003 Posted December 31, 2003 Any relationship where you keep breaking up and getting back together, it just putting off the obvious. Move on, be free, cherish the memories but don't harp on them
Vivid_29 Posted December 31, 2003 Posted December 31, 2003 It's not worth it to wait. Cherish the good times and move on. Meet other people, date other women, and be happy as a clam! You owe that much to yourself! ~V
monkey Posted January 1, 2004 Posted January 1, 2004 Hey, if you love her & she's worth fighting for, do it. If you don't you may never know how it may work! Me & my gf have seperated because she needs space, she says she may never want to be together again, but i love her & when i first asked her out she was adamant she didn't want me. But i persevered, carried on seeing her as a friend & it happened. If i had done as she said & forgot about her, we wouldn't have been together for the last 15 months, so i have to try that again! & so should you because you never know! This does happen.
werty Posted January 1, 2004 Posted January 1, 2004 yup monkey u are right on ur opinion... kevin is also right... everyone has the right idea in a given situation... but all will still be u & her decision. i gues since she asked for that "space", give it to her when ur done ur best to have her back... she might needs this "space" to think about things for herself, for you & for ur relationship.. just give her that and see what happens. dont try to bother her. busy urself with other stuffs... let her think about you & let her miss u before u try again. shell come around when she realises how important you are to her.. but for now, respect her wishes... good luck...
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