Lost-n-confused Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 So I was supposed to hangout with the girl who avoided my kiss on the farris wheel. So I texted her about hanging and she said we need talk... So I called her... She starts explaining how she doesn't want to get involved because she doesn't want to effect my decision about becoming a navy pilot and that she has so much experence and I have none and how it's going to be an issue down the line. I stopped her and told her straight up and wouldn't let her speak. First, I may or may not get into the navy and I'm not going to sit back waiting and let a good opportunity pass me by. I also explained that I'm looking for a relationship first and if its not you that will sway my desision it will be someone else. Second, so I'm inexperenced and yea I will get hurt by my first, in fact I'll get hurt by anyone when things don't workout. It's not like I haven't been hurt before. I will get hurt I will get over it and I will move on. Once again I said if it's not with you it will be someone else.. I explained my virginity and I explained how many women I've been dating. I told her that I saw someone the day before her and the day after but it was her I really wanted to continue to see. I also told her about the girl I wasn't interested in that I could have in a heart beat. I told her that if she just wants to be firends she can take a hike and that that's not good enough for me. I also explained that I have no problems finding other girls to date but it's her I really want to continue to see. I told her I had bought a bottle of wine and a single rose to bring to her that I wish I could have this converstation over a glass of wine with her. We ended up talking for an hour and a half and I eventually said again I really wish I could have a glass of wine with her... That's when I had one of the most suprising moments in my dating life so far. She told me to step outside my house. I stepped outside in a shirt and boxers. There she was sitting in her car. She drove 40 mile because she wanted to give me a hug... It was an amazing hug too. So we sat out on my porch and drank the wine and she told me at some point in our convo her mind changed and she just had to see me. She said she realized that Im a very intellectual person and mature for my age. I made some very convincing points and that I said sone very sweet things. She said I spoke in a commanding voice like a general and argued like a lawyer. She also said I had alot of balls. We ended up cuttling on a couch for an hour just talking till my mom came home. Once she came home it was time for her to get going... I took her rose and walked her to her car. We talked about me going to Italy next week and if I'm going to see her before I go. We took each other in our arms and had a long deep hug. Then she kissed my neck and I kissed hers. Then had a half kiss on the lips and we again kissed each others cheek/neck and then we had a short but passionate kiss on the lips. Then she said that's all you get for now and gave me a little bite on my neck. She called me a badass and then we parted. Idk what happend last night... Is she a game player or was she unsure. All I know is she went from trying to drop me to suprising me at my place, cuttleing with me and have a first kiss... I still have no expectations and will have to wait and see what happends. Alot was said and I left out alot of detail but this was a recap. All the cards are on the table now. She knows everything and I mean everything and still kissed me.
OnlyJake Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I guess having someone fight for her got her libido going.
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I don't understand why you are doubting her?
tami-chan Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 You changed the game...you said that if all she wanted was just to be friends with you then she can to go take a hike! I bet that didn't sit well with her...watch her put you in a position where you will beg for her to stay with you..... I won't waste my time on her...
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 Friend just told me he saw her at the movies Thursday giving a guy a pop kiss.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 wow... whats a pop kiss the chick seems like a player anyway
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 You don't know what a pop-kiss is? You know when you have short quick kiss on the lips. Not long and slow. First kiss.... Well I'm planning on going to a movie with her tomorrow... Friend saw her on a date Tuesday... Yet Wednesday we held hands at the fair and cuddled up... Friday she claimed she had a previous dinner engagement but eluded to it being work related with some new clients.... Friday night she texted after twelve about calling me for our Saturday date... Then the rest is history... Now I don't know if its worth asking if she is seeing anyone else or just continue to date her and see where it goes. Maybe me being a man changed her mind... Asking will appear jealous or unconfined and will do nothing but turn her off. I'm leaving for Italy for 10 days on Wednesday.. So Ill go out tomorrow and hopefully have an amazing time and have a more passionate kiss. Then 10 days of absents will give her time to make her mind up and I will come back to someone who is uninterested or ready to purse a relationship with me... Hopefully...
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Don't ask her about other men. That will just make you seem wimpy and insecure. Completly ignore it and concetrate on showing her a good time. Make sure you sex it up, flirt more and try for a kiss. You need to get the sexual vibe going strong or she will feel that there are no "sparks" and lose interest.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 def. dont ask her about other men......thats like a death wish. go for it...but be guarded for sure
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Im deff not going to ask. Does she really sound like a player?
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 LNC - I'm thinking it sounds like she had a line-up going and you were just in the mix. She was getting ready to cut you because you didn't make try-outs. Sounds like she changed her mind when you really spoke up for yourself. Keep showing her you're the man. Either she'll see what a gem she's got, or she'll make a stupid move. There's no way for anyone here to see the future. If she kissed some dude Thursday, it's possible he was just in the line-up. But if she kisses some guy while you're in Italy, I'd drop her. Especially after her little display at your house. Time will tell.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Update: So long story short we talk a little dirty on phone before bed and we end the call and she tells me to text her a good nite hug and whatever else. So write a little sorry n send it... Few mins later I get back a story from her. We start sexting at 2:30 in the morning and we deside to just do it over the phone we endup having an hour long phone sex converstation. * Going on a date with her tonight. She told me it was the fact that usally she walks all over the man and for the first time she just shutup and listened. That and I said some pretty sweet things too. She said her body told her it was right and she just drove over.
counterman Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Keep speaking out for yourself and don't let her walk over you ever then I think some phone sex, although I would never get into it, would build some sexual tension. See how the date goes!
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 Update: So we went out to the movies last night. We saw Sherlock homes... I maybe saw 15 mins of the movie. We practically had the theather to ourselfs and we acted like we did... We got into a pretty hot makeout sessions with some heavy petting. After the movie we went to my car and continued what we started. The sexual tension is tremendous now.. I never madeout with anyone before and she knew it. I'm such a fast learner she said and she didn't believe it was my first time... We figured out what we both like and know exactly what turns each other on now.**
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Update: We figured out what we both like and know exactly what turns each other on now.** WOW! I'm jealous!!! btw - you have a LONG way to go in learning about each other. I cant believe you had phone sex with this girl...and you never made out with her - OR anyone else before!! craziness. SteveJohnson can't even BUY a kiss. and I mean BUY...if you've seen my other threads, you all know how much I have spent on dating the past 8 weeks (YES, I know its wrong and it doesnt matter - dont flame please;))
Crazy Magnet Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 WOW! I'm jealous!!! btw - you have a LONG way to go in learning about each other. I cant believe you had phone sex with this girl...and you never made out with her - OR anyone else before!! craziness. SteveJohnson can't even BUY a kiss. and I mean BUY...if you've seen my other threads, you all know how much I have spent on dating the past 8 weeks (YES, I know its wrong and it doesnt matter - dont flame please;)) Yes, but I so enjoy your threads! LNC---You get down with your manly self! I agree, you have a LONG way to go in learning what turns her on, and then women in general. My best advice is to listen to her when she gives hints about what she wants. An inch to the left can make all the difference! lol Glad to see you are having fun!!
bac Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 IMHO, first, she felt insecure about her age, then you told her that you are a virgin. So, it change the situation completely, now, she has no reason to be insecure because she feels confident because of her sexual experience. She feels like you are insecure now, but she is in a better position. This emotional arrangement would turn many women on.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Navy pilot huh? Well I'd say with this situation... "Negative Ghostrider the pattern is full" - Top Gun
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Yes, but I so enjoy your threads! ! well thanks;) i wish I enjoyed them as much as you....my dating life is in shambles...i wont even tell you guys the email I got from Date #4 girl (my last thread) last night. as for the OP...open communication of physical desires is SO important and critical for a great physical connection (read: sex)....
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 26, 2010 Author Posted January 26, 2010 How do I know if this is purely sexual? She mentioned how amazingly fast we figure out our special kiss. She said it make her wet.
start-fresh Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 IMHO, first, she felt insecure about her age, then you told her that you are a virgin. So, it change the situation completely, now, she has no reason to be insecure because she feels confident because of her sexual experience. She feels like you are insecure now, but she is in a better position. This emotional arrangement would turn many women on. Does that actually happen? Women getting turned on by guys that are inexperienced because it makes them feel better about themselves? I guess I can see your logic but I have a hard time believing it.
start-fresh Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 How do I know if this is purely sexual? She mentioned how amazingly fast we figure out our special kiss. She said it make her wet. Does it matter?
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