frenchgirl Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I'm interested in this guy who has been single for a few months now. I was surprised to receive a note from him recently, asking me how I'm doing and to "give him a shout". So I gave him a shout, just being nice and friendly, and he doesn't answer. He'll initiate another conversation a couple of weeks later, as if the first one never even happened, and the same thing happens again. Is he just a lousy communicator or does he contact me just because he's bored (and not really interested)? I noticed he often writes me late at night.
GAchasen Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I'm interested in this guy who has been single for a few months now. I was surprised to receive a note from him recently, asking me how I'm doing and to "give him a shout". So I gave him a shout, just being nice and friendly, and he doesn't answer. He'll initiate another conversation a couple of weeks later, as if the first one never even happened, and the same thing happens again. Is he just a lousy communicator or does he contact me just because he's bored (and not really interested)? I noticed he often writes me late at night. IMO, he is not interested. Not sure why he intiated contact in the first place, if he was going to contact you weeks later??? That sounds odd to me....I wouldn't talk to this guy!
OceanTropic Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 He writes late at night cuz he wants a booty call. If you don't respond right away, you are useless. Even if you respond the next day, he has no interested in you now. He wanted you last night, when he was horny. Forget him, he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy.
Orchid8 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 That is annoying. I think people do it because they aren't interested in the first place. They are probably just bored and going through their contact list to see who they can txt but don't really care enough to follow through on the convo. You should just ignore his texts.
GAchasen Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 He writes late at night cuz he wants a booty call. If you don't respond right away, you are useless. Even if you respond the next day, he has no interested in you now. He wanted you last night, when he was horny. Forget him, he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy. Yeah...initiating contact late at night is a huge red flag for someone who is only interested in sex. Also, you stated he has only been single for a few months... he probably is just casually dating at this point;)
Author frenchgirl Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 He writes late at night cuz he wants a booty call. If you don't respond right away, you are useless. Even if you respond the next day, he has no interested in you now. He wanted you last night, when he was horny. Forget him, he's just trying to find a f*ck buddy. I thought of that but aren't guys horny every night? I've been around the block and don't get offended in a guy being mostly sexually interested in me. They are usually more persistent though...
Author frenchgirl Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 That is annoying. I think people do it because they aren't interested in the first place. They are probably just bored and going through their contact list to see who they can txt but don't really care enough to follow through on the convo. You should just ignore his texts. Thanks for answering. Yes it is annoying indeed! Maybe he's too shy to invite me out? I must say I'm being "girly" here and I won't invite him since he's the one who initiated contact.
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 You called it a "note" and said he "writes" late at night - is he texting? Iming? Email?
Author frenchgirl Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 You called it a "note" and said he "writes" late at night - is he texting? Iming? Email? Sorry for being unclear. He emails me.
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Sorry for being unclear. He emails me. Well that doesn't sound like a booty call. Is email the only way he has to contact you? Maybe late at night is the only time he can email. If really interested, you would think he would be more persistent or say so in the email but he may be trying to determine your level of interest. Are you friends? If so email him and ask him if he would like to get together and catch up? In person, you can gauge his interest or use it as an opportunity to spark interest. If he doesn't respond to the email promptly then I think he isn't interested.
Author frenchgirl Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 Well that doesn't sound like a booty call. Is email the only way he has to contact you? Maybe late at night is the only time he can email. If really interested, you would think he would be more persistent or say so in the email but he may be trying to determine your level of interest. We actually have each other's phone number but have never used it... Are you friends? If so email him and ask him if he would like to get together and catch up? In person, you can gauge his interest or use it as an opportunity to spark interest. If he doesn't respond to the email promptly then I think he isn't interested. We are "friendly", but not exactly friends. I agree we should discuss in person but don't you think he should do the invite though?
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 We actually have each other's phone number but have never used it... We are "friendly", but not exactly friends. I agree we should discuss in person but don't you think he should do the invite though? Maybe he is emailing because he lost your number and doesn't want to have to tell you that. Try emailing him your phone number and see if that prompts him to invite you out? Hopefully, he won't start texting late at night.
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