Introvert and Extrovert Relationship?

[Peter Attis]

I haven't seen a lot of discussions on this on here.

 

I find these kind of relationships interesting because they involve two people who are polar opposites in terms of their sociability. But the one kind of relationship I find the most interesting is the introverted male and the extroverted female, particularly because this kind of relationship is more likely to fail than an introverted female and an extroverted male. Which makes sense. The extroverted female may find the introverted male's more reserved traits attractive, but that can eventually devolve into her believing that he is weak or boring.

 

So my question is primarily to anyone who fits into the those two categories (E female, I male), but you don't, please feel free to still post. Anyway, my question is, if you are an extroverted female, would you date an introverted male? If you have before, how did that work out? And the same question goes to the introverted males about the extroverted females.

[Vintage79]

I'm on the introverted side and have definitely dated my fair share of strong extroverts - it's generally worked pretty well. Being the introvert, I need to go a bit out of my comfort zone on occasion and let her do the larger group thing, but every relationship requires some compromises - besides, this dynamic really has helped me grow as a person. My longest relationship have actually been with the extroverts - for me the combo's great. If she always needed dozens of people around, then I think I'd be in trouble, but honestly, once you get to know her friends enough, it's not that rough (the introvert side of me really only kicks in in groups of people I don't know - I do alright with groups I know - which also worked for them).

[Kelly5]

I dated an introverted male for 4 years and it didn't last. I wanted to be social and go out with friends and other couples on the weekends and he didn't. I wanted to be be together in public places (around people) and he didn't. I would have conversations with strangers and he always seemed annoyed. He constantly told me I talked too loud in restaurants, but I know I didn't .

Point is, I couldn't handle it anymore. He never wanted to do anything fun and he just didn't "like other people" very much. He didn't excite me and keep me on my toes. There has to be a balance in a relationship, but I do think it's easier for the male to be extroverted and the female to be introverted. I guess it's the perception that men are supposed to be funny and loud.

[ella23]

My relationship is the other way around. I am more of an introvert and my boyfriend is an extrovert. It's working well so far.

[someotherguy]

Well, I'm the E and my girlfriend is the I, so we're the more classic relationship type, I guess.

 

I have a huge collection of friends roughly grouped into three distinct circles, and she has maybe a dozen friends she sees individually.

 

She socializes fine with my big crowds o' friends, but tends to wander to the edge when adrift from me at social gatherings, talking one on one with someone when I'm not nearby.

 

When we meet her friends, it's always a couple's or individual thing, like dinner or drinks at a bar. With my friends, it's large house parties, pub crawls, etc.

 

She does ask me occasionally to give her a couple weeks in between large events with my friends, as she seems to need time to 'recharge her batteries'.

 

As time has gone on, she's less anxious around my friends, so time will tell, I guess.

[SadandConfusedWA]

I hate introverted men/ extroverted women scenarios. This sets up the typical passive/pu$$y whipped male and dominant/biatchy female dynamic that makes me

[ella23]

^^But extrovert female =/= aggressive always.

Just like being an introvert doesn't necessarily make one a pushover.

Edited January 30, 2010 by ella23