Is she 100% serious about divorce? Whats your ?

[AussieDave]

Thank god for LoveShack! Just reading some threads has helped me a lot!

Anyways here's how it is for me! Married 7 years 2 kids 5 and 2yrs old.

Our marriage has had the normal issues nothing to serious appart from me drinking which is all under control now but has had lasting effects. Lets say a couple of times over the last couple of years the wife has mentioned about me not showing her enough attention and saying that I was never happy, in which I have always been happy! I spose when the kids came we stoped going out as much just the 2 of us but I always knew that would come back when they got older. Now for the last 18 months,,,,,she was asking me to move so she could be closer to her family. This move was 1500kms so not a small one for me. After realising that this could improve our marriage we both decided to do it. I moved the family and I would stay for 6 months in my Job then come later. I did this and flew to see them every 2 weekends in which the sex was great, we would also talk alot more on the phone aswell when I was away. It seemed things where improving! Then I moved! I knew the first 12 months for me would be tough with settling in a new place finding work friends etc, I found a casual job in no time which was good because providing for my family was paramount. This was casual job was going to end and the stress of finding another job wasn't helping us. During this time the wife brought back the issues of showing her no attention and the marriage wasn't working. I was teling her I was trying to adjust to a new environment the stresses of looking for work and recovering from drinking is probley the reasons at this point in time for this. As in the past when issues have surfaced we only spoke about it and done nothing really different. This time we discovered my wife had been suffering from depression so she recieved treatment for this. Things did improve for a while. I found a secure job everything seemed ok I was settling in, then "BOOM" She tells me she can't do it anymore she's had enough she's reached breaking point.

That was 6 weeks ago. This is some of the things thats has happened to suggest she is not 100% serious about divorce. We are living together but are "seperated" The first 4 weeks were a living hell for both of us.. I was doing all the wrong things saying she is the only one for me, I couldnt live without her crying fighting with her blah blah blah.My wife has not told me directly that she wanted a divorce, I kept asking her what do you want what do you want a divorce,,she just cried and said yes. Dang stupid me!She on her own terms has not directly told me she wants a divorce.UNTILL! I read Homer Macdonalds book "Stop your Divorce" Using some of the methods in this book things have changed. I am or act happy which seems to confuse her I said I would see a solictor and she took a backward step! She still cooks for me on occaisions and we eat together.I am enjoying my freedom now and if I dont come home after work on a normal time she rings or texts and gets a bit angry? We even had a game of scrabble together with a few laughs. We have watched the girlie movies together that I have never watched. She does stay at her friends house over weekends but I have just put that down to giving her space. I don't ask what she does anymore! She has told me she doesn't believe in divorce but she deserves to be happy. I just don't think she is 100% serious about a divorce! What's your opinion?

[Brooke79]

Just from your post it doesn't sound like you have done too much damage, just my thoughts though, you sacrificed and moved to make her happy that gesture I itself is huge. I wish you the best In working it all out. Stay strong.

[AussieDave]

Thanks brook79 thats what I thought, Just one of a few things I've done. Thanks again for the support!