Southern Belle Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 How do you really feel about a woman asking you out? Are you flattered? Or do you find the woman to be too agressive? I am entering the dating scene again, and want to know what I am getting myself into. I searched the internet a bit, and found "professional" dating experts say everything from "NO, the woman should never ask the man out, the man should always do the pursuing" to "You only live once, go for it". So, I am even more confused. Also, I have been out of the dating pool for a very long time (recently divorced after a long marriage). I think that several men have been flirting with me, but honestly, sometimes I can't tell if they are flirting or just being friendly. How do you men flirt? Give me some clues, what should I be watching for?
betamanlet Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 How do you really feel about a woman asking you out? Are you flattered? Or do you find the woman to be too agressive? I am entering the dating scene again, and want to know what I am getting myself into. I searched the internet a bit, and found "professional" dating experts say everything from "NO, the woman should never ask the man out, the man should always do the pursuing" to "You only live once, go for it". So, I am even more confused. Also, I have been out of the dating pool for a very long time (recently divorced after a long marriage). I think that several men have been flirting with me, but honestly, sometimes I can't tell if they are flirting or just being friendly. How do you men flirt? Give me some clues, what should I be watching for? I would probably have a heart attack and die if a woman asked me out... But in a good way...
USMCHokie Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I think it's fantastic if a woman asks me out. It puts her in a much more positive light in my mind right off the bat...but that's just me... I think that any guy that gets turned off by a woman asking him out has either got some issues...or isn't interested in the woman... And any woman who absolutely refuses to ask a guy out...well, that's her perogative...I personally think you're just shortchanging yourself and probably missing out on a lot of potential opportunities...
Golfilla Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 How do you really feel about a woman asking you out? Are you flattered? Or do you find the woman to be too agressive? I am entering the dating scene again, and want to know what I am getting myself into. I searched the internet a bit, and found "professional" dating experts say everything from "NO, the woman should never ask the man out, the man should always do the pursuing" to "You only live once, go for it". So, I am even more confused. Personally I'd have no problem with a woman asking me out, and I suspect nor would any man who actually has an interest in you. If a guy rejects you as being "too aggressive" for that reason, it's usually his way of saying he had no intention of dating you anyway.
Woggle Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 In theory I like it but if I were single and a woman asked me out I would be very hostile.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 How do you really feel about a woman asking you out? Are you flattered? Or do you find the woman to be too agressive? I am entering the dating scene again, and want to know what I am getting myself into. I searched the internet a bit, and found "professional" dating experts say everything from "NO, the woman should never ask the man out, the man should always do the pursuing" to "You only live once, go for it". So, I am even more confused. Also, I have been out of the dating pool for a very long time (recently divorced after a long marriage). I think that several men have been flirting with me, but honestly, sometimes I can't tell if they are flirting or just being friendly. How do you men flirt? Give me some clues, what should I be watching for? IF you've got the confidence and the ovaries, go for it. Although maybe in this society, having a woman ask and initiate something makes her seem desperate, while if a man does it, it's normal. Usually if us men are talking to you for an extended period of time and does not look bored, we're interested. :bunny:
meerkat stew Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 You don't have to ask them out, just approach and flirt with them a bit. If they are interested, especially older guys, they will get the hint and make the move. But to answer your question, women asking out is fine for me, I always appreciate being asked out regardless if interested in the woman or not.
tami-chan Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Wow...I have never asked a guy out...but the posts here are so encouraging...but if I get turned down I think I will be like Betamanlet "I will probably have a heart attack and die" and it will be in bad way...
Pizzaman81 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Wow...I have never asked a guy out...but the posts here are so encouraging...but if I get turned down I think I will be like Betamanlet "I will probably have a heart attack and die" and it will be in bad way... Awww you won't get turned down...
carhill Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 You'll have arrived when you're both rolling around in your wheelchairs and neither of you can remember who asked who out first Anecdotally, the lady I went on a 'date' with today contacted me first. I asked her to lunch. We went; we ate, we drank. We enjoyed ourselves. That's what life is about, IMO
tami-chan Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Awww you won't get turned down... Pizzaman....hehe..
radwimps Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 not a bad thing to do. I personally would say yes if I had even the slightest feeling for the girl. But one trick to the mind(Atleast what I've experienced) is that when a girl comes on a little too strong, I tend to lose feeling for her. I can't really explain why, even if I REALLY liked that person before she came on too strong. Maybe I'm just the chase-thrill type? I don't know haha.
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