Jackbarmby2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Hi, right. Me and this girl we used to be really close;that close that we were almost going out around 1 and a half years ago. but we fell out and 6 months after that i started to speak to her again, but with a nervous feeling in my head. then it was the holidays and i was texting her on holiday cause she goes the same place for holiday. then on MSN she was saying she missed speaking to me, i missed her too but was too much of a pussy to say it back(or shy). and then around 1-2 months ago she found out that i liked her again(because she thinks that i stopped liking her and i didnt like her for certan periods of time. but ive liked her ever since. Lately after she found that i like her. i have become very very shy with her, to some extent that she gets annoyed( or did do she hasnt said anythint o me lately about it) that i didnt speak. now me and my friends and her friends have started hanging out like we used to. but im shy, and i just dont know how to overcome this shyness. now im crazy about this girl, only thing i think about before i go to sleep. but everytime im around her nervousness seems to make me have an arkward feeling and i become shy, something which i never used ot eb with her. What ways are there t over come shyness, im 15 by the way and i would be really greatful for help
zebracolors Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 My opinion? You're young to be really worrying over relationships too much. However I can say from experience that its so easy to be afraid of saying the wrong thing. And I will be honest, there really is no easy cure for shyness. It's just something you have to overcome I feel. I've always been on the shy side myself, especially in my teens. Heck, I'm in my 30s and still mostly shy around new people. But being older, I've been in more kinds of social situations, both during school years and the years after, so I've picked up a few things, and it's not so bad anymore. I have more of a sense of how to be myself, even if deep inside, there is still a little anxiety, wondering if I'm coming across as interesting or whathave you. And really I think in time you will too. As for your dilemma here, well if she's about the same age as you, she she's not so experienced either. I can tell you though that the more you open up, the easier it gets, and that happens with older people too. You two begin to trust each other, and over time you won't be so shy around her, but you have just say what's on your mind, even if its hard to organize your thoughts, from the nervousness. Speak up about how you feel, you'll thank yourself. Hope this helps.
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