Golfilla Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Reading another thread got me curious, what deal-breakers do you have when it comes to a serious relationship? What things will you absolutely not tolerate? I'm going to list a few of mine below, but let me qualify it a little by saying that I am definitely NOT trying to control anybody else here. As far as I'm concerned they can do whatever they like. I'll still talk to that person, I may even go out with the occasionally on a casual basis, but I won't be initiating a serious relationship with them. Here's the list. * Smoking and/or drug use (including anti-depressants) * Drinking excessively (by "excessively", this would be a person who either compromises their health, has an addiction or does stupid things like trying to start fights when they drink) * Constantly wanting to check up on me every minute of the day. * Gets upset if I don't call her EVERY day. * Has tried to cheat *with* me when she was with someone else (note: I may have meaningless sex with that person if I'm single at the time, but I won't be having a serious relationship with her). * Still wants to hang out at nightclubs/danceclubs on a regular basis (one-off occasions like wanting to see a particular concert are no problem, but if she's going to those places on a regular basis, it means she's still trying to hook up with other men. Her choice entirely, but I don't want her as a gf) * Nagging/criticising constantly (you took me as I am, now deal with it) * Excessive materialism and expects me to pay for it. That's not an exhaustive list, and I'll think of more later, but it covers most of the points.
sadintexas Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 My top five are: poor communication skills manipulative disrespectful dishonest can't or won't pull his own weight
OnlyJake Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 This isn't an exhaustive list by any means. * Smoker (aside from a very occasional social/drinking cigarette or cigar)/Uses drugs/Alcoholic * Controlling/manipulative * Cheater/liar/disrespectful * Irresponsible with money * Not into sex * Doesn't want to get married/wouldn't consider having kids/hates pets * Obnoxiously liberal/very religious * Is "good friends" with ex's * Victim mentality
Author Golfilla Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 Oh yeah, good call on the financial irresponsibility. A massive credit card debt is an immediate deal breaker, I don't need that baggage.
OnlyJake Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 (edited) * Currently has any STDs * Has ever had sex with a prostitute (granted, I might never find this out)/committed crimes that required jail time or are illustrative of poor judgment, poor character and poor morals, or violence/has ever served jail time for anything other than an overnight after a wild, drunken night, assuming the previous two comments didn't land him in jail Edited January 24, 2010 by OnlyJake
Peter Attis Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 * Won't let me lick her ******* * Won't lick MY ******* * Won't do ass to mouth. No thanks.
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