kendok Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 hey just lookin for a bit of advice im a bit useless at all this lol any way i met a girl through a friend of mine before i went home for christmas and i when i was away we txt each other condtantly which then turned into phonin each other and spendin hours on the phone to each other and she made it clear she wasnt sure what was goin to happen when i got back anyway when i got back things went really well and she has spent loads nights at mine and stuff but my friend was talkin to her and she says she doesnt want a relationship(i know she was badly hurt from her last one) basically what i am wondering is if it is worth wiatin about for or should i not get to involved??? cheers for any advice
FieryDream Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) Well I think maybe you should ask her about what happened between her and her ex. If she pushes you away don't press her (just leave it basically) but sometimes people can only move on when they let stuff out in the open. Being a girl I understand this myself as I pushed people away when my mum tried to commit suicide....talking about it's the only you feel able to move on if you get my drift. Edited January 23, 2010 by FieryDream
Author kendok Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 she has told me a bit he hit her and that is y they broke up and she is really scared of being hurt(physically and emoitinally) again which is y i think she is soo gaurded i am tryin to show her that normal ppl arnt like that but i dont wanna push too hard incase i scare her off
FieryDream Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 hmmm how about you ask her to go on a kind of date, but more a socializing thing if you get me. be gentle and nice to her, and one thing I thought which could work is you could say to her about experimenting with one date and see how she feels, I wouldnt push her if shes dead set against it. If in the date she is looking uncomfortable maybe tell her gently that remembering him wont make the pain go away and that I want you to enjoy yourself and forget about him for the time eing.because in situations like that usually if your the victim of the old relationship you can never put the memories of the past out of your head. do something that requires your concentration maybe, because then she wont be thinking about her memories hope this helps Sophie
boogieboy Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Its not that she doesnt want a relationship, she just doesnt want a relationship with you. But she will lie to keep your attention if you ask her about this. Its not worth getting involved with, plus she prolly isnt over her ex yet. Im a skeptic, so I wouldnt believe her when she said her ex abused her. Run like the wind!
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