EricaH329 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?!
Crow9726 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I don't think you're wrong. I can only speak for myself...but the things you say you offer your man in a relationship is what so many of us want. Not a mother figure...but someone who actually cares and is tender and nurturing. I'm kinda old fashioned and my upbringing may be different from many here...not to mention my age...lol
Woggle Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Let them talk. If you stay this way you will eventually find real love while your friends will go through one miserable relationship after another blaming the men while never looking at themselves.
ella23 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! It's strange that they brand you as a mother figure. If you're in a relationship, obviously you'd want to take care of your man.
Eve Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I love looking after my Hubby. It took me a while to find someone who could give their heart though... but it was a worthwhile wait. However I would be very cautious of being placed in a motherly role by a man. This can destroy the foundations of a relationship. Most important is that you are really good friends methinks. ... but yeah, its lovely to be looked after too.. Take care, Eve xx
norajane Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 There's nothing wrong with that, as long as you aren't the one doing all the giving in a relationship. If you get the emotional support and feel cared for by your man, too, then simply enjoy! The only time being giving in whatever way you are giving is a problem is if the person you're with makes you feel you're being taken advantage of and doesn't do much giving in return. Just make sure you're not with someone who takes your giving for granted and does all the taking.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! "Giving" beats getting, by a mile... And I imagine the prospects of "getting" from the likes of you would be enough to make a guy leap off the ground, wrap his arms around himself, and flutter back to earth much as does a tree leaf (some cartoon character did/does exactly as described, who was it? {seems as if I recall it being a dog of some sort} <the dog reference being no implication here at all> ) Though I have to imagine that what you've described here demands that you be considerably careful about who you select as your partner. The bad guys would so easily take advantage of what you are offering. The good guys (would irritate the life out of you, in good ways, for their eager and sincere desire to HELP you do the work). You certainly seem like someone who is destined for exceptional emotional satisfaction if you are so aware of yourself so early in life. I just hope that you can always see a black and white line between your being treated fairly, and NOT being treated fairly. Carry on...
Author EricaH329 Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 "Giving" beats getting, by a mile... And I imagine the prospects of "getting" from the likes of you would be enough to make a guy leap off the ground, wrap his arms around himself, and flutter back to earth much as does a tree leaf (some cartoon character did/does exactly as described, who was it? {seems as if I recall it being a dog of some sort} <the dog reference being no implication here at all> ) Though I have to imagine that what you've described here demands that you be considerably careful about who you select as your partner. The bad guys would so easily take advantage of what you are offering. The good guys (would irritate the life out of you, in good ways, for their eager and sincere desire to HELP you do the work). You certainly seem like someone who is destined for exceptional emotional satisfaction if you are so aware of yourself so early in life. I just hope that you can always see a black and white line between your being treated fairly, and NOT being treated fairly. Carry on... You are always so kind! And you definitely know how to make me smile! Thank you very, very much!! You are right though, I have been taken advantage of before. To be honest, I don't really expect anything in return for the things I do. It makes me happy to make others happy. But when I do these things, and the other person treats me like crap in return, it really makes me feel bad. So, you are right. I need to be careful who I take care of. It's really hard these days to figure out whether a guy is good or not, and when I do, it's usually too late.
Payden Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You are always so kind! And you definitely know how to make me smile! Thank you very, very much!! You are right though, I have been taken advantage of before. To be honest, I don't really expect anything in return for the things I do. It makes me happy to make others happy. But when I do these things, and the other person treats me like crap in return, it really makes me feel bad. So, you are right. I need to be careful who I take care of. It's really hard these days to figure out whether a guy is good or not, and when I do, it's usually too late. I'm tellin ya... If I had a girl to do that for me and WANT to, then I sure as hell would show my appreciation to her as much as possible. Screw what they say, #2......If this is what you want then this is what you want as long as you're happy. I Just hope you find a man who is good enough for your .....ummm...... touch?...lol:love: Later, #2.....
Woggle Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! Most women would consider you a stepford wife because feminism has taught women that treating a man well means they are slave.
bayouboi Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 You sound amazing. Keep your head up! *edit* And judging by your photo albums you look amazing too. You've got nothing to worry about!
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 There's nothing wrong with this at all. It only becomes wrong if you feel taken for granted, unappreciated or if your generosity then becomes his expectation that you must always be doing x, y and z. My mum is a mother hen and was warned she would 'make a rod for her own back'. I've noticed everyone expects her to do everything and never helps; so yes be generous and look after people - thats great - but make sure they appreciate you and help you too.
skydiveaddict Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! My goodness, where have you been my whole life? What a treasure you are!
Author EricaH329 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I'm tellin ya... If I had a girl to do that for me and WANT to, then I sure as hell would show my appreciation to her as much as possible. Screw what they say, #2......If this is what you want then this is what you want as long as you're happy. I Just hope you find a man who is good enough for your .....ummm...... touch?...lol:love: Later, #2..... Thanks #1! Most women would consider you a stepford wife because feminism has taught women that treating a man well means they are slave. I think that's total nonsense, in my opinion. I know i'm going to get crap for what i'm about to say... but this is just my opinion and I respect everyone elses. But I feel like that's one of my jobs as a female. And I don't dislike doing them, I actually fully enjoy it! I love taking care of people, and doing things for people. It makes me happy. So it's not just that I feel like it's my duty (which I do), but it's something I like to do. Every female is different though. I think that's why I get a lot of crap from my friends about it. Most of my friends don't believe I should be doing these things, but they don't understand how I work. Which is alright. You sound amazing. Keep your head up! *edit* And judging by your photo albums you look amazing too. You've got nothing to worry about! Thank you!! There's nothing wrong with this at all. It only becomes wrong if you feel taken for granted, unappreciated or if your generosity then becomes his expectation that you must always be doing x, y and z. My mum is a mother hen and was warned she would 'make a rod for her own back'. I've noticed everyone expects her to do everything and never helps; so yes be generous and look after people - thats great - but make sure they appreciate you and help you too. I totally know what you mean. There have been times when people expect me to do something because i've been doing it for them for so long. But I guess that's the risk I take. My goodness, where have you been my whole life? What a treasure you are! Thanks!!
Leia Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 I don't see why your friends should give you a hard time for taking good care of your man. Keep doing what you love doing. Your man is going to be a very happy one! I love doing it and I got that from my aunts and cousin. My sister and mother, they are a whole different bunch from all of us! I feel fully satisfied after taking care of my boyfriend. He loves to eat and I'm slowly learning how to cook his local cuisine. I'm not sure if it has to do with the guy too cause I never bothered to cook for anyone before! Hehe also, I don't cook at all before this. Starting to learn ....
Author EricaH329 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 I don't see why your friends should give you a hard time for taking good care of your man. Keep doing what you love doing. Your man is going to be a very happy one! I love doing it and I got that from my aunts and cousin. My sister and mother, they are a whole different bunch from all of us! I feel fully satisfied after taking care of my boyfriend. He loves to eat and I'm slowly learning how to cook his local cuisine. I'm not sure if it has to do with the guy too cause I never bothered to cook for anyone before! Hehe also, I don't cook at all before this. Starting to learn .... Exactly!! I'm glad there's another female on here that feels the same way I do! Makes me feel like less of a freak
Leia Posted January 27, 2010 Posted January 27, 2010 Exactly!! I'm glad there's another female on here that feels the same way I do! Makes me feel like less of a freak A couple of months ago, I would find you freaky ....
timmytak Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 where can I find a girl like you at? lol:confused:
Meaplus3 Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! Oh gosh I don't think it's wrong at all I'm the same way. I don't really see it as beign a mother figure, just as beign a good SO or wife to the man I love. It's also what I saw growing up.. and I guess in this reagrd, I followed the same pattern as my mom. I think times have changed and more men are taking on a role in the household than ever before.. and that is ok, but it's not for me. So. I'm with you here. Forget what your GF's say.. if your happy that is all that matters. Mea:)
Jersey Shortie Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Most women would consider you a stepford wife because feminism has taught women that treating a man well means they are slave. That's why I always make sure my chains are rust free so I don't have to get him a tetanus shot! I think cooking and cleaning for your man is fine. You become "mommy" when you baby them, hold no expectations of them, and coddle them. But that's a big difference from just doing things for them that make you feel good like cooking and cleaning.
sunrae Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I love to take care of my man. Emotionally and physically. I love to cook/clean/listen, etc. I've gotten so much sh*t from my girlfriends, saying that i'm a 'mother' figure. But I take that as a compliment. I feel like my purpose in life is to take care of those that I love. Is that so wrong?! There is absolutly nothing wrong with that. If there were more people in the world like you, it would be a much better place... I'm like you. I'm a giver(of my time and gifts). It makes me happy to make the people around me happy. I love to do things for people, that is my way of showing people how I care about them .. I just read the 5 love launguages, singles addition, and it talks about the 5 different ways people express their love. You are just a giver.
Author EricaH329 Posted February 25, 2010 Author Posted February 25, 2010 Oh gosh I don't think it's wrong at all I'm the same way. I don't really see it as beign a mother figure, just as beign a good SO or wife to the man I love. It's also what I saw growing up.. and I guess in this reagrd, I followed the same pattern as my mom. I think times have changed and more men are taking on a role in the household than ever before.. and that is ok, but it's not for me. So. I'm with you here. Forget what your GF's say.. if your happy that is all that matters. Mea:) Thank you Mea!! And you are totally right, times are changing. Which I guess could explain why none of my girlfriends really understand. But that's ok, because i'm doing makes me happy That's why I always make sure my chains are rust free so I don't have to get him a tetanus shot! I think cooking and cleaning for your man is fine. You become "mommy" when you baby them, hold no expectations of them, and coddle them. But that's a big difference from just doing things for them that make you feel good like cooking and cleaning. I completely agree. I think that maybe sometimes I do baby them, when they are sick especially. But I think that if it's balanced out the right way, than it could be a healthy combination. There is absolutly nothing wrong with that. If there were more people in the world like you, it would be a much better place... I'm like you. I'm a giver(of my time and gifts). It makes me happy to make the people around me happy. I love to do things for people, that is my way of showing people how I care about them .. I just read the 5 love launguages, singles addition, and it talks about the 5 different ways people express their love. You are just a giver. Aww Sunrae, you are amazing! Thank you!! I'll have to check that book out! Was it any good?
sunrae Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 I'll have to check that book out! Was it any good? I loved that book. It was recommended to me by serveral different people. I made a lot of since. I wouldnt mind mailing it to you if you would like. Just PM me your address and I can drop it in the mail. Or if not no biggie, I bought it off amazon. There are several different versions of it, so being single I bought the singles addition... You're a great person with a big heart. Never doubt that!!!
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