samsungxoxo Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) I'm mainly referring to quiet ones that aren't into partying all day or clubbing that much nor afraid to display their emotions? Are they mainly on libraries? Where else??? Not interest in party animals nor overly talkers that don't know when to shut up or those with a history of sleeping around (too many sexual partners).. Edited January 23, 2010 by samsungxoxo
Itzo Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'm mainly referring to quiet ones that aren't into partying all day or clubbing that much nor afraid to display their emotions? Are they mainly on libraries? Where else??? Not interest in party animals nor overly talkers that don't know when to shut up or those with a history of sleeping around (too many sexual partners).. DO you really think, this is what you are looking for?
Author samsungxoxo Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) DO you really think, this is what you are looking for? Yes. That's why I rejected two men from a previous job. They were the overly alphas making moves too fast and talked too much. I want the serious ones that would treat me seriously, not those thinking ''Let me see how fast I can get her to be my girlfriend'' or ''I can't wait to nail this beauty'' mentality.... that aren't afraid to show emotions either. In terms of sexual partners, I'm looking for one with either low numbers or a newbie (I don't mind, I would be glad to teach). Where are those rare ones? Edited January 23, 2010 by samsungxoxo
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Ok, here comes my serious post... Alpha males aren't necessarily party animals, clubbers, or promiscuous men... Alphas are strong, assertive, and confident. They are comfortable with themselves and reflect that in their behaviors, whether it be in conversation, the way they walk, or even on the dance floor at the club or bar. They generally aren't shy or timid. However, don't mistake a loud, obnoxious douchebag as always an alpha...oftentimes it can be a front to hide insecurity or lack of confidence...a kind of defense mechanism for some people... Not to say betas aren't desirable...
carolinawanderer Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yes. That's why I rejected two men from a previous job. They were the overly alphas making moves too fast and talked too much. I want the serious ones that would treat me seriously, not those thinking ''Let me see how fast I can get her to be my girlfriend'' or ''I can't wait to nail this beauty'' mentality.... that aren't afraid to show emotions either. In terms of sexual partners, I'm looking for one with either low numbers or a newbie (I don't mind, I would be glad to teach). Where are those rare ones? I'm an extrovert but I also consider myself to be a beta. I definitely prefer "quality time" with friends or a partner to hitting the clubs, and I'm pretty good at talking about how I feel. There are plenty of us around, but betas tend to be a little less visible.
Author samsungxoxo Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 I'm an extrovert but I also consider myself to be a beta. I definitely prefer "quality time" with friends or a partner to hitting the clubs, and I'm pretty good at talking about how I feel. There are plenty of us around, but betas tend to be a little less visible. Yes indeed which is why it'll probably take a couple more rejections as time passes by. I guess it depends on the place. If it's on a library then it's more likely they'll be there.
Itzo Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yes indeed which is why it'll probably take a couple more rejections as time passes by. I guess it depends on the place. If it's on a library then it's more likely they'll be there. wow a woman on hunt This is kind of unusual Guys who are needy, are not alpha males. Considering how fast can get a woman to get nailed like some kind of sick competition I understand this, but everyone has their own preferences Alpha males are confident, a little cocky (but not overly confident - like arrogance), being in control & leading. Dominance is a key here ... not manipulators, but coachig or guiding people. The type of males "you are looking for" are timid and shy ... they never expose themselves to women. So instead of waiting for them ... you have to be at hunt LEt me tell you, men these "beta" males are afraid to show their emotions, they are not confident ... you are just looking for an ideal type of person that does not exist! Period! Do not tell me that you are looking for a nice guy Actually, lets be REAL here ...deep down in yourself, you do not know what you are actually looking for. What you think you are looking for or what actually you may looking for are two different things. Because when you think, you do not use emotions, but logic
Itzo Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Ok, here comes my serious post... Alpha males aren't necessarily party animals, clubbers, or promiscuous men... Alphas are strong, assertive, and confident. They are comfortable with themselves and reflect that in their behaviors, whether it be in conversation, the way they walk, or even on the dance floor at the club or bar. They generally aren't shy or timid. However, don't mistake a loud, obnoxious douchebag as always an alpha...oftentimes it can be a front to hide insecurity or lack of confidence...a kind of defense mechanism for some people... Not to say betas aren't desirable... I agree here
counterman Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yep, you get that typical douche bag who is all loud, extremely arrogant, objectionable and just a complete.. douche who THINKS he's an alpha male. There are many of them and they are annoying. There's both good and bad in alpha and beta males but they all have different personalities (even though sometimes it seems as though some are very similiar). I know of many who aren't into partying and clubbing and the like but are really confident and humble so they aren't really cocky or anything. They probably enjoy just hanging out with their friends. I have no idea where you would be able to find beta males but, yes, try the library or book stores.
bananaboat11 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I wouldn't consider myself beta, whatsoever... but I am definitely NOT a party animal. I am a DJ (hobbyist for 9+ years) and that is the ONLY time you'll find me at a party. If I'm getting paid. I am a full time graduate student... and I am not quiet/to myself (but I know boundaries), but I am not a party animal. You can find guys like me @ a local coffee shop... a university library (not the main, but a smaller... big uni's usually have these)... you can find us at the quiet, chill, tranquil bars in town maybe having a GOOD IPA or Pilsner... or porter beer like a green flash IPA or an Allagash.. hell even a newcastle. mmm or even wine.
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I wouldn't consider myself beta, whatsoever... Yea, they have another word for you: Awesome.
Woggle Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Please do not get involved with one of these types just to dump him and break his heart when you get bored becuase most likely that will happen.
Author samsungxoxo Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 You can find guys like me @ a local coffee shop... a university library (not the main, but a smaller... big uni's usually have these)... you can find us at the quiet, chill, tranquil bars in town maybe having a GOOD IPA or Pilsner... or porter beer like a green flash IPA or an Allagash.. hell even a newcastle. mmm or even wine. Thanks, will try that.
betamanlet Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I feel like I've woken up into a twilight zone episode. this cannot be happening.
Stung Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 As others have said, it depends what you are calling a beta? My husband is self-assured, opinionated, intelligent, has varied and (mostly) mature tastes, definitely is NOT a loud douchebag and not into obnoxious partying and strip clubs or big sports events. We met online and currently spend most of our time wrangling our kids, but when he is released into the wild he can normally be found at coffee shops, a small brew pub indulging his beer snobbery, on a hike, at an underground art/metal sculpture exhibit, playing arcade pinball or bowling with his guy friends...I don't think of him as a beta, but if you're defining the alpha as an obnoxious caveman toolbox, then i guess he is .
Pizzaman81 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Ok, here comes my serious post... Alpha males aren't necessarily party animals, clubbers, or promiscuous men... Alphas are strong, assertive, and confident. They are comfortable with themselves and reflect that in their behaviors, whether it be in conversation, the way they walk, or even on the dance floor at the club or bar. They generally aren't shy or timid. However, don't mistake a loud, obnoxious douchebag as always an alpha...oftentimes it can be a front to hide insecurity or lack of confidence...a kind of defense mechanism for some people... Not to say betas aren't desirable... +1, I approve
Pizzaman81 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'm mainly referring to quiet ones that aren't into partying all day or clubbing that much nor afraid to display their emotions? Are they mainly on libraries? Where else??? Not interest in party animals nor overly talkers that don't know when to shut up or those with a history of sleeping around (too many sexual partners).. I am not a beta male, but I am currently at Barnes and Nobles. See you there! Ciao.
alphamale Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Alpha males aren't necessarily party animals, clubbers, or promiscuous men... Alphas are strong, assertive, and confident. They are comfortable with themselves and reflect that in their behaviors, whether it be in conversation, the way they walk, or even on the dance floor at the club or bar. They generally aren't shy or timid. indeed USMCH
Disillusioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 What about the betas who become alphas, or vice versa?
meerkat stew Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 As far as "alphas" and "betas" it's a silly distinction to make for human beings. We don't always travel in packs, we don't sniff each others butts, we don't lick our own balls (despite that some claim to want to, I sure as hell don't), and most importantly, we aren't subject to cyclical mating behaviors, we choose when to mate, female humans stopped going into heat eons ago, and that is the primary determinant of the alpha/beta distinction in mammals for which it is applicable. As tempting as it is to reverse anthropomorphize pack animal behavior back to human beings, it just doesn't work. Because of self-consciousness, and the role that big brains play in our lives, we are all capable of nearly simultaneous display of what people refer to as alpha and beta behavior. The variability of our potential responses to any given stimulus is so much broader than less complex mammals. Some men engage in more masculine peer activities, some don't. Has nothing to do with whether a man is an "alpha" or a "beta." What the alpha/beta distinction does very well though is compartmentalize men and make us look more animalistic. Without turning this into one of my patented verbose political rants, it doesn't take a genius to understand why this kind of compartmentalization is common in modern socio-political culture. Don't play to them and don't play to it. Just don't use the terms intended to polarize gender relations by creating a victim mentality in women and characterizing men as more akin to brutal animal enemies than human beings.
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