betamanlet Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 i actually would prefer asocial smoker, but 2-3 packs a day is too darn much
Disillusioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Weird divided answer here. I cannot tell a lie, smoking looked sexy when Marlene Dietrich and the Virginia Slims models did it... and I guess if you can live without hardcore kissing and you're not going to have kids, then go ahead and smoke up, because the smell doesn't bother me much. Although I never smoked and never will. But then again, my mother and aunt both smoked 2 packs a day and died from the big C before they were old enough to retire. So then I had to ask myself, would I want to get romantically involved with a woman who might be a cancer time bomb? The answer is no. Besides, it's no fun dating someone who complains about not being allowed to smoke just about anywhere they go these days.
CarrieT Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Besides, it's no fun dating someone who complains about not being allowed to smoke just about anywhere they go these days. I totally concur; I lived with two smokers -- my husband, 25 years ago and my most recent relationship, for 2 1/2 years. The worst part with my most recent ex (besides the complaining about where we could go and hang-out where he could smoke), but we traveled a lot and the first thing after the plane landed was that I had to sit and wait for him to smoke a cigarette or two after the flight. After being on a plane for 8 or 10 hours, I wanted nothing more than to get in a taxi and get the heck out of the airport, not sit around for another 15 or 20 minutes... Will never date another smoker. Can't stand how it made my clothes smell, the constant haze on all the glassware and mirrors, and the occasional burn hole in our clothes.
Kelly5 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 MAJOR deal breaker. I could not date a habitual smoker... no matter how attractive I find them. If he smokes, I wouldn't give him the time of day. I know it sounds harsh but it turns me off so much. However, an occasional (as in once a month) cigarette while drinking I could handle.
alphamale Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? i smoke half a pack a day. i would date another light smoker but not one who's smoking 2-3 packs/day actually most of the women i've dated have been non-smokers
SOLACEMENT Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I would not consider a long term relationship with someone who smoked 2-3 packs(thats like a cig in your hand atleast 8 hours a day) But I do like casual smokers( I think smoking is sexy,which horrible ..i know i know) but I like the smell of cigs..weird(and bad for me)..being that I don't smoke ,haven't tried smoking and have no plans to But a guy and a cig...huge turn on
Golfilla Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Dealbreaker right there. I'm into healty living and keeping fit, so it would be a major clash. I'll probably still talk to the person, I may even see them socially on occasion (and only at non-smoking venues), but a serious relationship just is not going to happen.
shadowplay Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) It'd bother me, but it wouldn't be a deal-breaker with a few conditions (see below). Cigarette addiction is the only one I can kind of overlook as it doesn't really affect a person's functioning or behavior like other addictions do. I also don't mind the smell on somebody, as long as I'm not breathing it in directly. It's just really ****ty for their long term health. It would, however, be a deal breaker if: I knew they'd be smoking like this for many years to come. But if they were fairly young, I'd allow them time to quit. They smoked in my presence, especially if we weren't outside. Edited January 23, 2010 by shadowplay
rina_r Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I dont care as long as they smoke outside the house and the car.
Orchid8 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 It used to be but not so much anymore. However, 2-3 packs a day is a bit much so it would be a deal breaker for me.
Jesper Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? Scent is a huge turn on for me, so no I would never consider a smoker for any kind of relationship, except friendship. Then of course you have that lovely smoker's cough to think about, that's damn attractive
sharkhunter Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? No cause if they smoke that much they aint gonna be around for long anyway
tami-chan Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 not a dealbreaker but certainly a red flag...smoking is an addiction-so being with someone who smokes is like dealing with someone who has no control/lost control/or given up control of his life/health to an addiction.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 not a dealbreaker but certainly a red flag...smoking is an addiction-so being with someone who smokes is like dealing with someone who has no control/lost control/or given up control of his life/health to an addiction. Definetely a deal breaker for me. Sorry, I'm picky? btw. Tami-Chan, do you get your pictures professionally taken? Most of your pictures look like studio pictures.
betamanlet Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 not a dealbreaker but certainly a red flag...smoking is an addiction-so being with someone who smokes is like dealing with someone who has no control/lost control/or given up control of his life/health to an addiction. But there are TONS of addictions. Sex, coffee, sugar, etc... SOciety is based upon addiction, addiction and insecurity is what gets people to consume, which makes the economy go round....
Golfilla Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 But there are TONS of addictions. Sex, coffee, sugar, etc... SOciety is based upon addiction, addiction and insecurity is what gets people to consume, which makes the economy go round.... So you accept your mediocrity then? Most people aspire to be something greater.
betamanlet Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 So you accept your mediocrity then? Most people aspire to be something greater. Maybe aspiration is an addiction? YOu don't do something a lot , like exercise, hike, ski? read? Those are addictions as well if you do them a lot.. I love green tea. I would say I'm surely addicted to it. There is no shortage of women who are addicted to chocolate.
tami-chan Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 But there are TONS of addictions. Sex, coffee, sugar, etc... SOciety is based upon addiction, addiction and insecurity is what gets people to consume, which makes the economy go round.... Ahhh true...but nicotine is a carcinogen, proven over and over again-besides...it really smells bad and the discoloration it causes is really unattractive... Anyway, are you saying then that even if we know it IS bad for us since "society is based upon addiction" that we should not do anything about it then? Passively accept it and go with the flow.....let it destroy us..because "it is what it is"?
Golfilla Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Maybe aspiration is an addiction? YOu don't do something a lot , like exercise, hike, ski? read? Those are addictions as well if you do them a lot.. I love green tea. I would say I'm surely addicted to it. There is no shortage of women who are addicted to chocolate. I exercise a lot, and in my case, it may be an addiction, but even so it's still a lot healthier than smoking. Besides, the point with smoking is that it affects not only the smoker, but everyone around them. I personally don't want to live with that everyday, and a lot of other people feel the same way, as evidenced by this thread.
cashew Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? No, I wouldn't. I only considered health conscious addiction-free men.
Ingenue Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Smoking would be a deal breaker for me. I personally get headaches through second hand smoke so dating a man who has a cigarette constantly in his mouth is not appealing. If he was an occasional smoker (1 to 2 sticks a day), I might consider dating him, if there was a promise to quit in the near future.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 I won't lie and pretend to care about some stranger's health on a date 1 or 2. This would only concern me if I started falling for him. But, I do care about my own health. Spending 3 hours inhaling a constant stream of second hand smoke on the first date can't be good for me. Yes I did ask about the guy I had a date with and will possibly see again. And I asked him how much he smokes, he said "2 packs on a good day". So he isn't a light smoker by any means. I do think I will have to draw a line and not date him.
Inquisitive2 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Smoking is absolutely a deal breaker. Even if you make excuses for them in the beginning stages of the dating process because they tick many of the other boxes, this will still cause huge issues further down the line. Better to realise what is acceptable and what isn't early on to avoid heartache in the future.
You'reasian Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? Can they run a full marathon? If so, sure.
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