SadandConfusedWA Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship?
ella23 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Hmm good question. It depends, does he plan to do anything about it in the future or not?
Island Girl Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 2-3 packs a day would mean they pretty much have a cigarette in their mouth ALL the time...
Pyro Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 That much smoking in a day? Better believe that's a deal breaker.
BUENG1 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? I would date a smoker but not 3 packs a day.
ella23 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yeah, if he was willing to at least reduce the amount he smokes after dating for while, I would consider him for a ltr.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 2-3 packs a day would mean they pretty much have a cigarette in their mouth ALL the time... Pretty much IG....
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I absolutely would not deal with it. No exceptions. There's too many other good people out there, so there would be no reason for me to have to put up with it. If a girl I was seeing started smoking, we'd be done'ski.
carolinawanderer Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'd consider it...but this would be a major, major issue. It would depend on the person.
Itzo Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? I will not consider relationship with that person. Trying to convince him/her to stop doing it ... sets up the 'losing the game button.' There are plenty of options out there, but also plenty of smokers.
Els Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Definitely. Secondhand smoke is worse than firsthand, and I don't plan on getting lung cancer anytime soon.
anne1707 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 It was for me - until I met my H. Though he stopped smoking a few years ago which is much, much better.
counterman Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yep, definite deal breaker. I can't imagine kissing someone who smokes.
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yes dealbreaker, I cant stand smoking as I am very much into healthy living and keeping fit and well and would want my partner to share the same attitude. Smoking that excessively is such a turnoff. The smell of it disgusts me too, and I have kissed many smokers in the past which has not been pleasant. I just hate the way you can just walk past a smoker very briefly in the street for example, and even that is enough to make the smell cling to your hair and clothes for a while, urgh.
Mr White Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 If by "dating" you mean screwing on regular basis and then going our separate ways - then, no, it won't be too much of a problem. If by dating you mean a LTR with the prospect of living together, then she'll have to tone it down to a couple of cigarettes a day tops or quit altogether, or we should literally go our separate ways. I light up a cigarette and/or a cigar once in a blue moon, but having this **** fume all over the place all the time is just nasty
OnlyJake Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? I wouldn't even consider him for a short term relationship. In fact, I probably wouldn't be able to get close enough to him to even go on a first date. Not even getting into all the reasons it's nasty and unhealthy that were probably already covered over the last two pages, I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. Probably one of the best things to ever happen to me was the banning of smoking in bars and restaurants in most states.
Kristine Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 2-3 packs a day is a dealbreaker for me. However they guy I'm seeing smokes a 1/2 pack a day he says. Never has smoked in front of me. And when he told me he smoked it wasn't a deal breaker, although I'm supposedly allergic to cigarette smoke.
carhill Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? Absolutely not. When a mature adult likes to smoke, for whatever reason, I accept that. My dad quit one day before he died. That's how my mom knew he was going to die. That was back in the days when you could smoke in the hospital. I've been a lifelong non-smoker who hated the blue haze of his childhood (though I respected my parents immensely) and would never live like that personally.
jw90063 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Say you meet someone who goes through 2-3 packs a day. Would you consider them for a long term relationship? Of course not. First off, if they smoke 2-3 packs a day, that's horrible. Even if they said they would quit, forget it. The damage is done IMO. I want a guy who takes care of themselves , and smells good too. I'm not kissing someone who smokes a lot either. If a guy smokes period, its a deal breaker, but only exception if they don't smoke much to begin with, and are in the process of actually quitting. They absolutely can't smoke around me, because of second hand smoke, and I'm allergic to smoke. Funny thing is, my ex lied to me, and said he quit, but come to find out he never quit. Due to the distance, we didn't see each other much, so that made it easy for him to continue. Also, he never smelled like smoke, and I don't think he smoked that much. Still, I'm glad I'm not dating him now, and especially since he lied about it.
meerkat stew Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Is this they guy you went out with recently? If so, don't assume that he smokes that much based on multiplying what he smoked while drinking and out at night. I smoked for years out and while drinking, and on long party nights, could smoke a whole pack (including handing them out to cig bums) but only a trivial amount during the day if any, maybe 3-4 cigs, and many days none at all. There are lots of "party" smokers out there. He could very well be a two pack a day smoker, but wouldn't assume that just because he had five cigs while drinking. As far as the thread topic, no, as an ex-smoker, I couldn't date a regular smoker. No prob with infrequent party smokers though.
citygal1 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I would consider dating an light / occassional smoker if he didn't smoke around me. But I definitely wouldn't date a man who smokes that much.
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