Forgotten Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 :(So long story short I wanna move on more than anything. When I go out with my friends its inevitable I think of my ex. I would like to hear some ideas of how to make this happen!! Whats worked?!?!?
paleblue Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 keeping yourself busy, meeting new people & TIME. lots and lots of time.
D-Lish Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I don't know how I do it- perhaps by mixing one part denial with 2 parts self righteous indignation and a splash of self respect. But seriously. no matter how upset I am, I just refuse to give in or look back. I'm quick to break up with someone at the faintest red flag- because experience has taught me to trust my instincts and cut my losses. The best way to turn things around is to immerse yourself in something that improves you. Turn that energy wasted on grieving into making yourself better. It might be going to the gym, going back to school, diving into a hobby- anything that makes you feel better about yourself.
nomad0792 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Well said D-lish I probably would add lots of masturbation...lots. Okay, it's a joke, but damn...I just need to laugh sometimes. Was it even funny?
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Well said D-lish I probably would add lots of masturbation...lots. Okay, it's a joke, but damn...I just need to laugh sometimes. Was it even funny? Well I'd say it's true...but I giggled a little bit in my head... There's only one thing as previously mentioned...TIME... And of course the second one...someone new...but TIME always works...
Meaplus3 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 :(So long story short I wanna move on more than anything. When I go out with my friends its inevitable I think of my ex. I would like to hear some ideas of how to make this happen!! Whats worked?!?!? Disatraction is the VERY helpful. Anything fun that can take your mind of your ex. Like a hobby, sport, time spent with family. Just simply keep yourself busy.. and those thoughts should become far and few between. Good luck to you. Mea:)
Author Forgotten Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Thanks!!! Keep them coming... I found I was staying so busy to avoid it I was not spending time on myself. I started going to the gym and am out with friends a lot but he always pops in my head then I start the analyzing process wondering why it didnt work?!
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 ...but he always pops in my head then I start the analyzing process wondering why it didnt work?! Nothing at this point will completely distract you from your ex...I assure you that you will think of him from time to time...but that's ok, it's part of the coping process...those that deal with these issues and learn to cope with this loss are the ones that truly move on... But like everyone says, you do these activities, go out with friends, learn a new skill, etc. not only to distract you from thinking about the ex, but to make you a better individual...to get you back to where you were emotionally before you were in that relationship... However, those that rush into new relationships or turn to stuff like drugs/alcohol in an attempt to sweep their broken relationship under the rug never truly learn to deal with their breakups...and they usually turn out to be crazy...
GrayClouds Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Write. Old school pen on paper. Every night write fast and long. Write what you miss, what you hated, what you wish you said, what you wish you could say. It is not about grammar, or spelling or punctuation. Just write what is in your head and get it out. Write until you can write any more. Then do the same the next night and keep doing it until you do not have any more to write. It helps. .
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