broncosfrk83 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Im doing a lot better now than where i was a month ago when my ex gf dumped me but i still am hoping she comes back. Idk if she did even if i would take her back but i still want her to lol. But everyday i hope she tries to contact me. Everytime the phone rings i hope its her or when i get a text i hope it is her. Days have defiently been getting easier but why do i still want her so badly? I mean she left me and claims to have lost her love for me. Yes i got that i love u im just not IN love with u. Just wish i would stop wanting her so badly.
dyzfunctioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I know what it's like to want someone back... I certainly don't know how to get over it but just know you're not alone man. The hoping every phonecall/text part is the worst.
Zeegagge Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Been there and it gets better, thats all I can say for now.
nomad0792 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yep, yep...right there with you guys. I'm at the stage where I'm realizing it's really done and over with. 10 wks of NC as of tonight and I'm still crying...yes crying...there, I said it. I'm a grown-ass man and I'm crying like a ****ing baby.
HLP234 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Its tough but hang in there. I have been doing NC for about 2 months now. I still want her after she left me even though what she did was immature and pointless..took advantage of me. Its because you put your heart and soul into it and the other person just wasn't thinking like you. It will always be tough but when you get to a point where you don't care its easier to get them out of your mind. About the crying, I know what its like, usually some nights if I don't go out and I just stay at home it really gets to me. I've been going out a lot more than I ever had before and trying to meet more people. Its the only way I can keep myself busy because even if I'm doing work or studying its only a matter of time before it kicks back in.
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Thanks for the support guys. She just contacted me on Facebooks chat. I think i handled it well. Let me know what you guys think. Tara hey 1:24pmMike hi 1:24pmTara hows it goin 1:25pmMike Pretty good. U 1:25pmTara good. we're havin a blast. lots of good skiing 1:25pmMike Thats good 1:26pmTara starsky is doing doggy day care today lol 1:26pmMike Oh well i bet he is having a blast. But hey i gotta go. I have a bunch of stuff goin on right now Just let me know if i did the right thing. She never answered after i said that. Is that good or bad?
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Gah now i just got a notification that she changed some of her quotes on facebook. I looked and all the ones i said or had something to do with me are all gone. Why does something so small like that hurt sooooo damn badly?
nomad0792 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Dude! What are you doing? NO LOOKING AT HER FB! SHE TOOK THEM DOWN COZ IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU BLEW HER OFF AND SHE'S REACTING TO YOUR "GOTTA GO" RESPONSE. If you don't look at her FB you won't know and ignorance is bliss and necessary in this sitch. How long has it been before this reach?
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 She tried small talk at the beginning of this week but i didnt really reply. I mean i was just thinking that she took them down because i blew her off but now im furious. I mean what the hell was the point in her doing that? After 3 years of an amazing relationship she is goin to actually just wash memories like those away. Im surprised she hasnt removed all pictures of us. She told me when we broke up that she didnt regret anything and that she will never forget the times we had, now she goes erasing ****. I just dont get it. Was blowing her off like i did the right thing to do? I mean if i want her back should i have continued the small talk? I mean i know she still wants to be "friends" and so she is throwing out the bread crumbs but gah dang leaving me is one thing but then acting like we never happened is worse.
nomad0792 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Damn...well, if she knows you look at her FB, then she's doing it to get a reaction out of you.
madrugada Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Hey broncos, I'm in the same spot you are in. My ex dumped me in October and it's been a real bitch of a ride since then. In the week after she broke up with me, she removed all of our pictures one by one from facebook. It was like having my teeth pulled and taking a punch to the gut at the same time. I unfriended her for the sake of my sanity. You do the same. It sucks, I know. You need to focus on you now. And go completely no contact. It doesn't matter what she has to say to you, she walked. She quit. F%ck that, you've got a life to live. Live it.
dyzfunctioned Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Hey broncos, I'm in the same spot you are in. My ex dumped me in October and it's been a real bitch of a ride since then. In the week after she broke up with me, she removed all of our pictures one by one from facebook. It was like having my teeth pulled and taking a punch to the gut at the same time. I unfriended her for the sake of my sanity. You do the same. It sucks, I know. You need to focus on you now. And go completely no contact. It doesn't matter what she has to say to you, she walked. She quit. F%ck that, you've got a life to live. Live it. I'm impressed with the moving on and living your life bit... it's tough to do and I hope both of you manage. I've done it before with other girls but it's not so easy this time, not when she's such a big part of your life. But good luck to you guys, I hope you manage.
ginyi1111 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I ended up drunk, calling my friends crying and sobbing myself to sleep last night....if it will get any easier, im still not there yet...
twinklecat Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Hey broncos, I'm in the same spot you are in. My ex dumped me in October and it's been a real bitch of a ride since then. In the week after she broke up with me, she removed all of our pictures one by one from facebook. It was like having my teeth pulled and taking a punch to the gut at the same time. I unfriended her for the sake of my sanity. You do the same. It sucks, I know. You need to focus on you now. And go completely no contact. It doesn't matter what she has to say to you, she walked. She quit. F%ck that, you've got a life to live. Live it. I can only say that I agree, cut off all contact. Sure I felt childish and even guilty as my ex was so damned set against cutting contact, but ya know, I love and respect myself way more, and wanted to protect myself from any further hurt as much as possible and move on with my life. So xmas eve, finally deleted him from facebook, myspace, you name it. I did notice the very next day some of my pics he had of me were missing from my photos on facebook, so he must have removed them...which to be honest was a relief, as I'd removed every trace of him about a week after the break up! It really has been the the best thing I have done, going no contact, so chin up and sorry to sound cliché but it will get better! x And madrugada, my rollercoaster ride all started in October too, how are you?
twinklecat Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 I ended up drunk, calling my friends crying and sobbing myself to sleep last night....if it will get any easier, im still not there yet... Hang in there, it really will get better . Hell 2 nights ago I was a mess (after going out for a drink might I add) and today I'm pretty good. Obviously it's your choice, but personally, I've learned to stay away from alcohol, it just makes things a whole lot worse.
dyzfunctioned Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Hang in there, it really will get better . Hell 2 nights ago I was a mess (after going out for a drink might I add) and today I'm pretty good. Obviously it's your choice, but personally, I've learned to stay away from alcohol, it just makes things a whole lot worse. this is actually great advice... honestly, this is coming from someone for who the past 6 months has been a borderline alcoholic. but once me and my girlfriend broke up I actually stopped drinking for the most part and have been getting better everyday.
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 Thanks for the advice guys but theres still something i still dont quite get. I am changing myself for me and her. Yeah i know u shouldnt change how u are for someone but i was a different person when we started dating and we both gradually went into a rut. Since our break up, i have begun to do all the things i use to and i now realize where i went wrong. I do want her back. So how am i suppose to show her this change without seeing her? I mean i dont wanna see her and her think im ok with being friends because im not. But yet i dont want to totally remove myself either because i know she needs to miss me but if ive changed do i still just move on? Any advice would be awesome.
sharkhunter Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Thanks for the advice guys but theres still something i still dont quite get. I am changing myself for me and her. Yeah i know u shouldnt change how u are for someone but i was a different person when we started dating and we both gradually went into a rut. Since our break up, i have begun to do all the things i use to and i now realize where i went wrong. I do want her back. So how am i suppose to show her this change without seeing her? I mean i dont wanna see her and her think im ok with being friends because im not. But yet i dont want to totally remove myself either because i know she needs to miss me but if ive changed do i still just move on? Any advice would be awesome. Dude you're gonna drive yourself crazy. Don't have ANY more contact with her. Don't go to her FB page.If she calls dont answer, if she texts delete it, dont even read it. Delete her # on your phone. get rid of her email address, if she wants you back, she will find a way to contact you.
Author broncosfrk83 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Hey guys i think im going to send her an email telling her that i just cant be her friend and that Im going to block her on facebook because of my own sanity and im not trying to be a dick. What do you guys suggest? I just dont want her to still be trying to figure things out and i piss her off.
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