beach211 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) I'm married to a real jerk, verbally abusive, don't want to be married to him anymore but its sooo hard to leave. We have 2 kids-10 and 14, 2 dogs, house, cars, boat. I would have to move in with mom and dad and my husband would make my life more of a hell than what he does now. I don't know if i have the strength. Edited January 23, 2010 by beach211 Title should say i need some advice!!!
Brooke79 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Unfortunately I know all too well the predicament you are in. You build a life and invest so much that walking away seems almost impossible. I know you feel stuck and trapped and it seems like you are not able to go forward with your life as you wish and that can really crush your spirit. It won't be easy but if you make a plan and chop it up into small doable things you can somehow feel as though you are climbing out of the rubble. Although for both of us we have a long way to go, but hopefully it comforts you to know that you are not alone in going thru this and many before us have picked up the pieces, moved on and found happiness afterwards.
Author beach211 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 I left off advice on my title, so embrassing!!!!!! thanks for your words of encouragement good luck to u.
mikeymad Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 maybe you could give us a little more information regarding the relationship. I know as far as myself and some others here, take the position of trying to salvage the relationship, and only ending things as a LAST resort. You did make a commitment remember, and that means to love and try to work on things even when you don't feel like it.
floridapad Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Beach, Definately need more details. Verbally abusive? Was he always this way or did it get worse over time. How did YOU change over time. You "say" you want out of the marriage but would you rather have a loving marriage or is this man truly an ahole (You did marry him afterall :-)? You know the old saying Beach "Keep it real". Thats what LS is all about. Being real and honest with yourself when talking about your situation. We would love to hear more and you will receive an incredible amount of insight and you will have learned a great deal about relationships and yourself.
tnttim Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 You are going to get a lot of men posting here from that title alone. If you make a plan and stick to it, it will be a lot easier mentally and physically. Start small and work your way up to the big plan. There are a lot of things you can do that will help the D or recon, I would start with those. Fix a bad habit you have, go out, or start a new hobby.
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