Just found out my live-in boyfriend is into gay porn,,,,

[Llamalove]

I, by accident, found all the searches on the computer relating to gay porn! He has wiped all the history from the computer ,,however there is a search bar that shows all the searches done in the past few weeks,,,word for word what one would type in the Google search,,I know because all mine are there too! This computer also has a default email,,,not hotmail, which we both use,,and a I found a email he replied to for a personal ad on craigslist for a "M4M"....He has of course denied all of it,,however it is so obvious!!! Now I amm all for a persons own sexuality,,however when in a relationship you would think you would talk to your partner about it,,and personally if thats his interest,,thats fine,,I am just not that girl to be dating a bi-sexual guy!! I want him to leave,,asap,,do you think I am over reacting??? What any of you ladies do?

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I, by accident, found all the searches on the computer relating to gay porn! He has wiped all the history from the computer ,,however there is a search bar that shows all the searches done in the past few weeks,,,word for word what one would type in the Google search,,I know because all mine are there too! This computer also has a default email,,,not hotmail, which we both use,,and a I found a email he replied to for a personal ad on craigslist for a "M4M"....He has of course denied all of it,,however it is so obvious!!! Now I amm all for a persons own sexuality,,however when in a relationship you would think you would talk to your partner about it,,and personally if thats his interest,,thats fine,,I am just not that girl to be dating a bi-sexual guy!! I want him to leave,,asap,,do you think I am over reacting??? What any of you ladies do?

 

 

 

This isn't about "ladies" !!!

 

I'm a guy - and you are right on the money!!

 

End it immediately, to save yourself the inevitable.

 

You'd be lucky if he were "bisexual".

 

Straight guys cringe at gay porn.

[H1N1]

Ditto the previous post. He's gay.

 

I've never believed in bi-sexuality. I think that someone is either mostly straight or mostly gay. I think that "bisexuals" are really just confused homosexuals, and in fewer cases, confused heterosexuals. I supposed there are a few genuine bisexual people out there but I think the numbers are exaggerated. They call it sexual preference for a reason: people genuinely prefer one over the other, not both.

 

Try not to be irate at your boyfriend. I know it must be shocking and then some, but I think he was probably just confused and didn't know how to deal with it. Be supportive to the extent that you can, but end it and move on with your life.

[Peter Attis]

I'm sorry, but this is really ****ing hilarious.

[Angel1111]

This would totally gross me out if I were dating a guy like this. I agree that people have a right to their sexual preference, but I don't want to date a guy who's into other guys. I would leave so fast he would only see a blur.

[H1N1]

Unless he's had sex outside the relationship, there's no need to be mad about this. He is who he is. Would have been nice if he would have told you, but he was probably confused, and there are still a lot of social circles in which coming out is hard.

 

The best thing you can do is to confront him and let him know that you know the deal. Be a friend if you can, but you guys need to start making other plans with other people. It's as simple as that.

[alphamale]

I want him to leave,,asap,,do you think I am over reacting???

you should kick him out and never talk with him again

[SincereOnlineGuy]

 

I've never believed in bi-sexuality. I think that someone is either mostly straight or mostly gay. I think that "bisexuals" are really just confused homosexuals, and in fewer cases, confused heterosexuals. I supposed there are a few genuine bisexual people out there but I think the numbers are exaggerated.

 

The term "bisexual" has become nothing beyond a way to pave the way for the self-designated wearer of the label to introduce current and prospective mates to the idea that they are going to cheat, eventually.

 

Then, at the point when the cheating is disclosed (one way or the other), the self-proclaimed "bisexual" points back at the initial conversation in which he/she spoke of his/her bisexuality, as if that absolves him/her of any guilt or impropriety.

 

I wish they would instead take care of their chaotic pasts before entering into the relationship with their next victims.

[Llamalove]

Thank you everyone,,I appreciate your input!! I did confront him and at first he said he was interested in the idea,,over the past few days his story has changed quite abit. Well he has moved out,,trying to make me feel guilty for "having in my mind he is gay,,so nothing he can say".... He wont talk about the email he responded to tho,,lol!! My sense is he is having sex with men,,which is good for him if thats what hes into!! I am still abit hurt and angry that I wasted my time with him!!

 

Life will go on,,thanks again all!!!

[Crazy Magnet]

Yeah, run away from that one. Turns out my exH was all into men.....not for me! Glad to know he moved out, now keep him out!!

[cashew]

I, by accident, found all the searches on the computer relating to gay porn! He has wiped all the history from the computer ,,however there is a search bar that shows all the searches done in the past few weeks,,,word for word what one would type in the Google search,,I know because all mine are there too! This computer also has a default email,,,not hotmail, which we both use,,and a I found a email he replied to for a personal ad on craigslist for a "M4M"....He has of course denied all of it,,however it is so obvious!!! Now I amm all for a persons own sexuality,,however when in a relationship you would think you would talk to your partner about it,,and personally if thats his interest,,thats fine,,I am just not that girl to be dating a bi-sexual guy!! I want him to leave,,asap,,do you think I am over reacting??? What any of you ladies do?

 

Oh, wow. No, I don't think you're overreacting. Cruising Craigslist? Oh, no, no, no, no, NO!

[SuburbanOblivion]

I would be far less concerned about the type of porn than him trying to cheat on you and lie about it, but whatever the case it sounds like it worked out for the best.

[Eeyore79]

He replied to a personals ad while he was in a relationship with you... whether it was an ad for a man or a woman makes no odds, the point is that he was connecting with someone else while he was with you. Bisexuality is no excuse for cheating; you did the right thing in kicking him out.

 

As far as gay porn goes, I don't have a problem with it. I'm straight, but when it comes to porn I like some girl-on-girl action - it gets me hot, but I have no desire to actually have a relationship with a woman. What sort of porn a guy watches is irrelevant imo, unless it's something freaky and dangerous... as long as he's faithful, that's the important thing. He clearly isn't faithful, so you're well rid of him.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Thank you everyone,,I appreciate your input!! I did confront him and at first he said he was interested in the idea,,over the past few days his story has changed quite abit. Well he has moved out,,trying to make me feel guilty for "having in my mind he is gay,,so nothing he can say".... He wont talk about the email he responded to tho,,lol!! My sense is he is having sex with men,,which is good for him if thats what hes into!! I am still abit hurt and angry that I wasted my time with him!!

 

Life will go on,,thanks again all!!!

 

This clarifies it - he is having sex with men all right!!

 

He is too weak to even admit it when he's on the cross and dead to rites.

[clueless haha]

@ the OP

you are not over reacting