timmytak Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 So who is more important for you ladies? Friends or the BF? say you have been dating 11 months. I would also like to know why the friend is more important or why the BF is more important...
OnlyJake Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 So who is more important for you ladies? Friends or the BF? say you have been dating 11 months. I would also like to know why the friend is more important or why the BF is more important... Friends are more important than boyfriends. Husbands are more important than friends. Can you be more specific about your situation?
USMCHokie Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'm a boy. A girlfriend is at the same level as any of my good friends. A wife would probably trump the friends...most of the time... A boyfriend would be at the same level as my mailman.
Author timmytak Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Alright well this is what happened my gf bestfriend came down from out of town and she told me she would not be seeing me as much because she would be hanging out with her, I was fine with that. She has seen her bestfriend and her other girlfriends everyday now for the the past 7 days, well her friend that came down is not hanging out with them tonight I did however see her yesertday but we were with her friends so we did not spend time alone, so today we talk and she was like we are gonna have another girls night out, I was like fine. Then I find out that her friend who came from out of town would not be with them and I got kind of upset because she did not invite me out or wanted to spend time with me, but she said she would come see me tomorrow, i am just upset because she has been hanging out with her friends every single day and making them seem more important then me, I dont even get to see her every single day. not sure if i should put up with it, I however put my girlfriend up there with my friends and I dont care about boys night out if i go hang out with my friends I always ask her to come, her however does not feel the same way as I do and I am not sure what I should do. I talked to her on the phone about this earlier and I was like I like how your friends are more important than me; than she calles me a drama queen I dont know. what do you guys think?
OnlyJake Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Alright well this is what happened. My gf's bestfriend came down from out of town and my gf told me she would not be seeing me as much because she would be hanging out with her bff. I was fine with that. She has seen her bestfriend and her other girlfriends everyday now for the the past 7 days. Well, her friend that came down is not hanging out with them tonight. I did, however, see my gf yestertday; but we were with her friends so we did not spend time alone. So today we talk and my gf was like we are gonna have another girls' night out, I was like fine. Then I find out that her friend who came from out of town would not be with them and I got kind of upset because she did not invite me out or want to spend time with me. She said she would come see me tomorrow, though. I am just upset because she has been hanging out with her friends every single day and making them seem more important then me, I dont even get to see her every single day. Not sure if i should put up with it, because I put my girlfriend up there with my friends and I dont care about boys night out. If i go hang out with my friends I always ask her to come. She, however, does not feel the same way as I do and I am not sure what I should do. I talked to her on the phone about this earlier and I was like I like how your friends are more important than me; than she calles me a drama queen I dont know. what do you guys think? Whoa timmytak, slow your roll! I did a really quick edit of your post so that it was easier to read. Personally, I'm inclined to agree that you're a clingy lil drama queen That's based only on my views of friendships and relationships, and the details of the situation as you gave them. I suspect there's more to the story though. How long have you two been dating? I take it that this is abnormal behavior for her? As in, you two normally see each other every day? What is she doing on her girls' nights out?
Stung Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'd be annoyed with her for dismissing me by calling me a drama queen rather than listening to my concerns, personally. That being said you do say she is running around with her girlfriends like this because one of them is visiting from out of town, right? And normally she spends more time with you? Then I would let this go and be glad she has a life and is having a good time.
tami-chan Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 BF! if he is someone I have a future with! BUT...I hope I never have to choose....I love my friends.
Satisfaction Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I think her behaviour is a little odd so you ask her what is going on. Outside of your situation I think that friends should come first because men/partners come and go and normally when you finish with an ex you never really speak again. Friends are the ones who will always be there the ones you can talk to when relationships come to an end.
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